I have accomplished 95% of the things I wanted and dreamed from life, yet I feel empty and in happier than ever

TheRedPillRipper · 2023-12-04T08:31:03+00:00

How did you guys managed to find a meaning on this life?

You’ll get a lot of different answers; but the only way is to try everything. I can relate. After my first divorce, I found myself comfortable financially, as a single dad. So I did a lot of things. Got back into motorcycles. Obstacle racing. Sewing. Reading. Got into woodworking. Planning on learning to weld. Code. Tried ultramarathon running, but picked up an injury(so still have that to look forward to). A really great way to contribute to one’s sense of fulfilment, is to volunteer. Perhaps you could run a free ‘meetup’ for young guys, struggling to get laid.

Another common way for most to derive meaning is through family. The key to this though is Balance. Kids grow. Forge their own paths. All my other passions will not. Or the ones I’ve yet to try. Life is short. That said you’ve completed your first few missions, yet there’s still time. For a few more.

Remember too that you don’t find a meaning to life. You give your life meaning.

Godspeed and good luck!

lusdee · 2023-12-04T12:00:19+00:00

All your goals are just ideals that sound great on paper but you’ve found out they’re actually just side quests. Money, girls, good physique - they’re good to have but they won’t make you happy long term.

You never mentioned anything about friends, no I’m sure you’ve encountered hundreds/thousands of people you partied with and had lots of fun. But how many homies could you call up right now who would come help you because you crashed your car or help you in a fight? Even just come over and talk shit with for the sake of it?

Do not neglect the importance of healthy male friends because they are more important than having a hot bitch by your side who may leave you at any moment if it’s best for her needs.

You also don’t appear to have a passion. Sweet you’ve managed to pay your bills and figure out to work minimally with a smart hustle. But that’s just a job, and I don’t think your job is your passion so there’s work to be done.

Looking good naked is cool but why don’t you put that physique to work and get good at a martial art, it’s what I recommend for every young man who wants to master their own mind. It’s very competitive and maybe you don’t have enough time to master all the skills to be in the UFC but even if you got in a position to have an amateur fight of 2, you’re gonna be more courageous than 99% of the population. Truth be told, if you actually dedicate yourself completely and have a decent level of athleticism, the only thing stopping you from going pro would be mindset which can be sharpened also.

Maybe fightings not for you but isn’t it worth finding out? It doesn’t have to be a sport but this is how you should be thinking. You feel lost because you haven’t figured out WHY you’re actually here for.

StormTigrex · 2023-12-04T11:49:02+00:00

Time to develop a life long addiction to Zoloft :D

Jokes aside, you've met the unfortunate material reality of the hedonic treadmill. You reach new heights and they become your new normal after a while. No heroes in a world with all its dragons slain. Don't feel bad: it's just biology.

Assuming you're not religious, you can only seek meaning in the pursuit of it. So do meaningful stuff. Read philosophy. Engage in local politics. Dabble in the arts. You are in a prime position to enjoy the fruits of consciousness, something most people can't say. Don't waste such a great opportunity.

mgollc1 · 2023-12-04T14:15:16+00:00

Dissatisfaction is what keeps us going. We achieve goals, get the dopamine hit, then it is over, and we set new goals.

Think of what you want to achieve during your life. It sounds like you are in your late 20s. So much ahead of you. You can do anything you want.

Take up fishing, hunting, mountain climbing, bushcraft, artwork, whatever.

I found for myself the meaning of life: LEARN MORE SHIT. As a man, my duty to myself is to learn some shit I didn't know before, do some shit I haven't done before, and be something I wasn't before.

Don't know how to make furniture? Buy some tools and lumber and make your old lady a shoe rack.

Don't know how to fillet your own fish? Get a fishing pole, tackle box, some lures and a fillet knife. Figure out how to catch some fish. Watch a video about fileting them, and cook your old lady a fish dinner.

Want to learn how to build a generator out of an old washing machine? Do it. Keep challenging yourself. You've achieved some goals. Set some new ones and set off on another journey.

symere_woods2 · 2023-12-04T08:17:55+00:00

It’s because you’re indulging in meaningless hedonism man.

The main problem with trp is that it doesn’t fulfill anyone. It’s better to be an unfulfilled Chad vs an unfulfilled loser, both lack of fulfillment hurts either way.

I’d say, try not to run up the body count as soon as you start getting good with women, yes it’s hard, but it’s the right thing to do. Find the “one”. Yes trp essentially says that doesn’t exist but it’s not entirely true you just need to pay attention. Start a family man.

nikrage · 2023-12-04T08:20:11+00:00

Maybe you should explore meditation, the ego can always chase more but diminishing the ego theough mesitation can alleviate lack of fullfilment.

Ulfgarth · 2023-12-04T09:20:42+00:00

Find something greater than you, help people in need, have a family (only if you can/want), you must give something to the society not just hedonistic goals.

