Rejection gets me down!

SnooPets1514 · 2022-08-11T11:05:58+00:00

Cold approach is great. Know why?

Because this is building your character. Big-time.

I've only started to realise it myself.

It's humbling you.

You don't actually matter. But... no one else does either.

What I'm trying to say is that... you're not going to magically sweep someone off of their feet. It's not how life works. Everyone has their own lives they're leading. Baggage. An ex. A current boyfriend. A fuck-buddy. A boyfriend they're not happy with, but not ready to leave. 50 matches on Tinder, a date that night, and a fuck buddy that weekend....

It's a numbers game, man. The sooner you realise that and the less pressure you put on yourself to create this ONE defining moment where a girl magically falls in love with you on the spot and you roger her brains out till kingdom come, the better you'll feel. The more at peace and in the now you'll feel too, because, hey, none of it matters.

Hope that makes sense (makes sense to me) and doesn't come off patronising or some nihilistic bullshit

dobbs1997 · 2022-08-11T13:41:40+00:00

You gotta already have a high opinion of yourself, because you don’t it’s messing with your view of yourself when it has nothing to do with you as to why they said no. Just keep going and don’t worry if a chick says yes or no, just have fun with it and focus on developing yourself internally cause that’s what approaching strangers does. Also, celebrate the small wins, so if you get a pleasant reaction from a girl or you make a girl smile or laugh count that as a win.

ozzzy83 · 2022-08-11T09:59:08+00:00

Yeah, it gets discouraging. It appears as if only you want something, and they are like, who cares, I'm enough to myself kinda behavior. It's not fun at all and kinda kills your desire to approach. But they would be like - why no guys are approaching, or their mothers would be like - nowadays, guys are pussies, they are not approaching, yet girls are alone by the table. Yes, they are, but they are all doing what you described. Girls' night, this or that.

And it's not about approaching. Even if you do it in a most relaxed and casual way, it doesn't matter. Looks? Nope, I'm 6'3" and they say handsome, yet, still nothing. Most girls are very insecure and shallow. I know how attraction works, read a ton of proven material, body language, sparking attraction, personality traits...the more you know, it seems you get fewer results, lmao.

FranciscotheBull · 2022-08-12T02:11:56+00:00

It can take a toll and on your self esteem. Honestly, I don't think women fully understand how much rejection hurts and how much a guy has been rejected before and I think if it was reversed, I don't think women can handle the rejecting guys go through on a constant basis.

Don't let it get to you. I know it is hard, but stay strong, be yourself and do not change yourself or change your morals and character. You are way more valuable than people in general realize. Remember, not all women are bad just like not all guys are bad. I think in general, the bad people and/or the people in front of us are in the way of the people who are actually interesting. I do think as well some women have over inflated egos and bite off more than they can choose instead of getting someone that they can actually get, but again, not all, bust most.

Stay strong. Keep asking out.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-11T09:17:14+00:00

5 girls, are like nothing.

If you are beginner without social skills, then on average you need approach 500 till you get laid.

If you are experienced PUA, then you would average 1 in 10.

burncushlikewood · 2022-08-12T00:28:43+00:00

I had a cold approach a few weeks ago where a woman just left after a 10 second convo. I have no idea what I did wrong, but women can be tough to approach, keep at it bro it's better to approach and get rejected than not approaching at all. Read this book and keep a log. https://www.academia.edu/26492146/Vin_DiCarlo_The_Attraction_Code_id610645886_size

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-11T10:49:16+00:00

It just means you are doing something wrong and/or you are picking the wrong women to approach. If you are a newbie, I would highly suggest you start with a socially approved place to meet women such as a bar or a club instead of normal everyday situations. While I admire your courage if you approached during the day, it is like playing the game on God mode.

2022-08-11T09:17:38+00:00

It’s not a rejection if you aren’t even an option for them due to being attached to someone else…and vice versa.

MywarUK · 2022-08-11T11:11:24+00:00

Don’t take it personal is best answer you will find, it’s never you, even if you approach wrong.. everyday is a learning day 👌

throwaway_6196190012 · 2022-08-12T00:51:00+00:00

You're getting rejected cause you're insecure about something and they sense it. Deep down you think you don't deserve them. You need to work to become a man value, that way you don't have to fake confidence, you'll have confidence. Work on your money, muscles, and most importantly game.

