Nothing hurts more than clicking extremely well with a woman, but lacking dating skills to drive it in a sexual direction

ozzzy83 · 2022-06-08T15:19:04+00:00

Friend zone just means that the guy doesn't know how to flirt properly (or at all), he lacks balls or knowledge (even both), and is way too neutral around girls he likes. Learn how to flirt, if she flirts back, kiss her, and that's it.

MountainGoatSC · 2022-06-08T16:04:19+00:00

A lot of things hurt way more than that

Mission_Ad_716 · 2022-06-08T14:44:12+00:00

I get that but most of the women I have been with give clear hints that they wanna take it to the next level or we atleast start by talking about sex and stuff generally so it's easy for both of us to initiate sexual things later in the conversation. Some women I've dated initiated or brought up the sex topic before I could. So don't beat yourself over it. If a girl likes you romantically or sexually, she'll give you a lot of hints. If she isn't giving you anything or is behaving dry and cold. Find someone else because she isn't interested in you like that.

Substantial_Body_774 · 2022-06-08T20:48:50+00:00

Just about any girl wants to be kissed (not literally but “romanced” for lack of a better word) unless she (1) gave you explicit indication that she isn’t into you (2) watch her body language, nervous body language, pulling away, not engaging you. Otherwise go for it flirt, touch her and don’t worry so much about what she thinks, she’ll let you know if she isn’t ok with it.

ksmith11011 · 2022-06-09T00:03:15+00:00

Women also trick guys into thinking that we’re the ones who are responsible for how things turn out when in reality the girl is in control the whole time. So don’t beat yourself up too much about not “moving things in a direction”. If she wanted them to go that way she most likely would have took them there and made you feel like you did it.

Now if things went in that direction and you failed to make a move, that’s different. You fucked up. But you’ll probably get another chance.

MistyMaisel · 2022-06-08T16:40:58+00:00

I click extremely well with people I want to be friends with too. I think what guys like yourself are failing to imagine is that just because we "clicked" it doesn't mean it was a romantic/sexual click for me.

And there's not really some magic spell or series of chess moves you could have made to make it click sexually for me. Chemistry is a mutual thing and you cannot really build it through hard work. It really does unfold in a somewhat magical fashion. We weren't meant to be. You couldn't play some game to change that.

I cannot tell you how many guys think I "slipped through their fingers" and then tell me about it years or months later. No. I didn't. You weren't it chief. Stop beating yourself up.

cronasminate · 2022-06-08T21:02:15+00:00

This is mostly cope.

If you just kinda want something you give it a chance but don't care that much if you don't get it.

If you really want something then you make sure you get it.

She just wasn't that into you. The biggest issue is you invest this much into someone who is not that invested in you. You need to realize getting with a girl is never worth this much trouble since it will never really amount into an actual relationship. It's more transactional where you have to prove your devotion to her and she rewards you by staying. That's not a relationship.

wastingtoomuchthyme · 2022-06-08T13:37:48+00:00

You need to relax It really has nothing to do with you and what you did unless you did something egregious..

If you are who you are as you are and she is into that she will let you know.. if you alter who you are or how you are for someone it will not be sustainable and while you might get her it will not last so you're just postponing the heartbreak

Chemistry is very very hard for both sexes.

Honest_Inevitable632 · 2022-06-08T13:17:45+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that but perhaps she just came across with someone whom she finds more attractive and more assertive.

Women always have plenty of options so your role is to be one of the best if not her best option.

masmiester · 2022-06-08T18:30:54+00:00

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and being scared little girl. You need to Escalate! She needs to be thinking "he is gonna lay be if I stay talking to him".....

life_long_learnerabc · 2022-06-08T18:03:35+00:00

This. THIS. THIS.

videogames_ · 2022-06-08T23:18:22+00:00

To make it in a sexual direction you have to be willing to lose the girl by flirting and building sexual tension.

HowToStud · 2022-06-09T13:07:03+00:00

Facts, make your intentions clear. Give off friend vibes and you’ll be treated as one

drywallsmasher · 2022-06-09T18:24:46+00:00

and for women it's something that magically unfolds in front of them.

What? Since when? Both men and women find dating difficult nowadays and a whole ass effort.

THIS is probably why you're having difficulty getting anywhere.

Thinking like this about women is obvious and obnoxious.

I wouldn't fuck a guy that thought he's putting in sooooo much effort just to be a basic ass friend and click with me like any normal human being does, and then thinks he's somehow required to be rewarded with sex for it.

Buddy, you did what everyone else does, you didn't put in any "effort" more than what anybody else would; man or woman.

who gave me a month chance

A MONTH. I assure you it's not your anxiety or inexperience, it's your mentality toward it wanting to go to sex so damn fast. You didn't get friendzoned, you fuckzoned the girl and that's why you ended up back to square 1. She found out you weren't a real friend and your only goal was sex.

My advice is making it clear from the very beginning you want to have sex. It'll spare both you and her any wasted time and you can move on to the next girl who hopefully wants what you want.

Title	Nothing hurts more than clicking extremely well with a woman, but lacking dating skills to drive it in a sexual direction
Author	Everlast23
Upvotes	49
Comments	31
Date	June 8, 2022 1:12 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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