How do men like to have sex initiated?

pusillanimous303 · 2022-08-15T02:38:09+00:00

I think what everyone is saying here is that men are very simple creatures when it comes to sex. While that is true, it’s also different depending on the guy. Most young/inexperienced guys need just the slightest nudge and suggestion to get them ready to go. If a guy has more experience, it might take more effort. I think a common need for guys is to be some place they feel comfortable. While we all like to think we’re porn stars, doing it in front of a group of people likely isn’t going to work. Maybe you can explore more danger later on, but being comfortable is a requirement when you’re first getting to know each other. So finding a place that’s private and comfortable would be a good first step to initiating sex. But I’d suggest getting him worked up before going some place private so it’s a surprise to no one when the clothes start coming off. Wearing clothes that highlight your best assets is definitely going to get his attention. One thing that I think most guys would agree with is to do something in public that only he and you know about. Maybe a wandering hand under the table at a restaurant. Backing into him at a bar and giving him a very subtle lap dance. (Rubbing your ass on his dick, is what I mean.) Sharing a secret like that is very hot for both men and women. One thing that always works for me is standing in front of him with your chest against his. Then eye contact. It’s full body contact but also very submissive (so long as you have to look up at him). I’ve seen it work many times and it’s worked on me. Also, handholding is very sensual. Taking his hand in both yours and slowly rubbing them together. Your hands working up his arm. All this can be done in public and without drawing too much attention to yourselves. It also sends a loud and clear message that you want him. I think more than the act of sex itself, being wanted is a huge turn on.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-08-14T22:44:48+00:00

No elaborate game plan needed there. Just show up.

Proof_Ad_3975 · 2022-08-15T01:53:45+00:00

Summer dresses without panties

whiplash81 · 2022-08-14T23:20:48+00:00

I've had a girl instantly turn me on by simply kissing me while groping my package.

You don't have to get imaginative beyond being sexual.

2022-08-14T23:20:40+00:00

Just unzip the beast, pull him out and give him a mouth hug.

Difficult_Policy_519 · 2022-08-15T01:29:02+00:00

I was kicking it with this one girl for awhile and we'd chill together nothing sexual just enjoying each other's vibe. Then one day I go over and it's almost the same thing except she was really dolled up like took extra time to do her make up and she wore some lingerie, thigh highs with the garter belt and all. We did everything we usually do when we kick it but just everything was a lot more sexualized because she knew what she wanted and the sex play through out the night was exciting and fun, touching grabbing teasing and finally bent her over the counter in the kitchen we moved to living room until we made it to the bedroom. Best initiated sex, and whenever i go over and she's dressed up like that. We know what time it is.

Contango6969 · 2022-08-14T22:41:17+00:00

Just get naked

CaptainDolin · 2022-08-14T22:48:56+00:00

Grab 'm by the balls.

Cheers, that's it.

Proof_Ad_3975 · 2022-08-15T01:53:04+00:00

Summer dresses

ncsakira · 2022-08-15T02:13:51+00:00

With a shower 🚿 you can ask him to join .

FableBW · 2022-08-14T23:58:13+00:00

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waverunnr · 2022-08-15T02:35:23+00:00

Sitting on my face usually does it.

JoMamma23 · 2022-08-15T03:05:24+00:00

Men really are simple creatures. If you’re a woman spending time with a man who isn’t related to you, there’s a decent probability he already wants to have sex with you. Just be flirty and feminine and he’ll likely reciprocate

2022-08-14T23:44:38+00:00

Non-sexual intimacy

2022-08-15T04:04:48+00:00

Kissing. Touching. It's that simple. Kiss us passionately or caress us and touch us.

My girl and I get in the mood every time we are together, just by kissing, or even holding each other. We like to hold each other and dance, make out, run our hands through each other. Without fail she turns me on every time. She'll either tell me , I want to fuck you, or , fuck me, or she'll tell me take off your pants, or let's go to bed, those are vocal cues but mainly it's physical. She'll start feeling, kissing, touching me and she knows she always get me going so she'll start grinding on me or feeling me down there, I pretty much know when she does this or when she mentions the above that she wants to get intimate.

learnbyrepetition · 2022-08-15T00:55:42+00:00

Literally just exist

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-08-15T02:49:49+00:00

Yeah just show any level of interest. Put your hand on his dick over his pants. Boom

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-08-15T03:24:07+00:00

Straddle me and then start kissing my neck. Please!

Sleight_Hotne · 2022-08-15T07:30:49+00:00

Come at me, pull me in, kiss me, grab my hands, place them where you like them the most (under/over clothes).

I'm ready to marry whoever does step two

2022-08-14T23:28:08+00:00

i'm hoping this is a gay guy asking about other guys, if it's a chick anything goes

Kennywise91 · 2022-08-15T02:49:25+00:00

Just suck it and don’t stop. If you give good blowjob you will get good sex.

yiggaman · 2022-08-15T00:07:54+00:00

"Show me it"

4951studios · 2022-08-15T01:43:38+00:00

Just initiate make out sesh

Alternative_Pin5925 · 2022-08-15T01:46:11+00:00

Grab his face and start French kissing. 👌🏼

CaptainBishopLBP · 2022-08-15T02:39:39+00:00

That's pretty easy. Step 1) Take off your clothes. Step 2) Ask what he's waiting for.

