I've noticed when I read editorials written about men. A and B are often societal and cultural building blocks, concepts that people need to understand and appreciate before they can do C, which is often an action.
Often times, when articles like this discuss men's issues, they'll focus only on the third step ("Why don't men do ______", while all chalking up the first two as an unknowable mystery.
in many conversations about men's problems we go directly to action. aka, men need to take action on their own. The societal changes needed for men to actually be able to take action are almost always ignored. They're expected to perform the action while the stigma still exists, instead of society getting rid of the stigma so that men can do the action. That won't work because it relies on the individual man to act, not on men as a whole or society as a whole. So the individual men who do the action will still be subject to stigma, receive negative feedback from society, and either stop doing the action or be labeled as some kind of degenerate.
This dumping of all responsibly onto the individual man to fix, and ignoring of society's impact on individual men's actions, always leaves me with a very "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" feeling. It's not constructive and it's unrealistic.
The hyperagency people often attribute to men is a huge problem. I've spent so much time trying to convince women that outdated gender norms/roles are restrictive and harmful for all genders, men absolutely included, only to run into this brick wall of "well if men don't like restrictive gender roles, they shouldn't have made the patriarchy." It makes no sense whatsoever if you've ever considered a single man to be a human person at any point in your life, and not just part of some ephemeral evil hive mind that exists somewhere beyond spacetime.
I think a thorough debunking of the idea that men made the rules is important. Both that men as a class did and that our social structures, from which we get damaging gender roles and expectations, are some kind of top down construction meant to unilaterally benefit all men at the expense of all women.
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