and they want women over 30 to just... disappear? hide in a basement somewhere? this queen is goals! title is" why can't I be sexy at 71". LVM in fumes! gross is sexualizing teenagers and 20 somethings and preying on them! gross is drooling over 16 year olds when LVM are their dad's age!

drowsypillowprincess · 2022-04-10T13:26:33+00:00

If she’s happy, great. I don’t see an issue with this. I think society expects older women to disappear into shapeless frocks and short permed hair that allow them to perform societies thankless but most valuable labor (motherhood, caretaking, cleaning, homemaking, nursing, service jobs, etc.) as invisibly as possible. Anything that subverts that norm is awesome, IMO.

However, I do worry about this pressure to “age sexily.” I’m not saying that’s this woman’s message at all. But there’s this idea that if a woman wants to remain relevant past a certain age, she has to continue to be some version of patriarchy-approved attractive. And that’s exhausting. Men can look like sewer trolls and still be seen as valuable to society.

Sorry if this comes off jumbled, but, if I’m dating at 71, I sure as hell don’t want to be attracting the type of person who thinks I have to look 40 at 71.

In the same vein, I also don’t want to be forced into a rocking chair with a bad perm and some knitting either. I hope I’m living my best life at 71 in a healthy body styled to my liking, doing the things I want to do.

Commercial_Place9807 · 2022-04-10T15:13:22+00:00

This is interesting from a sociological point of view. Is a 71 year old still “looking hot” empowering or is it sad that she’s still striving to conform to male approved beauty standards?

As someone who’s fought my weight my entire life, I know what happens to women when all of a sudden they’re not conforming. Society is swift in its refusal to acknowledge you as a human, you essentially become invincible.

I imagine this is extremely hard for women as they age, especially if they always did manage to get that validation and then they hit a certain age and it stops. It’s probably confusing to have that validation snatched away.

I agree with what someone else said, that we don’t do anything in a vacuum. Like it or not everything we do as women is affected by and influenced by the patriarchy and our devalued place in society. This hit me like a brick one day regarding makeup, I always said “I wore makeup for myself”, but once I was in a stable relationship and my partner was visiting his family for several months all of a sudden I stopped wearing makeup, that’s when I had to accept that I did not do it for myself and that the patriarchy had influenced me.

ceramicunicorn · 2022-04-10T23:42:36+00:00

There is a lot of disagreement on this woman’s intentions for doing the surgeries and the squat down in 5 inch heels for the camera and other potentially harmful beauty practices in the comments.

I’ll just say that at least I have some context via the other suggested videos on this channel (click the little “i”), which include “30 year age gap couple reveal baby surprise” and “my hot gran gets attention from 18 y/o boys”.

It’s no wonder that the tone of the video has some antennas up with respect to this potentially being about sitting firmly in patriarchal standards (which bothers a lot of women here). It’s likely a lot of what this channel does, and users here picked up on the vibe.

Novemberinthechair · 2022-04-10T23:27:17+00:00

Men never got over statutory rape laws. There was a time when men could marry a 13-year-old. Look up Charlie Chaplin's dating life. But abolitionists got involved and helped invent the category "minor."

Not all guys whine about this. But some men start going on and on about how evolution means adult men should impregnate tweener girls. Cavemen, blah-blah...

Tweener girls statistically don't have viable pregnancies and their mortality rate goes up if they are pregnant. Men's sperm ages quickly after 25. Also, men used to die often before they reached middle age -- if we're talking about ancient times. The only healthy, modern solution is young women having babies with young men. Or women having babies with men whose sperm doesn't resemble slow, cross-eyed dust bunnies.

saint-jezebel · 2022-04-10T15:21:42+00:00

I watched some of it and while I get the point of many posters, I think some of us are getting stuck on one focal point and not looking at the forest as a whole.

All of a woman’s life, we are told that we are only good for one thing and after a certain age, we need to go in closet and hide because no one will want us. We’re ugly, we’ve hit the wall and we are useless to society unless it’s unpaid. I can look at the thotty pippen outfit, I can look at the young girls, I can look at a multitude of things, but how many 65+ women do any of you know that are looking, acting and thinking like her? But we question why she isn’t in a tik tok with 65+ women? Her mind is sharp, her speech is clear and quick and she speaks with an energy that is ALIVE. Meanwhile, people are 50-60 forgetting things and I’m not just talking about “this slipped my mind” and talking like they have all day. Huffing and puffing after a few words. How?

Day in, day out, it’s “women have a shorter life span when married” “women are at higher risk for heart disease” probably because of men 🤭 “single women live longer” “women have better support systems” but all I’ve read so far is that she’s seeking male validation. So what she’s wearing makeup. So what her clothes look young, hell, I get frustrated looking for an all black sport bra in mostly anywhere I go to find one and forget about black or dark grey pants. When you’re fit, you’re fit. I know a 50yr old woman who is built like a brick house, so you can’t argue she’s aging sexy because that’s her body. People like to argue “sexiness” when it’s on intentional display but not when it’s silent.

