Can you give me an example of where you have felt discriminated against because you are a man?

RapeMatters · 2018-05-18T18:31:49+00:00

I've had an employer explicitly refuse to promote me because they needed more women in management.

I've also been laughed at by police when I tried to file a claim regarding being raped by a woman.

Sasha_ · 2018-05-18T18:58:48+00:00

My ex-wife blinded me, and I was told wasn't 'domestic violence' because the attack didn't happen at our home. Consequently, she retained full custody of our three boys.

boardattheborder · 2018-05-18T18:45:34+00:00

I had the police called when I was taking a picture of my son at the park

majortom22 · 2018-05-18T18:52:18+00:00

When I told the female PhD psych that my ex would throw drinking glasses at my head she laughed.

azazelcrowley · 2018-05-18T19:03:47+00:00

Following a DV call where both me and my girlfriend agreed and signed off on the story that she attacked me, I was told by police I had to leave the premises for the night, despite no mens shelter being in the area and no alternative arrangement offered.

I went over a friends, as one lived nearby.

OutlandishMink · 2018-05-18T18:56:30+00:00

Compliments - Women don’t give men compliments because they’re men.
Paying for dates - The expectation by unpleasant women that you pay for dates.
Raising kids - The expectation that men have no parenting skills and are probably pedos.
Physical labor - The expectation that men do labor for women at work or in general.
Relationship skills - The expectation that men make worse partners than women.
Physical affection/emotional openness - The expectation that men are emotionless machines who don’t deserve physical affection.
Financial success - The expectation that men be more successful than their wives who are supposed to be their peers.
False rape accusations - Women are believed and when proven as liars they face no consequences.
Dress - Men have 1/6th the clothing options women do and are persecuted if they go outside a fairly lame box.
Laws - Men get put in jail but women walk for the same actions.
Physical protection - Men are expected to fight and die, women aren’t.
Hiring - Women receive 40% more interviews and women that are unmarried recent college graduates make 8% more than men in cities. Men have a harder time getting jobs than women.
Divorce - The courts are stacked against men to the point where it’s a meme. Divorce favors women 80% of the time in custody or finances.
The service, education and healthcare sector - Women are significantly favored in being teachers, bartenders/food servers, or in healthcare.
Dating - It’s 4 times easier to get a date as a woman than a man.
Reproductive rights - Children are a woman’s choice the man’s oppinion doesn’t matter.
Violence - Most men have been physically assaulted by men or women and this is fine. Yet it’s a public crisis if this happens to a woman.
Emotional support - Women have 4 times as much emotional support as men do.
Support groups - Women only groups are fine but groups for men only are essentially oppressed. See the recent change from the Boy Scouts no longer being a group for men etc etc.
Education - Teachers which are mostly women mark men 7.4% lower than women for the same work. Behavior issues in boys are treated much more harshly than for girls.
Media - Male models make 25% of what female models do on average. Yet we only care about actors.
The glass floor - Only 1 in 4 women are homeless.

I’ve personally experienced most of these.

iainmf · 2018-05-18T20:04:26+00:00

I called the police about being assaulted and they basically told me to man up.

Being asked to be present in a potential conflict in a security role even though it was not my job

subthrowaway321 · 2018-05-18T22:09:35+00:00

Family court. My ex wife was charged and found guilty of domestic violence twice while we were married. During the divorce trial, she asked for full custody, claiming I was abusive, a sent of any evidence or having ever been arrested for that, much less anything else. She cried a little bit, I saw through it because it was her typical manipulative bull shit I dealt with all the time. The commissioner hearing the case, who I found out later was elected with help from a bunch of feminist organizations, saying he would "go after" anyone who was abusive to women. Anyways, she said I was the abusive one, nevermind her multiple arrests for being abusive, and I lost custody, and pretty much everything else. Four years later and I'm still fighting for overnight visitation with my daughter.

Kyle_Fischer · 2018-05-18T20:13:26+00:00

I was physically assaulted in my honors English class, and the teacher asked me what I SAID to my abuser to make her slap me pretty hard in the back of the head.

