How to Please Husband in the Bedroom?

stripe_throwaway · 2022-09-19T14:44:21+00:00

Honestly, talking about sex is the best way. My favorite time is immediately after sex and to start something small, like:

"It was so hot when you nibbled on my ear."

See where that goes. After doing something like that every single time, you'll eventually get a conversation about it.

xhealer2all · 2022-09-19T15:17:16+00:00

animalistic lust. dont over think it, just do it. do him however he ask of you in the boundaries that you and him have discussed. dirty talk is always appreciated.

try to initiate just as much as he does. if you dont know how to do it, just grab his johnson.

in the end all men just want to feel like the woman wants it just as much as he does. rejection hurts men a lot. just talk with him.

TheBunk_TB · 2022-09-19T16:49:01+00:00

Not to be sarcastic or in poor form, but make sure you are involved.

Think of ways to be involved. Think of things you could be doing and do them for him.

ConsumingFire1689 · 2022-09-19T14:09:39+00:00

Sex tends to be an outlet for a lot of things in people's lives regardless of whether they are a man or woman. A powerful trope that I think is true enough is that powerful women tend to prefer a passive or submissive role during sex as a way to shed the reigns of life while they are in bed. Your husband's tendency towards certain positions and leading could be as simple as not having a lot of control at work and/or, he may just really like your ass, that position feels the best, or that position offers him the greatest climax control (something he might value if he was taking steps to ensure he lasts long enough to satisfy you). As always the best idea would probably be to approach him about it. If you don't want to give the impression that you don't enjoy the face down position (which it doesn't sound like), you could always ask what things he wants to try but hasn't yet, or maybe ask to try something you want that hasn't been done yet.

_Pumpkin_Muffin · 2022-09-19T17:46:23+00:00

Are you happy with your sex life? Is he happy?

I've read your comments and it seems you guys do a few things already. They might all be things that put him in the active role, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. For some people, being in charge during sex, or seeing their partner's reactions, is part of the thrill. You can't know unless you ask him. Don't assume he's bored or unsatisfied.

On a practical note. If you want to spice things up, here is a really good guide on how to give oral (you just need to get past the ads and stupid links). Aks him if he'd like to change positions. Give him a massage. Undress in front of him. Compliment him. Share a fantasy. Would you be interested in some light BDSM play? It sounds like he might be interested, since he takes so often charge in the bedroom.

No one can tell what he would like except him.

neuromancerBG · 2022-09-20T15:18:15+00:00

Disclosure: I am a man.

1st - There is such a thing as foreplay with men. But its not the way you may think. We're hunters and we like to hunt. Foreplay for us comes in the time before sex. That means: Dress sexy and provocatively at home. Walk around with semitransparent night gown, bondage harness, sexy lingerie, etc. If he is with you he likes your body - so show it to him (with a slight veil of course, so there is that slight "just before you get it" titillation). This will get him excited - and being excited beforehand will make sex for him better.

2nd - When he has conquered the prey (that means he has sex with you), he literally feels accomplished by the fact that he's accepted as a sex partner. That means having that "deep into your soul gaze". In other words - look him straight in his eyes while you're enjoying the act (face of pleasure and ecstasy; during your orgasm is the best). If he is behind your back: Having sex in front of a mirror helps or contort your body so you can keep his gaze. The mere sexy cat like contortion where you raise your bottom is very sexy. Combine that with seeking his gaze - and boom! Instant turn on! If you do things right, you'll notice he starts ******* you a little harder - which will be due to his raising excitement level.

TLDR: Be a hunt-able prey. Enjoy being preyed upon.

P.S. And no, talking about sex will never get you this feedback. Because when you initiate a talk about sex - we will talk about the actual sexual act. (Remember, we're literal...). You need to get him sexually excited. Before the act and during the act. If you want to initiate a conversation with him about this, ask him "what gets you excited?".

Happy hunting!

sunglasses90 · 2022-09-19T14:50:39+00:00

Do you give him oral? That’s a good change up. Most men love it. Inviting him to shower with you and giving him oral in there is really nice if you’re up for it. Or actual shower sex is nice, but we have a marble shower so actual sex can get dangerous in there so I stick to oral most times.