You did a great job anyway, you are basically on the 1% of the population I guess... Maybe it's time to do something different, try volunteering or something like that.

MaymunAglatan · 2023-12-04T13:54:59+00:00

Pursuing excellence, my brother, is a commendable endeavor that showcases your discipline, ambition, and drive. You're tackling the challenging aspects effortlessly which is admirable.

The thing is, much like water emerging as a byproduct in chemical reactions, happiness isn't the ultimate goal but rather a consequential outcome. It manifests indirectly through activities that boost dopamine (linked to happiness and success), oxytocin (associated with bonding and hugging), and serotonin (contributing to mood regulation) hormones.

It's crucial to relish the journey. Whether it's finding joy in engaging conversations during a seemingly dull lecture or deriving happiness from socializing and having fun with friends, the focus should be on the experience rather than the monetary aspect, like the $50 spent at a bowling alley. Whether it's shopping with a loved one or sharing a cozy moment at home, happiness lies in the process.

The mindset of "I'll be happy once I achieve" is a never-ending loop. Achieving goals without finding joy in the process leads to a perpetual cycle of pursuing new goals until the pursuit itself becomes retiring at 67 on beverlyhills w bugatti outside unsatisfied. Instead, remember to discover joy in every step of the journey, even if it involves seemingly mundane tasks like carrying stones – when done with a loved one, it becomes a shared and meaningful experience.

Scotlas · 2023-12-04T17:23:49+00:00

I've heard the worst greatest - athletes or what have you- often get depressed when they reach their goals. Check out the Tyson Fury netflix show for a prime example. I was struggling a bit with the same thing you are... identifying new goals and creating that drive for the next step. It might be jumping in to a new hobby with both feet. Most humans will never be satisfied just sitting back and saying "Well, i made it. I won" There needs to be a new adventure, and whatever yours is, good luck and enjoy.

2023-12-04T16:18:40+00:00

Who would've thought that whoring around for years wouldn't bring happiness and fulfilment.

Crespius66 · 2023-12-04T17:11:49+00:00

How come after living in what could be defined as shithole countries,you haven't developed an awareness as a first worlder of how lucky you have been.Focus on that and you'll find some inner happiness

kellykebab · 2023-12-04T22:42:32+00:00

So don't ever stop setting goals.

Watch this video from a psychologist focused on men's issues. He discusses the importance of having ambitious-enough missions that you ultimately never plateau long enough to feel aimless.

Also, consider goals that are not purely materialist. Consider spiritual, social, and emotional goals as well. Consider service. This could be volunteering, philanthropy, mentoring, and so on.

You can always set harder and harder financial or fitness goals. But you might think about setting goals in totally different domains, entirely. Especially in areas where you might be a complete newbie.

BenjaminHamnett · 2023-12-04T10:18:21+00:00

Remember celebrities and the rich commit suicide too

The point of seeking that validation is to trick you into becoming competent, powerful, self sufficient, healthy, social etc. you did it and women and abundance are the confirmation. Now your real life begins, finding purpose by giving back. It sounds blue pill, but it’s the truth. You have to give it al back now

Build companies to solve the problems you care about, not to make the most money. Be a source of good energy. Lift up others. Find things that matter. Who helped you? Pay it forward for the next generation. For a lot of people this will mean having kids.

ikigai will help you pivot to things more fulfilling than money

Consider what gets you into “flow” or what you dreamed of being as a kid

Tek_Analyst · 2023-12-04T19:33:18+00:00

Need some solid friends to live life with or a family. The rest is just noise and “look at me” on Instagram.

optimase_prime · 2023-12-04T08:50:25+00:00

This is called suffering from success. DJ Khaled is a clown, but it’s true. I feel like I’ve beat this “game” and now I’m just doing side quests. There’s nothing left for me to accomplish.

cmHend · 2023-12-04T08:29:54+00:00

Seems like a good place to start.

This seems the end of a circle of karma (read the way of the superior male if you didn’t). What is your mission? What is your vision?

If you reached 95% of what you wanted to do set bigger goals, have a more fulfilling mission. Without that you’re drifting with no purpose in the world.

athrowaway-9001 · 2023-12-04T13:14:26+00:00

You need to find a mission and a purpose. A couple of hobbies to boot, and you'll be good to go.

You are in a position in life that many men would kill for. Now, you just need to find a goal to work towards.

Give back to your community, family, and people who have helped you along the way. Continue to maintain a proper physique.

You're free from the rat race. You have no strings.

Question is-- what will you do now?

Will_Ling_Motivation · 2023-12-04T18:20:50+00:00

Self sabotage and lose all your money and start over again with more wisdom the second time around

That’s what I did and it’s the only thing that worked for me.