EARLY20RAG3R · 2022-08-12T02:29:21+00:00

Its a numbers game my guy: cold approach isnt good at getting you a lot of chicks, its good at building character. You’ll be rejected close to 90% of the time but it is imperative to achieve failure in order to get good at the game.

Like the great Tom Platz one said “The only place to go from failure is to win.” Cold approach will do wonders for you when it comes to desensitizing yourself to rejection, once you get there you’ll be approaching chicks like its nothing and while it might not bump up your numbers, you’ll be more confident in yourself, more driven and women like that.

Women like a man that’s bold, shameless and confident, thats what cold approach will do for you.

Keep at it and dont get discouraged

ZachMoore88 · 2022-08-12T02:56:54+00:00

In my case, I struck gold on the 7th. Never give up!

Impossible_Yellow751 · 2022-08-12T03:19:29+00:00

I wouldn’t Let it get you down before my Boyfriend I was humiliated every day I had men tell me To my face I’m fat and gross I’m not worthy of life I should kill my self I’m A waste of space and I’ve had men say before I’m not going yo be nice to you because I’m not attracted to You and I been humiliated so many times the amount of stories I Could tell but the thing is I Kept focusing on my hobbies and my passion I was never asked out I’ve never had a date with anyone ever I never got valentines cards from class mates who had crush’s on me I never had flowers I’ve never had anyone open the door for me other than my family and friends. I never got asked out I only kissed a few times in the last 15 years I never got asked to prom Or any event i never got hit on at bar or talked to or spoken to I only ever. Was friendzone by every man I’ve ever liked me strung me along and used me for there self esteem boost just to Throw me away for a hotter girl and I want to say despite those many people who hurt me.And broke my self esteem and worth I found my self a great partner who loves me and choose me and I thought something like that would never happen to me because of my failure in dating but I kept doing my own business and hobbies and skills that helped me to find someone who has the same exact gifts and talent as me I’m into supernatural weird stuff and science and geeky things and I found someone who likes science like me so I know now it seems like a big fail but I think that when we keep trying we will eventually find the right person who understand us got to find someone who cares about you Keep the faith alive

fookmi123 · 2022-08-12T03:24:18+00:00

Hey bro sorry to hear that but you know what keep on going yes it sucks but don't let that shit get you down women get hit on every fucking day.. Not just By you but all kinds of guys bro so it's OK bro.. Keep your head up and keep trying

Daygamesimplified · 2022-08-12T03:38:10+00:00

Learn to approach if your getting this consistently you’re approaching her in a way that is un-confident and needy. She is lying by saying that you need to learn how to handle that objection unphased and keep moving the interaction forward.

Seduction is a process you have to attract her with your verbal skills.

I can often increase attraction a girl already has by knowing what to say and when.

Study pimps they use verbal game on the highest level.

StayFrostyMyFriends7 · 2022-08-12T07:43:03+00:00

As a guy who used to fear rejection, I now embrace it, it’s all in your mindset, if you don’t ask a girl out, you will never how it goes, even the most good looking guy gets rejected, but we all move on cuz there’s always a hottie that will end up wanting to get to know you

jjboy91 · 2022-08-12T08:39:39+00:00

Make it playful for you and use it as a game without any expectations/ goal

Rejection is also great because it will help you grow

Magneto_1 · 2022-08-12T11:49:17+00:00

Just keep on trying but see what works, you ever see Ground Hog Day!

whitepillman · 2022-08-17T02:54:11+00:00

1 - treat it like a video game. You don't lose self-esteem losing at a new video gameZ
2 - understand that much like a video game she is rejecting HOW you are approaching her not you as a person (ie. your skill level like a video game)
3 - keep practicing. You wouldn't expect to beat a video game after only 5 reps.
4 - learn from someone who knows how to play the game. like a video game you would play with people better than you to learn how they do it.

Title	Rejection gets me down!
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Upvotes	13
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Date	August 11, 2022 9:10 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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