Do I need a six pack to be attractive?

Inareskai · 2022-11-29T09:09:29+00:00

No.

Having a six pack is not necessary in order to be considered attractive.

Having a six pack will not make it more likely to have someone like you for you.

If getting a six pack is causing you this level of general distress, then clearly it's not good for you and that may make it less likely to help.

Having a six pack may occasionally get you some attention, but the chances are that it would be shallow attention that would not progress into anything meaningful that you seem to want.

To find a partner you're better off increasing your social circles and being in situations where you can meet and connect with new people (clubs let you meet people, but rarely connect).

QuorusRedditus · 2022-11-29T11:21:34+00:00

Six pack is not really healthy, and 99% of time you have shirt on so no one even see it.

So for general rule you don't need it. But being overall fit and not obese is ofc cool.

princessbubbbles · 2022-11-29T10:15:31+00:00

Am woman. Not overweight. Dated one person in my life. Married him. He's always been overweight. I love him and am enjoying looking at him as I type actually. He is a well rounded person who saw and values/d life beyond having a partner.

xvszero · 2022-11-29T08:39:20+00:00

lol no. I have a gut and my wife thinks I'm hot.

DustyDingo1887 · 2022-11-29T14:53:34+00:00

Are you serious?

I hope to god you are in high school and just really naive for your age cuz if you are an adult having this line of thought I feel bad for you.

Generally most women don’t make a huge deal about being super muscular or fit. It’s one of those things that’s a perk if you do but not a huge deal if you don’t. There is all kind of variables.

For example most really good looking fit gym chicks generally want guys who are on the same level of fitness as them and who are much more jacked and muscular than the average man. Those chicks typically want guys who are big and athletic and have huge muscles and abs. It’s the aesthetic they’re attracted too because of their lifestyle and hobby.

The average woman however most likely won’t care much about abs or huge muscles. Most girls probably are into guys who have a lean slender build. But obviously some girls like guys with big arms and muscles because it’s masculine and sexy to them. Abs are even less important than that. Muscles/abs are like big ass and tits, perks but not a requirement.

So it just depends what you want. If you are eyeing a cute athletic chick you probably would be better off hitting the gym. Going to the gym and working out I feel is such an important thing for people so do. It does so much good for you. Going to the gym helped me so much with my self worth and perception of myself and just made me feel good in general about myself beyond just being attractive to girls. Most men need physicality to gain a sense of fulfillment I feel, it’s what missing a lot in a lot of young men’s lives who feel hopeless and dead inside playing video games or watching Netflix all day getting fat and unhealthy

SweelFor- · 2022-11-29T08:41:11+00:00

What do you think?

AntiVictimhood · 2022-11-29T15:28:11+00:00

Firstly, no. I prefer men who are not that lean. Everyone's preferences vary, but my bf is "thick" and far from a 6-pack and that's what I'm attracted to. I've never been attracted to very lean 6% body fat men.

Secondly, there are so many ways to be fit and active, and to actually reap benefits from exercise outside of being in good shape. Working out can be extremely fun and enjoyable, and it can really elevate your mood. I'd suggest finding a workout that you actually enjoy doing and that doesn't make you cry.

I love boxing, dancing, yoga, running, and I also love weight lifting. But for a while I just ran and really did not enjoy that because my main motive was to stay slim, and I totally ignored the fact that there are workouts I could be doing that would be fun and actually enjoyable to go to.

AloneForever444 · 2022-11-29T10:15:48+00:00

Nope, it's not needed. In fact, I actually like my guys a little beefy. It's probably a requirement for those people who are a little higher ranked, but overall no. If you can downgrade your requirements for your own partner, then you're likely to find someone who is more relaxed in that requirement. It's not "settling" either, you're just being more realistic.

BidTurbulent5908 · 2022-11-29T08:57:07+00:00

It’s highly important to know it’s for your own good than it will be for a third party, because it equates to loving yourself and attracting someone would be inevitable . I’d rather you find a way to fall in love with this process and see the bigger picture. The results will be more than you can imagine it to just being in a relationship. But there’s that aspect too

mjornir · 2022-11-29T14:35:28+00:00

No not at all lol. But you def need therapy

TheLavaLeffel · 2022-11-29T16:43:14+00:00

don’t be trying to get girls drunk

Reasonable-Pea-162 · 2022-11-29T18:23:16+00:00

No, you don't. Depending where you live, the vast majority of the time, women won't know you even have a six pack until you are intimate (they would already have been attracted obviously).

Will it help with raw attraction? Sure. Is it necessary? No.

I haven't had a six pack since my early 20s (40 now) and it has never been an issue attracting women. I have found going to the gym and being somewhat strong/muscular/broad shouldered helps a lot with attraction, as well as having little belly fat. So just work out to keep strong enough looking, and don't get a gut.

Much more important than a six pack is a personality, sense of style, and having goals/cool stuff going on in your life.

fathergoose77 · 2022-11-29T19:49:08+00:00

Are you trying to star in the next Marvel movie or become an Calvin Klein underwear model or aspiring fitness guru/personal trainer? If your answer is “no”, then you do not need a six pack.

Average women don’t expect to their partners to look like Thor no more than the average dude expects to date a woman like ScarJo or insert favorite porn star here.

You are being too influenced by the media. Recognize it for what it is: a tool to entertain and capitalize on people insecurities to buy whatever fitness and fashion products they are selling.