I think overall, her message is needed for young and older adolescents especially because society is so hard on women and she is showing she’s good. She not letting society dispose of her. Many of us don’t realize 40 isn’t old until you get there and realize it’s not. Again, not dismissing her outfit and other things argued, because they are valid, but the cherry picking makes for nuanced subjects which delineates from the fact that you create your own version of happiness.

ceramicunicorn · 2022-04-10T13:30:01+00:00

She does look amazing! Congrats to her!

On the other hand, why the trying to channel the club look of a 20 year old? It's her life of course, but this path usually leads to anguish. It often does even if your 40 years younger. Plus those heels are dangerous. One tumble and she might need a walker. Those are dangerous even to a young woman.

I'm about 20 yes younger, getting more gray hairs etc, and maintaining my skin has been tough after menopause. That was the really only downer for me post menopause.

I'm in terrific shape. Bragging here, but I've worked on it. I like looking good when I'm in out and about. I have a hard time finding clothes that don't look juvenile. I seek out clothing that is classy - I buy used clothing. My senior fashion goals are to channel the stylish looks of sophisticated European women of the early 60s with a modern touch. Think large dark sunglasses and a silk scarf, etc. I want to wear my age well. That's the usual comment I get and I appreciate it.

She's only setting herself to be harassed and ridiculed. I wish she wouldn't take this path.

anatdona · 2022-04-10T14:14:17+00:00

I looooove her!!!! She is amazing and alive and so into her own thing; can't belive some people give her hate.

thelionmermaid · 2022-04-10T12:08:14+00:00

Tbh I’m not going to watch this. The idea that a woman at ANY AGE has to wear short dresses with cutouts and high heels, have hairless legs, a wrinkle-less face and beachy-blonde dyed hair to be “sexy” AKA worthy of the male gaze is astoundingly twisted.

If she were doing it for herself I’d cheer her on. But by putting herself out here like this it’s clear she’s looking for male validation even at her age and that doesn’t align with my values, and likely not with FDS values.

Thoughts?

EDIT: I watched a little bit. I love the fact that she’s trying to promote fitness, self-confidence, yadda yadda yadda but she’s very obviously trying to act like a millenial and not like her actual age. Why not do makeup looks to match (assumedly) her natural gray-white hair? Why not have other similar-aged women doing TikToks with her? Seems like a missed opportunity.

anahatasanah · 2022-04-10T17:03:56+00:00

What an inspiration, keeping that active! Bless her, f*CK the haters. 💖

__kamikaze__ · 2022-04-10T17:00:33+00:00

I applaud the fact that she’s in such great shape for her age. Very few people are able to achieve that.

I would probably style myself differently though. There’s a difference between looking good for your age, and not trying to look your age. I feel like she’s styled herself as a 20-something year old, and it’s obviously not believable which portrays the wrong message. She’d look more “graceful” (her words) styled differently.

Colour_riot · 2022-04-13T15:46:57+00:00

she looks good objectively and she also looks waaaaay better than many 18 year old male basement dwellers

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-04-10T20:46:48+00:00

Whew- a lot of internalized misogyny in these comments.

thowawaywookie · 2022-04-10T23:00:20+00:00

I'm finding it very difficult not to judge.

Watching the video and reading the comments, I felt almost compelled to.

That's how deeply this is ingrained.

I figure this is what she wants to do and I can validate that and be happy for her.

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-04-14T03:43:30+00:00

I’m finding all the negativity on this thread very hypocritical. The women on here are first to shout that there is no wall and then they’re talking about this woman because she enjoys looking trendy and showing off her body at 71? There could be a lot of reasons for that. First of all she’s a WOC who is 71. Maybe depending on where she grew up in the world she didn’t have the opportunity to do this when she was younger. Maybe she was oppressed by patriarchy and forced into that wife and mother mold. Maybe she’s reclaiming her body from previous assault. I don’t know what this woman has been through and neither does anybody here. But I know everyone has a story and most of them aren’t that pleasant. At the end of the day, she is doing something positive with her life. She’s connecting with young people, she is giving lessons and health and fitness, and she is looking amazing while she does it. If someone sees this and is inspired to start running or eating well so they can be this vibrate when they get into their golden years, that’s a beautiful thing. I love it personally.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-04-10T17:41:39+00:00

I'm sorry, but I don't want to be "sexy" like her when I'm 70. She isn't sexy, she is tacky and borderline trashy, like the whole point of her existence is to get random dicks hard. No.

Women are much more than asses and boobs, empty vessels that look fuckable. With age, women have so much more to offer than just looks, but for some reason this woman's main concern is to look sexy. And it's sad.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-04-10T19:43:41+00:00

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