I’m not looking for advice. I know therapy is the answer, and I’m getting that even though I know I could use more. But how the hell am I supposed to feel about the ex telling me she has started dating?

Background, separated for 6 months, separation agreement from a mediator in place for the past 3 months, and uncontested divorce pending the mediator finishing the divorce agreement and submitting it to the court (NYS). 2 children. It has been fairly amicable.

Today she informed me she was dating someone and wanted to have him over for dinner with the children. I was calm (trying so hard to maintain grey rocking and not say something stupid). But I did insist that I wasn’t comfortable with her introducing him to them yet.

There was no cheating and I haven’t even considered dating anyone since I left her. But WTF? How can she rationally think it’s time to introduce someone new to them already? I know I’ve seen many horror stories on here that make this look pretty innocent, but she was the one who kept warning me not to bring anyone new around the kids just 3 months ago, now it’s fine for her?