WWhiMM · 2022-11-29T20:28:25+00:00

If your goal is getting six pack, then you'd be better off asking body-building nerds. A six-pack in particular is a pretty challenging goal and likely unhealthy for most people, you definitely don't need a six pack unless you're applying to be a bathing suit model, but it's maybe technically doable.
idk, it's healthy to lift weights a few times a week. Make sure you're eating enough and resting enough (that stuff is just as important as the lifting). It shouldn't be a totally miserable experience. From what hear, you get the largest muscle growth by working a set to "form failure," grinding until you've ground up your spirit into sad little bits doesn't help anything.
All that said, if your goal is being in a relationship, that's much more about being likable. People skills and athletic skills are, like, almost entirely separate categories.

Ifhes · 2022-11-29T20:53:09+00:00

The question is "attractive to who".

theradtacular · 2022-11-30T00:20:41+00:00

You don't need a six pack, but continue to work out and stay healthy. Don't obsess over it. Diet is more important than the workout part anyways.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2022-11-30T03:24:39+00:00

Its estimated that less than 2% or less of men have six pack abs. Yet nearly all men are attractive to some women. You are seeing attractiveness from a male viewpoint not a female one.

bossgoblin23 · 2022-11-30T16:42:03+00:00

Workout for health benefits. Attractiveness is a great benefit as well, but it's not the sole reason why someone would want to be with you. Work on other aspects of your life too!! And definitely if you're crying and it's causing you this much pain, then something is definitely wrong. Maybe try doing exercise/physical activity that is fun for you and not so much of a chore.

Bigbootyomoletlover · 2022-12-01T13:34:25+00:00

Not at all. In my opinion, you shouldn’t have to physically alter yourself (unless your body is causing medical issues) for someone to love you. If you want to have a six pack, go for it! But I love guys with and without them and I’m far from being the only one. If vigorous exercise makes you cry, please focus on yourself and what feels right for you! The love of my life doesn’t have a six pack, he never did and he’s the sexiest person in the world to me. I’m so sorry societal norms have made you feel this pressured.

awkwardfeather · 2022-12-01T17:44:58+00:00

You definitely don’t. After reading your comments it seems you aren’t really attracted to the “model” body that the media tries to force women to achieve, so remember that a lot of women aren’t attracted to the male equivalent of that either (myself included). It’s hard to understand when you’re younger, but there are so many people out there who will be super into your body type. And besides, as long as you’re a good, interesting, kind person, how you look won’t matter as much.

jikejoy · 2022-12-01T21:31:31+00:00

As a woman, I will say this. What’s attractive to me about my husband is that he is healthy physically, mentally, and emotionally. He takes care of himself. THAT is attractive. If it manifests physically (which is often does) that is wonderful but you’d be surprised how many men do not take care of themselves.

rafaman777 · 2022-12-02T12:53:43+00:00

From the ages 18-31, I was around 8% bodyfat. This took extreme exercise and a diet that bordered on fanatical to remain in caloric deficit (I ate no sweets or chocolate). I was obsessed with amateur boxing and basically lived in the gym.

People around me knew I was supremely ripped and it really made no difference to any women I dated. Maybe at fist they admired my discipline but it came at a great cost. I was always very hungry and thus very grumpy and I was no fun to be around at parties or restaurants as I was so strict about the foods I could eat. I recall one period where I was making weight and running 50 miles a week and ultra ripped. The girl told me it was too much and I was not healthy. Having a six pack was more about my personal insecurities and offered no value to women.

When I met my wife I flexed and said look at this. She told me she didn't care about that at all. She said she would love me even if I was fat. Took me a few more years to drop the baggage and just train for fun.

Please note I did this all natural without any PEDs. I looked like a regular guy with my shirt on but no defintion was apparent until I took my shirt off. It's very hard natural to carry such condition and size. In high school the girls did see me at the beach and said I was fit but it led to no dates or leads. There was only one time that I recall a woman hit on me at the pools. I was 23ish and she was an older 40 something single mother. She complimented me on my shape and tried to get me to see her furniture store. It was all so odd I never went.

It took me around a decade and having a family to be happy with my new post six pack body. I was in shape and trained very hard but as I got into my mid 30s the body didnt respond as easily. It was a concept I adopted in high school under a false premise to get girls but really it was about me feeling safe and secure. Women could feel that bad energy from my body language and it made no difference I looked like an mma fighter at a weigh in every day for a decade.

TheseNthose · 2022-12-11T16:12:31+00:00

I've cried multiple times when working out.

Are you serious?

FellasImSorry · 2022-11-29T10:00:09+00:00

No.

Sheesh.

Instead, work on being a decent person who other people like.

Nightchanger · 2022-11-29T16:03:47+00:00

Yes, please snu snu me, amazonian warrior goddess!

hippy_speed_ball · 2022-11-29T15:39:13+00:00

Sounds like you might have body dismorphia, my dude.

Maybe consider talking to your primary care provider about it, or therapist if you can get access to one.

Obviously I'm not a doctor. It just sounds like you don't have a healthy relationship with your own body.

It's OK to think, "I want to work out to feel more attractive." It's not OK to think, "I have to work out to a certain level or else I won't be attractive." Just not a healthy head space.

You should know though that it's not your fault and there is a lot of help out there if/when you're ready to ask for it.

HaymakerGirl2025 · 2022-11-29T21:31:20+00:00

Title	Do I need a six pack to be attractive?
Author	AloneForever444
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Date	November 29, 2022 8:38 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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