a girl/my best freind said im being to clingy and she wants me to leave her alone after i told her how i feel

Codi_Banks · 2022-05-25T22:03:55+00:00

Leave her alone, obviously lol. There are 2 ways to do this though.

Option 1: You can tell her how bad you feel losing her, you can cry, apologize, beg for another chance, tell her you need her in your life, and just be devastated. This will drive her further away and confirm to her that she made the right decision. You would be proving to her that you really are clingy.

Option 2: You can behave like its not a big deal. Don't be sad, bitter, or mean. Just leave her alone and don't care (obviously you do care, but just do your best not to show it) Don't talk to her. Don't say hi. DON'T reach out to her. Don't give her ANY time or attention. Don't be positive or negative towards her. Don't be friendly or rude. No emotions, be neutral to her. Treat her like a stranger. Move on! If you do this, then she might doubt her decision.

Option 1 is probably the natural reaction but its the wrong one. With Option 2 maybe she'll start to miss you and eventually she'll reach out. From there you can decide what to do.

sharksarenotreal · 2022-05-25T21:43:54+00:00

She said leave her alone, you're being too clingy. Your answer is right there.

countsunny · 2022-05-25T23:18:55+00:00

You are young. Take the L and improve yourself. Read How to Think Like a Roman Emperor and go to the gym.

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revente · 2022-05-26T00:04:17+00:00

Someone who tells you to leave her because you're too clingy is not a best-friend material. And I don't think that she sees you as one.

Also it seems that you're just crushing on her and she isn't really your best friend.

Select-Radish9245 · 2022-05-26T01:15:37+00:00

LEAVE HER ALONE

seerslayer · 2022-05-26T06:32:33+00:00

Look here kid. Don't come to this sub looking for advice before you are 25. These organic experiences are what you need to become a man. Throw yourself at her. Cry if you want. Get a heartbreak. Make mistakes. Hell go through a misogynist phase if you want. Commit all to one person and lose it all. Do whatever you want. When you've had enough pain and love, and you are beyond validation, come back. Don't read what everyone else is saying and try to apply it in your life. Read, see what you can relate to, see if the advice actually helped you out before or did it burn you out. That comes with experience. Now go out there and have a good time

OJSimpsons · 2022-05-26T00:58:34+00:00

Why didn't you tell her the reason? That's silly. You're sending mixed signals. Do you like her? I honestly can't tell either. Is she the one you described when describing who you liked? It's not her fault you rejected her while possibly liking her. She's avoiding that awkwardness.

bwatts52 · 2022-05-26T05:26:26+00:00

Nope the fuck out of there. You're young. Move on and don't become clingy for real.

Sup3rHD · 2022-05-26T06:42:46+00:00

Talk to other girls and post stories etc with them. Then see her coming back 😂

willpowerchen · 2022-05-26T07:01:49+00:00

Take the L and move on. Why waste your time and energy on someone that doesn’t want to spend time and energy on you?

HotShots2019 · 2022-05-26T07:45:02+00:00

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2022-05-26T01:30:30+00:00

The relationship is over, looking for another girl. If she comes to you, treat her as you would a stranger.

EternalBlaze18 · 2022-05-26T08:41:39+00:00

It sounds like she could be upset that you told her you liked her and then kinda just blew it off. It could mean she likes you too and is confused/frustrated on why you just want to be friends if you like her too. You should send her a text explaining why you said that. It could change things for the better

ffioca · 2022-05-26T09:57:57+00:00

Don't try to understand girls' actions. They are illogical most of the times. Just move on.

Dxuian · 2022-05-26T15:23:59+00:00

this happened b4...acutually left her ...worked on myself came back and said she wanted to get together ..i said no cuz i became a workaholic by then

nateoak10 · 2022-05-26T03:53:15+00:00

You’re 16.

Give her space and you’ll find someone else soon. Too young to be tripping over this.

awkwardautistic · 2022-05-26T13:32:11+00:00

Been there done that. Sucks.