Oh, and that time in the Army where I had to do a shit ton more pushups and situps and run two miles in far less time to max the PT test in relation to females. And PT test scores are part of the promotion point system.

That time where I had to check a box indicating that I registered with the Selective Service in order to get my student loan and register to vote. The Selective Service is the list of people they choose for the draft when it is ever instated.

Thankfully, I married a God fearing conservative woman, so I have never been divorced, but I have represented plenty of male clients who have been divorce raped.

Splatriarchy · 2018-05-18T20:13:44+00:00

I was living on my own and struggling to get through college financially. Everyday I'd look at the scholarships and grants available. I'm a healthy white male btw. There were scholarships for the blind, handicapped, asian, latino, and you guessed it females. Because I'm a white male I could not get financial aid to get through college. My parents claimed me as a dependent even though I lived on my own. My dad said it was because he hadn't taken me off of his medical insurance but I know he just raked in the taxes from me and it fucked me over. Thanks Dad.

majortom22 · 2018-05-18T22:59:56+00:00

Called in for a childcare job. I was at the time a young teacher (28 now) and had experience with volunteering. They heard my voice told me they were only hiring women and hung up.

Taught summer school once. Had some girls being inappropriate with me -I was the one scared though not them. If I had called a woman teacher hot in high school and touched her I would have been suspended or expelled. They thought it was just fine.

All the times I've been physically or sexually assaulted and it just doesn't matter. The women are so cavalier too -they aren't dumb they know they can grab, hit, whatever with impunity.

Could go on. You know the drill.

theedgeofthelord · 2018-05-18T19:14:19+00:00

Some men may feel discriminated against from being an infant, such as when they get a knife to the foreskin.

Some men feel discriminated against later in life, when they're shot in the head during a war they were drafted into, or had to go to in order to even have the right to vote.

Other men may feel discriminated against when sitting in their jail cell for mild theft, meanwhile proven murderers walk free after serving less time - infanticide in Australia and Canada - 5 years.

Other men may feel discriminated against when they go to prison for consensual sex in India for 10 years.

Some men may feel discriminated against when they are charged extra insurance, when they are turned away from housing for being male, when they are told to pay when entering a nightclub, when they are given less pay for the same results, when they are given lower grades for the same results. When they have a shared changing room meanwhile the women have a private one. When he has any involvement with law at all.

Everyone has rights violations worldwide, life itself can be a violation, but when it comes to discrimination there is clearly more male discrimination. Discrimination also takes place between the poor and the rich, between nations, between many things. Some of us experience these things and some of us don't, discrimination is only possible when laws enforce discrimarory policy. Unecessary bad things can happen to men and women because human rights are not respected or even interpreted correctly worldwide.

Drezzzire · 2018-05-18T23:19:59+00:00

I can’t get facials made with women’s clitoris and go on Ellen to brag about it

whatafoolishsquid · 2018-05-18T19:00:46+00:00

My dream is to be a sci-fi writer. Almost every single publication says they are looking for stories by women and people of color. I've been tempted to resubmit rejected stories under a female name to see what would happen.

FishNippleRings · 2018-05-18T18:32:04+00:00

When in college, I tried to apply for work at a lingerie store and was quickly escorted to the door. Does that count?

OnTheSlope · 2018-05-18T21:15:33+00:00

I called a rape crisis line and after unloading my experience on them I was told I couldn't use that line because I was a man. The only crisis lines I found for men never picked up.

I had my hours cut at work because a female server walked full force right into me while I was standing still and she hurt herself and felt uncomfortable.

I lose out on some tips at work because I'm busy moving lots of heavy shit around while the women continue working tables. Also at a previous job the women would help each other move plates out of the kitchen when there were no men around but as soon as I got on shift I would be the only one moving plates.

I've lost relationships with women by opening up and being vulnerable about abuse I've experienced. I don't think this happens to women.

This stuff is worth sharing, but not worth dwelling on.

