“Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships.” • Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood: Prophecies and Discourses on Sexual Politics 🤍👩🏻‍🤝‍👩🏾

2340000 · 2022-03-31T01:51:22+00:00

Unfortunately this is why I believe some women will forever have internalized misogyny - no matter how hard you try. Despite experiencing their fathers, husbands, friends, and bf's violence, they still live in denial. I've witnessed this with my mother and it saddens me.

If women de-centered men it'd be easier to live in reality. If you often socialize with men outside dating, not only are forcing yourself to see the men you know as "good", but you're subconsciously filtering your language to not upset men who'd retaliate if you don't flirt with them, are anti-porn, or anything remotely rad-fem.

seraphinelysion · 2022-03-31T01:58:17+00:00

Idk about anyone else here, but I don't feel "agony" knowing the truth about men and patriarchy. I feel a higher sense of freedom. Freedom from unrealistic beauty standards. Freedom from the Disney fairytales. Freedom from the sham of marriage. When you de-center men from your life, it frees you to focus on other, better, more worthwhile things.

cml678701 · 2022-03-31T08:10:41+00:00

I used to go around proclaiming I wasn’t a feminist, but I didn’t understand what feminism was. I thought feminists were all about things like 50/50 and porn, and the only way you could be against these things was to be an anti-feminist and traditional woman. It was a game changer to realize that you can be a feminist because you have these views! Radical feminism fits me way better than liberal feminism.

basuragoddess · 2022-03-31T03:41:34+00:00

I feel this quote deeply. I started working at my current job (in a male-dominated industry) almost a year ago, and I would hang out after work to bond with my mostly-male coworkers. Every day I witness sexist comments and behavior, and it is horrifying & disheartening to fully understand the depth of their disregard for women as a whole. One of my male coworkers even coerced me into drunkenly sleeping with him, which was awful. Several months ago I stopped staying after work and started focusing on my ‘real life’ instead.

I also feel the comments that say it’s freeing though, because it really was freeing to stop caring how these men inherently view me and start focusing my energy on my own come up. I’ve always set a precedent of not tolerating disrespect from anyone I work/interact with, so now my only job is to create results for myself.

I have disdain for men, but I love the women in my life so much more than I don’t care for men. I feel like you have to go through the agony and disgust before you can come out on the other end free and powerful.

relationship_reddit · 2022-03-31T13:41:34+00:00

I love this ♥️♥️♥️.

I am so grateful now to see women as friends and fellow victims of the patriarchy, instead of threats and competition. I mean, I am still unlearning that of course, and always will be, but my eyes have been opened so much.

You are beautiful, ladies. You are strong. You are smart. You are worthy of the best. Love to you all.♥️

ceramicunicorn · 2022-03-31T04:38:03+00:00

Same. I don’t hate men. I just love women, and their contributions, and want the best possible deal for them, because historically they haven’t gotten it. I just get angry with men when they purposefully stand in the way of her getting said deal.

radfem_babe · 2022-03-31T22:29:40+00:00

Anyone who doesn't feel the agony of misogyny, should read the Foot Binding Chapter in Andrea Dworkin's Woman Hating. Your tune will change real quick.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-04-01T06:06:20+00:00

I believe a lot of the hatred is because they know they will never experience or be a part of hmm… I dunno how to describe it… female magic bond that we feel deep down.

I have lived in other countries, I have served in the peace corps, I have traveled and I am convinced of the innate female bond that is shared every single place I have ever been.

I can see why they would envy it. But unlike females they envy and seek to destroy.

Being a not the fun type of feminist sucks because of the reality, but it also makes me appreciate this bond we all share. Men don’t have it the same way we do. They don’t help out another without gaining something.

FDS-GFY · 2022-03-31T18:45:19+00:00

Felt this in my fucking soul

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-04-01T17:22:24+00:00

"Hatred of men"

Full stop...

Because being pro-woman and against men having their thumbs in ALL our businesses ALL THE DAMN TIME is mIsAnDrYy.

I don't call myself feminist any more because they've allowed men into it...and I'm sick of it. Every time women get a tiny space carved out for themselves, a little cozy home, people (mostly women) cry out "What about the men?? What about their rights??"

Until women stop getting trafficked from across the globe and have their boundaries repeatedly questioned and the better care of mothers and maternity leave and equal pay, THEN I'll listen. Not to mention...PORN STILL EXISTS!!!

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