All in all if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. But If you feel like being more adventurous I don’t think any man will turn that down.

2022-09-19T19:42:50+00:00

Ask him what he likes and how he likes it. By asking, he will gladly tell u what he prefers, will likely guide you, and thus, making him feel appreciated, wanted, and shows you are interested in his sexual needs.

To add to this, don’t be afraid to voice what u like and how u like it as well.

A successful sex life for long term couples means mutual responses and reciprocation to pleasure. Or so I’ve learned. I hope this helps! Happy marriage!

AdSufficient4268 · 2022-09-24T20:18:33+00:00

My husband and I have been taking the advice of sex guru Kim Anami. She has an awesome podcast called Orgasmic Enlightenment. She's a red pill woman and is just an overal badass. Her content might sound "woo-woo" like when she talks about genital sunning and using yoni eggs, but I swear she knows what she's talking about! I would recommend her episode called "How to Open and Surrender Sexually" The advice from this episode helped me achieve vaginal orgasm which was mind-blowing. And it's best achieved on all fours! ;) best wishes!

HogwartsLecturer · 2023-08-09T13:05:32+00:00

The answer is within you. Majority of women daydream about sex when they are in the mood. Take notes of what happens in your daydreams. It doesn’t have to be over the top but true to you. For example you imagine them in missionary chest-to-chest digging into you with their manhood or when he is hitting the back him grabbing your hair and slapping by your ass. These are an example but when in bed request this from him. Bring your fantasy to life is what I mean. If he is a good husband he will do this for you but remember consent is key.

LengthinessMuted7099 · 2022-09-19T15:51:02+00:00

Do you do anal?

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Title: How to Please Husband in the Bedroom?

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For context: I am newly married, but have been with my husband for five years. I love him dearly and think we have a great relationship. He is an amazing man.

The thing is, I am worried that I might let him down in the bedroom. When we have sex, he takes the lead and usually wants me on my stomach or on my hands and knees. We do it like this every time. He has never complained, but I am wondering if I should be doing more? What do you ladies do?

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earthscribe · 2022-09-19T23:05:34+00:00

Ride the dude froggy style, he'll enjoy that.

LocalCap5093 · 2022-09-19T22:25:03+00:00

I’d ask if he thinks of himself as a domme, switch or sub. My husband is very domme presenting but he is actually a switch lol and what really ‘spiced’ stuff up for us was me getting into that soft femdom role. It highlights my femininity while putting pressure off him and it’s diff for him so he likes it even more.

Usually we assume and categorize men as all dominant but it’s fun to switch up, unless your partner strictly likes being the dominant one

Zestyclose-Role2744 · 2022-09-20T07:41:41+00:00

Send him photos of things you want him to do to you, it will always lead to more discussions about sex and be sure that, keep sharing pictures between one another and it would improve the conversation fr

anothergoodbook · 2022-09-21T09:48:16+00:00

Show him how you like things. My husband likes when I’m responsive and that I’m enjoying it also. He doesn’t want to just be getting off on me. What I mean is to moan if you like something or say something like “oh that’s it” (well in a sexy way). Do not fake this - he will pick up on what you like and if you fake it there’s 2 things that happen: 1) you’re lying to your husband and it will seriously wound him and 2) you’ll be stuck with that “move” forever.

Take his hand and put it where you want if you want it somewhere.

My husband prefers sex talk to be more flirty and sexy - I mean not dirty talk, but when we are having the conversations about what we like and don’t like. It can be a bit clinical sometimes. But if you’re lying in bed, lights off - you can say something like, “so what’s something you really like during sex?” And when he mentions it - try it out on him. You can sort of innocently ask “so is this what you mean? Am I doing this right?”

In the end it will come down to what the both of you enjoy and it can be a fun process if you trust each other and relax into it. Those newlywed days were so much fun in that regard. Be playful and willing to laugh at yourself for the moments that whatever you try doesn’t work like you planned.

A couple of books I found helpful were sheet music and intended for pleasure. Both are Christian (sheet music not as openly Christian) but both have good ideas to help with conversation and with ideas of things to do :)

Edit: men like to please their wives (most men at least). I would venture a guess that you’ve shown the most interest in the position he chooses.

Title	How to Please Husband in the Bedroom?
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