Viola -cha-cha

hogshead93 · 2022-08-15T02:44:02+00:00

I love when a woman mixes up a bowl of jello, places it in a mould around her arm, drizzles Hershey’s syrup and sprinkles all over her other arm and serves up a bucket of extra crispy KFC and white claw! Nothing turns me on more than that!!!!! Woot woot!!!!

lowandslow86 · 2022-08-15T03:15:33+00:00

Passionate kissing...and head without asking turns me in animal bent on getting every last orgasm out of partner.

2022-08-15T04:49:55+00:00

T_Pray · 2022-08-15T05:03:33+00:00

objectify us

AspiPokemonTrainer · 2022-08-15T09:27:22+00:00

The worst bj and sex in the world is ok if genuine desire and enthusiasm are immense.

Best bj and sex is pointless if I know she’s only doing it for me

may-begin-now · 2022-08-14T22:44:23+00:00

For some men it's simple, show up be flirty for others that may seem too needy . We may be men but we to have the ability to be complicated just like wemon.

Mango-Character · 2022-08-14T23:20:10+00:00

Presence

zapadz · 2022-08-14T23:11:13+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDCT-yegK2Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ju_etaiwk7U

Yoshitheman · 2022-08-15T03:36:39+00:00

We aren’t complicated like women 😂 we are very simple

No_Fan6078 · 2022-08-15T03:49:03+00:00

Make him touch you while you start to touch his balls or dick softly.

Master_Maintenance_8 · 2022-08-15T05:52:59+00:00

Fun, flirty but clear that’s what’s on the cards. Saves any awkwardness and both can enjoy the atmosphere

TaskCurrent · 2022-08-15T06:45:06+00:00

Just show up?

Top_Professional4545 · 2022-08-15T07:16:40+00:00

With an "I need some dick" commentary

seerslayer · 2022-08-15T08:27:01+00:00

I personally like it when a woman doesn't fool around and unequivocally shows sexual interest in me. Like if we are home and my girlfriend just pulls me in, kisses the fuck out of me, and throws me on bed like she's going to use me for her pleasure. Men like to feel desired too. It's just that most have never been shown what that feels like.

Keithlct · 2022-08-15T10:02:22+00:00

Once my ex gf was asking me whether I wanted to see her bra that she is wearing.. I know she was horny at that time.. I decline as I was married and I don't wanna cheat on my wife.

Momo_dollar · 2022-08-15T11:03:58+00:00

If I find you attractive… being alone together will turn me on. If it’s the first time/we’ve never done it before all you have to do is reduce the physical space so I know.

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-08-15T05:34:53+00:00

Is this a joke?

AndyJaeven · 2022-08-15T03:28:16+00:00

Lemme squish boob

Think_History_5682 · 2022-08-15T00:32:54+00:00

Dirty and depraved as possible

HandsomeBadness · 2022-08-15T03:40:01+00:00

I personally don’t like direct advances from women, beg him to come cuddle you and start kissing on him, but don’t let him stop

desal · 2022-08-15T02:55:44+00:00

in the butt

Why_am_I_LikeThis27 · 2022-08-15T02:58:11+00:00

I do, jump me, im good with it.

Looking4FunYYC · 2022-08-15T03:16:48+00:00

As often as possible

MarduStorm231 · 2022-08-15T03:24:30+00:00

Toes.

2022-08-15T04:41:33+00:00

Grab him by the wiener

Violediciple · 2022-08-15T04:47:21+00:00

Grab ma dick

2022-08-15T05:09:16+00:00

this is a good question to ask a prostitute.

bloodyblob · 2022-08-15T05:18:02+00:00

Breathe on him

2022-08-15T06:05:18+00:00

Be tall, rich and good-looking

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-08-15T06:06:42+00:00

You just show interest.

Do you mean with like a stranger for a hook up or with your current person?

2022-08-15T06:39:30+00:00

Personally, I like when my GF is straight up and says “you ready for sexy time”?. Immediately opens the floodgates.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2022-08-15T06:44:11+00:00

Heavy (deep) kissing works for me.

2022-08-15T07:11:44+00:00

Everyone is different. For me it depends on my mood

2022-08-15T07:42:01+00:00

Simple trigger is usually enough. Good emotions are also pretty important. Show off more of your skin, get some private moment, create happy and abundant circumstances.

ImpressiveGrocery959 · 2022-08-15T08:11:31+00:00

When she slips her hand down my pants when we’re chilling

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-08-15T08:34:55+00:00

Be feminine.
Send me something spicy during the day, when I'm busy doing important stuff.
Don't wear any panties, when I arrive.

pensivemindtime · 2022-08-15T09:05:38+00:00

Can’t go wrong with foreplay. Particularly the oral kind. Don’t know if any man that would disagree and if they do they’re the slim minority.

GreenApplesAreGreen · 2022-08-15T09:08:43+00:00

I think that the moment I most wanted sex with a girl was when I was sitting in a chair and she was sitting on me just kissing me. I just wanted it sooo much, it felt soo good.

primallyours · 2022-08-15T09:09:11+00:00

Crossing my palms with silver and guessing me these riddles three.

ThatRollingStone · 2022-08-15T09:41:23+00:00

Reach over and grab it.

Title	How do men like to have sex initiated?
Author	hogshead93
Upvotes	49
Comments	109
Date	August 14, 2022 10:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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