Is my lawyer bad?

atharakhan · 2023-03-12T14:25:53+00:00

Take a look at this: https://www.occourts.org/media/pdf/parenting-plan-guidelines.pdf

It has sample plans and what to think about when coming up with a plan.

Obligatory Disclaimer: I do not know where you live. This PDF is for California where I practice. I assume the consideration are similar.

gtivr4 · 2023-03-12T12:33:04+00:00

It’s not the length that matters necessarily. What does the plan say? Does it cover everything you need?

Spend some time doing some research and you will find tons of suggestions out there to compare to. Do the work yourself instead of paying your lawyer.

DntCareBears · 2023-03-12T11:31:37+00:00

Yes! I dont have the full details, but your lawyer has basically abandoned your case. What did he send over? Can you share?

WorkingItOutSomeday · 2023-03-12T12:52:17+00:00

1)you're lawyer sucks and had some paralegal doa quick Google search and sent you one of the top results as an example. Even if he's right, the firm should have their own examples. Also....they should have better manners understanding the level of stress you're in and support you need.

2) shorter the plan, the better. Less to fight and argue about later because the other party "didn't understand" and tries to screw you.

MightBusiness7231 · 2023-03-12T13:05:11+00:00

Parenting plans can be as detailed or short as you need. The courts don’t really care. If your spouse is the type that wants details the thinking out details it can help. If they’re combative the shorter the better.

DntCareBears · 2023-03-12T11:32:36+00:00

Do not sign that MSA! What are the proposed terms?

sicrm · 2023-03-12T12:21:04+00:00

take that plan to another lawyer that has experience in family law and see what they say.

rsmiley77 · 2023-03-12T16:16:00+00:00

I just can’t understand why you’d want to pay your lawyer 150 an hour to look up sample plans for you. I did not have my attorney do this and never expected her to. I wonder if your attorney is in another Reddit thread right now complaining how bad a client of theirs is that wants them to write up examples for the client to come up with a parenting plan? Probably chuckling while saying out loud that ‘I said fine, looked it up in google, and then billed him $250! Hahaha’

Seriously though I literally just googled ‘parenting plan’ and there were hundreds of options with every conceivable option right there. Man clearly y’all have stupid throw away money to burn at your leisure during your divorces. I didn’t. Still don’t. Do that stuff yourself and stop complaining about your attorney half ass’ing it.

Retying3043 · 2023-03-12T14:02:03+00:00

It is not your lawyer’s job to come up with a parenting plan. You write your own and submit it to your lawyer for review. There are sample plans and guides on your state courthouse’s website. Also check out custodyxchange.com. That website will walk you through building a parenting plan.

PoppinPMAGs · 2023-03-12T13:31:20+00:00

Can I add on this question a bit as Im in the same situation. We settled the main things, but my lawyer said ex's (petitioner) attorney had to draft the parenting plan and that his plans are notoriously vague (exact opposite of what I want). Is that correct, or can we draft our own (I already have quite a bit) obviously at my expense.

Uzzer_lozer19 · 2023-03-12T16:39:38+00:00

Just find an example online and amend it for your situation, the lawyers and judges would rather keep it as vague as possible as they really don't care as they want the case out the door. But either way if your partner doesn't agree then you'll have to compromise so it depends on what the judge feels is appropriate.

derelictherds · 2023-03-12T17:13:35+00:00

What's in the plan??

Rjs617 · 2023-03-12T17:50:12+00:00

What I’ve heard is that if the courts order a parenting plan, it will be pretty basic. That’s probably what your lawyer is used to.

My ex and I did ours with an experienced mediator, and he had many options and opinions about schedules, holidays, transition times, birthdays, vacations, and so on.

Title	Is my lawyer bad?
Author	mattehorn33
Upvotes	12
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Date	March 12, 2023 10:37 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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