How to not be needy

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-30T23:20:07+00:00

The only way to battle neediness is to learn to like and love yourself. When you start giving yourself validation and love, you will need it less from women. And by the way, as much as you have tried to die of loneliness and lack of intimacy, you are still alive. Lack of sex won't kill you. What's actually killing you is you have convinced yourself that life is miserable and painful without someone to hug you and validate you. That's the brainwashing that you need to remove. If you think about it, you were perfectly fine without girls up until you hit puberty, so you had a good 12-13 years where girls didn't even register on your radar but somehow now their pussies are more dear to you than life itself.

ksmith11011 · 2022-06-30T23:04:53+00:00

Internalize and accept that most all relationships will end, whatever you’ve got with her could disappear any day without warning. With that knowledge in your pocket choose to fully enjoy your time with her while you have it, clingy feelings and all.

That general mindset keeps me pretty damn stress free no matter what’s happening with any woman I get involved with.

revente · 2022-06-30T22:56:33+00:00

how do I not be needy when I literally crave intimacy

Self-control.

Remember that the less desperate you are, the more likely you are to get those things.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-07-01T02:23:08+00:00

The only way to TRULY REALLY DEEP DOWN not have neediness is to have abundance. Not abundance mentality, ACTUAL abundance. You get abundance by getting options. You get options by getting leads (either from approaching, online, etc). You get leads from these by having an above average SMV. So first step to non-neediness is self improvement.

Chronischesfernweh · 2022-07-01T12:00:50+00:00

Focus on yourself. Positivity attrakts positivity.

I was in your shoes then I said fuck it. Joined a gym, worked out my diat gained 15kg of lean mass in a year, changed my appearances ( glasses buzz cut). Focused on my career and friendship's.

Now I'm with my dream girl for 3 years and I'm planning to propose soon.

Before that I was solo for over 21 years.

Treat yourself bro and others will also treat You.

easeonsun · 2022-07-01T12:42:00+00:00

Hugging yourself or smiling at yourself in the mirror looks and might feel silly as fuck, but it actually still causes feel good chemicals to release in your brain. Self love isn’t just about the thoughts in our head, we can start with really basic action too

HappinessHero · 2022-07-01T07:24:51+00:00

The book you need is "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty" by Mark Manson. It specially goes through non-neediness. I highly recommend getting the audiobook version, it’s very well narrated!!!!

The second book you need is by Karen Brody and it is about the 7 masculine archetypes and is a blue print of how to be a man. The book is terribly titled and is called “Open Her”. The name is awful as this book is so much more!!

incognito3107 · 2022-07-01T07:51:12+00:00

Well, you need to think of a broader context and control your urges. The same way you control eating sweets/drinking alcohol/being lazy/masturbation etc. There are proper circumstances and proper dose for everything, and with physical intimacy you should also think about the girl, who wants to experience different kinds emotions and deal with a guy that is independent, composed, high-value etc.

zelkon765 · 2022-07-01T14:01:24+00:00

me reading the comments https://giphy.com/gifs/dazn-notes-mourinho-jose-lU21XVNwliGM2gyGaN

ozzzy83 · 2022-06-30T23:28:51+00:00

By having a choice of women, you become less needy. Needy just tells that you have a scarcity mindset, instead of an abundance mindset.

zriy · 2022-07-01T05:57:54+00:00

That's interesting topic. Girls want adventure and fun. Seeing neediness in your eyes make them get disinterested. Combating neediness has been a struggle I'm going through. Some few takeaways from my experience. 1: Develop purpose and passion - how this helped me? => I no think about a girl in my free time. This puts her thoughts at the edge and whenever I meet them, I just show genuine interest and not neediness. Having a mindset of not needing because my life would go on. This didn't happen when I was chasing girl. 2: Stop trying and start enjoying the process. 3: put aside the fear of losing and just have the mindset of putting the effort. The other day, I saw a girl interested in me. I talked to her and it was funny. But later I saw her interested in another person because I could see in her eyes. I was hurt shattered. But I recovered from the pin by defining my priorities and letting her choose. I will try to polarize her no matter what. But her staying with me or not won't affect me after all.

Travis_Varga · 2022-06-30T23:36:13+00:00

Being needy is when want something from women who aren’t worth it, who don’t share enough of your highest values. So learn to want intimacy from women who are worthy of intimacy.

Spectre_ITM · 2022-07-01T06:42:33+00:00

Go out there and meet new meat.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-07-01T10:22:19+00:00

Focus on your ambitions/hobbies/goals/purpose/tasks at hand more than you focus on her.

sun_t5u · 2022-07-01T12:25:15+00:00

get some testosterone pills, hit the gym. Low testosterone makes you emotional and woman can feel it pretty well, so it's a turn off for a lot of them.

Keravnos- · 2022-07-01T14:32:47+00:00

i got the opposite problem 21 yo here, everytime a girl gets close to me i ghost her, idk man intimacy scares me and i cant control it

yyuyuyu2012 · 2022-07-01T19:05:50+00:00

I will be honest I ha e been feeling this way lately and drinking and amoking myself into oblivion. I feel self concious about autism and just lack of success (only been with 2 girls in my 20s) and I want to prove I am not an autistic loser. Hvaing said that I am trying to feed myself positive stuff. It is hard, especially nesring your 30s and having your shit relatively together.

Title	How to not be needy
Author	Jgkie
Upvotes	40
Comments	73
Date	June 30, 2022 10:25 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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