None of the meditation or gratitude stuff worked long term. The human mind is infinitely intelligent at coming up with shortcuts or justifications on not doing something until it’s absolutely necessary.

Gotta go back to that time in your life when you were lean, hungry, and fighting against the world. That’s already been proven to bring fulfillment and it will bring fulfillment again the second time around.

Unconventional advice but it’s what worked for me

Greatestnameeverrrr · 2023-12-04T19:55:58+00:00

I’m a therapist, hit me up, I’ll help you out. Passion and friendship are some things missing here.

Leonhart93 · 2023-12-08T19:52:37+00:00

Engaging in pure hedonism for so long is the furthest thing from meaning in life. As long as you persist in that, no meaning will come.

oxonian1096 · 2023-12-04T07:52:10+00:00

Seems like you are ready to find God, my brother.

lemurRoy · 2023-12-04T13:40:44+00:00

They say women lose the ability to pair bond when having sex with too many partners, but the same has happened to you in this case. Learn to enjoy women for what they are instead of just treating them like fucktoys.

I’m not saying you have to marry these broads but I find even relationships lasting a few months to a couple years can feel a lot more fulfilling than meaningless sex (and you can do both at the same time with the right girl!)

tuchad1997 · 2023-12-04T09:19:43+00:00

How old are you sir? Maybe you found life meaningless but i admire you a lot

theomniscience24 · 2023-12-04T12:13:47+00:00

pop a few kids at this point tbh. Endless fun and new problems to conquer or avoid masterfully

Few_Cabinet5129 · 2023-12-05T01:54:39+00:00

I have a dog. I feel blessed. I font know. When you experience love loyalty and friendship to that degree from an snimsl it's bound to tub off on you too. Cheers mate.. I wish you luck!

Insnspst · 2023-12-05T11:09:43+00:00

I haven't been on TRP for a while now. The reason why I did open reddit again, was because I'm wonering how many people that are following a TRP-life are actually happy. How many of us are seeing a therepist because they are feeling empty, anxious, stressed, not in balance with themselves?

Then I came across your post, I can relate with your story. Traveled the world, worked on my social skills, got in shape, picked up over 50 girls, then I stared losing interest.
And now I'm in the same position where I feel emptiness, burned-out, ... looking for a goal/meaning in life. It's hard. At this moment I'm feeling stressed all the time, not knowing what is missing.

After talking with therapists, I started to see that I'm not in connection with my feelings anymore. I didn't use my feelings as a compass to go trough life. But I used the TRP as a guideline. And if my body was screaming not to go in a particular direction (approach girls, go solo-traveling, go for that high paying job, ...) I said fuck you feelings, we are going this way, because I believed it was the right thing to do. Obstacle is the way.

This has given me a lot of good moments, I have also felt as a superman at times. But it has never given me true happiness, truly feeling good and at peace with myself. At this moment I regret not listening more to my emotions, to give direction in my life. And I feel that at this moment I have lost my connection with my feelings, leaving me clueless about which direction I want to go.

ApeMindFitness · 2023-12-04T07:42:41+00:00

Empty and happy is the end road. Denial of the truth is depression and anxiety.

Seven_Swans7 · 2023-12-04T15:22:35+00:00

You feel empty and quickly aged because you've been spilling your semen in meaningless hookups. While theredpill has many gems in understanding women, the promiscuous encouragement is not valuable imo.

Lookup semen retention and study eastern philosophy if you want meaning.

danielnogo · 2023-12-04T12:35:58+00:00

If you've never done shrooms or lcd, I highly recommend it. It sounds like you need to go on a journey of self discovery to actual find your purpose. A life without purpose is meaningless, so far you've lived your life for you, maybe it's time to discover what your purpose is IN THIS WORLD, not for yourself or what you can get out of it, but what you can do for other people. There are so many people at the top of the world absolutely miserable, which is proof positive that selfish pursuits don't provide long term happiness.

I think if you did an lsd or shroom trip, you'd know pretty soon through the night what you're missing.

swimmingatlakecresva · 2023-12-07T10:35:41+00:00

for me i left a first world country with a very good job and moved to my place of origin a third world country that is improving here i had to really start from zero in most of the aspects of life and because it was a total reset it was a massive challenge which meant i would then be creating and destroying new goals which gave me a massive boost.

Weirdif_y · 2023-12-08T07:06:11+00:00

Humans are not creatures built for satisfaction or 'fulfilment'. That's why you see ex-presidents finding it difficult to stay outside the spotlight and stick to a mundane lifestyle after their term. And you see billionaires chasing the next impossible goal they know they couldn't start to scratch in their lifetime and why Bill Gates is becoming a one man WHO.

The dissatisfaction that occurs as a "lack of fulfilment" is just your head telling you you could be doing much more. Your being craves the next stop, the next big thing. It's always there, that's why Maslow's hierarchy of needs has persevered for so long. You only notice just how insecure your neighborhood is when you've got a full tummy and have a roof over your head.