Jaibamon · 2018-05-18T21:22:30+00:00

Military: Female soldier sleeps in our squad's office EVERY drill. She's constantly complaining of sickness. She's having sex with one of the male soldiers, and now he's only focusing on her while we're supposed to be training for deployment. The Sgt's don't do anything about her, but they smoke the shit out of the males for the slightest fuck up.

Also, in my basic training, females got out of morning physical training by simple complaining or by citing "female issues." But to keep the military atmosphere/vibe, males would be punished right afterwards.

jeff_the_nurse · 2018-05-18T23:51:39+00:00

Ladies night.

Nursing professors saying that “Maybe men shouldn’t be nurses.”

Women-only gyms and other facilities.

Title IX, though I was able to win my complaint and play girl’s volleyball.

Violence Against Women Act.

Women’s spaces.

Profiled while around children, including my own.

shit-zen-giggles · 2018-05-19T14:30:43+00:00

Being dismissed in the workplace in various ways because being male (despite better qualification and track record) by female superiors.

Denied/rejected on airbnb by female hosts because they only accept females. This is against the airbnb conditions of service. Airbnb did nothing when I reported it. The "I only accept female guests" as in the host's description text.

LethiasWVR · 2018-05-18T21:09:49+00:00

My first bully was a girl. From day one of school, she simply decided that she didn't like me (or, to hear some of the adults tell it, that she did) and would simply follow me around any time we weren't at our desks smacking me, pushing me, and generally being an abusive pain in the ass. She would tell me her dad would pay her to do these things, and basically just pick on me for being the small kid. Unfortunately, the only frame of reference 6 year old me had for a situation like this was "Never hit a girl.", and I say unfortunately because that was the full extent to which the issue was ever handled. When I went to the teacher, or another administrator, all they would say was "Well, we're very proud of you for not hitting her back", while taking no corrective action on this girl. When I went home and told my parents, all they would say was "Well, we're very proud of you for not hitting her back". Some members of my family even suggested I should be flattered by her behavior, since it meant she liked me and wanted my attention. If they ever did bring the issue up to the school on my behalf, which I doubt, nothing ever came of that, either. It only stopped about four years later when my parents put me in a different school.

BriccsMe · 2018-05-18T23:11:37+00:00

A group of women bullied me in school to where I almost killed myself in 3 different attempts. My freind stopped me and showed me more masculine habits. I was redpilled through this suffering and challenged my beliefs like believing that we shall worship vangayney. I started lifting and then they bullied me for being oppressive to them. I have learned how to debate I hope that even though I have a dissenting opinion in my state I wanna be a representative.

deuceice · 2018-05-18T18:18:52+00:00

I think we all know family court is the place.

alclarkey · 2018-05-18T21:11:33+00:00

In my state if you are having trouble paying your rent you can get assistance. I once asked for some of this assistance, denied, told my $300/month rent was unaffordable.

$300/month. Unaffordable. Give me a fucking break.

turbulance4 · 2018-05-18T21:07:21+00:00

I'm currently in a custody battle. I had to switch attorneys because the first was underling to represent me in a way that was fair, I can only assume because I was a man.

AgincourtSalute · 2018-05-20T08:26:37+00:00

Six monthly review at work in an all female office. A certain piece of equipment was outdated and slow causing problems when it constantly crashed. They pointed out that using this machine was taking me longer than usual and asked, "is it because you're a man and can't multitask?"

AgincourtSalute · 2018-05-20T08:27:16+00:00

"Ladies first" - everywhere.

DavidByron2 · 2018-05-18T19:57:06+00:00

No. Giving out personal information on line is a bad idea. You should ask for examples of discrimination, illustrative hypotheticals or even ask for anecdotes if you like that may or may not be personal experiences.

RoogDoog · 2018-05-23T03:03:15+00:00

Trying to rent an apartment and every listing being for a female tennant only. This idea that men party and are dirty is just bulshit.

HerefortheTuna · 2018-05-24T19:59:13+00:00

At work i am often asked by the women to move large and heavy objects.

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