Self esteem and Self actualization needs are not so urgent as hunger or security, so you feel the need for those as a "lack of fulfilment"

How do you go about solving this? Like many have suggested in the comment section, I think the fastest way to deal with it is to build a tribe, or join one.

Most people like you who have been able to solve so many basic needs especially financial freedom are usually able to build a tribe in the process. Unfortunately, your hustle and nomadic lifestyle are the antithesis of that.

Your body is telling you it needs a suitable challenge. Think about the things you are interested in, the things you care about, and set a seemingly impossible goal. And start building a team (tribe) to work towards that. You could decide for example to work towards ensuring no man ever has to deal with early onset and extreme hair loss again and start working towards learning how you could do that. You might have some goals that require political clout, or you might be interested in building the next sci-fi equipment to make man an interplanetary specie.

Good luck with all that.

thop89 · 2023-12-11T20:21:37+00:00

You based your whole life on purely hedonistic narcissistic goals. No passion, nothing purposeful, nothing creative, nothing spiritual. It's a degenerate form of living. A modern life so to say. Seek philosophy and theology and use your aquired wisdom to reevaluate your life and things will fall into place for you.

papichino88 · 2023-12-13T00:35:04+00:00

Most people realize at some point in their life that building and helping others bring more fulfillment than any selfish desire can. For many people, that realization occurs when they become a mother or father, for others, it start with participating in community and charity with no expectation of return. Best of luck to you.

doggydoggywhaatnow · 2023-12-14T06:38:22+00:00

Help others man.

You have all this life experience. Share it. Providing value to others and increasing others values is the most fulfilling thing for folks who do not find fulfilment from doing things for themselves

dankovz · 2023-12-04T12:32:34+00:00

You are depressed. You need to find god. Reject hook up culture, there is nothing there for a real man. Go to therapy. Learn to Meditate. Learn that we as humans need to live with the company of others: you need real friends, you need to find a significant partner and start a family. Your life if full of empty feelings instead of Meaningfully relationships with others. That’s where you will find what you are looking.

Y0hi · 2023-12-04T08:11:01+00:00

It sounds like you've lost your sense of meaning because you're not undertaking any serious responsibilities.

For some people a side hustle is always motivating because they're not content with money, even if they've got 7 figs+, but it sounds like you're content with your level of income. You could try scaling your business and maybe you'll feel a sense of responsibility for your employees

Most people find meaning again once they've had a child, but think carefully about this as it sounds like you're not ready.

Try to help your community, or the group of friends around you, put your skills to good use to really be responsible for those you care about.

Last but not least, read the bible, cover to cover if you haven't already.

TheZimboKing · 2023-12-04T08:32:55+00:00

Once again, another comes to the great inquiry; what is this all for?

I will tell you what.

The purpose of it all is finding your purpose for it all. Have fun with it. Cheers.

DearSail7885 · 2023-12-04T19:26:52+00:00

How did you guys managed to find a meaning on this life?

You mean you don't find meaning in plowing into a fresh piece of ass every other week? lol

I have no advice for you. I enjoy the thrill of the chase and going out to grab life by the balls. Most of the greatest men who ever lived were compulsive poon hounds.

Maybe find something else to do. Like you, I'm a natural digital nomad. Always switching it up. New city, new food, new women, new friends to meet. A few years, I completely switched careers too. I want to live multiple lives before I die.

jollyrancher_74 · 2023-12-04T08:45:42+00:00

Find God.

Give back to those who deserve it. After I hit a certain net worth, I’ll continue working hard (on my own terms). I may not the need extra money but it sure as hell can change a lot of peoples lives.

Also, pick up hobbies like a combat sport (I recommend kickboxing or BJJ) or team game (soccer is great). Start reading books. Explore the world with your girlfriend. Try different cuisines. Learn to fly.

The world is at your fingertips.

kclanton80 · 2023-12-04T23:40:39+00:00

Seems you were able to have a lot of experiences very young. Family money? You really breezed by how you were able to do some of these things without much detail.

That could be why you feel so empty. You might be lacking a true sense of accomplishment because of being on easy street.

Just a wild guess. If I'm wrong.....I'm wrong. But damn it I'm rarely wrong.

Eastern-Resource-773 · 2023-12-24T15:27:45+00:00

Moving towards a gaol gives meaning and purpose. Happines is just a short term reward state. Stop chasing it.

Set new bigger goals and try to achive them.

The process is what fills the void, not achiving the goal.

Why do you think Bezos is trying to become immortal and populating the solar system? Its that or dying a nihilistic death from coke and highend hookers.

Title	I have accomplished 95% of the things I wanted and dreamed from life, yet I feel empty and in happier than ever
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Date	December 4, 2023 7:24 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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