HolzyOSRS · 2022-05-26T16:55:19+00:00

Sometimes you just gotta take it on the chops and move on. It sucks, I just dealt with this myself. Time heals tho.

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-05-26T17:07:36+00:00

Gotta give everyone space to choose you.

sanixThedorito · 2022-05-26T18:11:08+00:00

Just leave her alone bro, and talk to other people If you can .

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-25T22:16:11+00:00

There should be a sticky about this:

'Telling a girl' 'how you feel' is lame and almost ever works.

That should be the full content of the sticky.

Necessary-Worry1923 · 2022-05-26T01:41:32+00:00

So this is basically High School puppy love? Try this experiment: find another girl in your school and start showing overt public display of affection to this other female in full view of your friend. Holding hands, maybe walking her home etc.

Let's see how quickly your ex-prom date comes calling you.

At this stage she has already FRIEND-ZONED you so what do you have to lose?

This happened to me when I was 16, my prom date told me after the prom she actually had a crush on another boy. I started hanging out with a different girl but let my prom date see what was happening.

40 years have gone by and my prom date is still calling me to see how my wife and I are doing. Moral of the story, when another girl gets in the picture, females get extremely competitive.

Your prom date might be calling you 40 years from now...

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-05-25T22:48:01+00:00

I don't understand how she can say you were being clingy when you were doing the exact opposite by saying u want to just be friends so u don't get too close only to have it ruined by your out of state situation. So you were prepared to give space despite how you feel. She is clearly just using the clingy thing to guilt shame you because she might feel rejected, or she already started seeing someone and was trying to get you out of the pucture.

burncushlikewood · 2022-05-26T02:18:34+00:00

Give her space! You cannot have successful relationships without giving people space, don't you hate it when people follow you/get to clingy/needy it's annoying man.

2022-05-26T04:04:48+00:00

Move on and go talk to other girls . The problem will fix itself

yo_saturnalia · 2022-05-26T05:02:16+00:00

Dude ! You’re such a kid . Just leave her alone , and find a new girl. Plennnnty of girls around to chase . She ain’t a snowflake

QuelaansBlade · 2022-05-26T06:55:34+00:00

Sounds like you fucked up. Most girls dont like mind games in long term relationships and getting romantic with friends is a bad idea unless you are willing to risk this kind of thing happening. Move on hit the gym and focus on improving yourself. If she is still interested she will reach out to you

JohnnyandJohnny · 2022-05-26T02:50:36+00:00

Direct short term advice: Get another female friend, and make sure she sees you with her, act completely and utterly unbothered by the fact she isn't talking to you (even if it does bother you),

you can't seem needy or like you care too much (that's a turn off)

Maybe start a rumor that you're dating someone (I'd pretend to share a secret with someone you know can't keep their mouth shut, someone who isn't a good friend of your girl, because you don't want to seem to obvious, and let them do their thing)

Long term: Have cool shit that you like to do by yourself, develop your mind and body so that more people come to you, have a goal for the future and put it above every girl.

2022-05-26T14:14:48+00:00

Consent matters. She obviously wants you to leave you alone and that is exactly what you should do. She might have called you cligny because you were, or because she was upset you just wanted to be friends so she projected her issues onto you. If you just wanted to be friends then why are you on here desperately posting about her?

SpookyKG · 2022-05-26T15:02:02+00:00

Leave her alone and stop being clingy.

Use this stage in your life to grow up and realize that you can't make somebody like you, and that there are other fish in the sea.

d0ornokey · 2022-05-26T15:04:47+00:00

You deserve better bro. Sorry she wasn't into you like that. Get a girl who wants you back. There's tons out there. Good luck

redditor4206903 · 2022-05-26T15:24:06+00:00

Bro you are only 16. So I am sorry.

Honest advice, you are a loser. She doesn't want to date you. There is nothing you can do or say that will "seduce her". Worl yourself up and fvck/flirt with other girls. Than come back, though I doubt ypu would want to.

LiMeBiLlY · 2022-05-26T15:41:07+00:00

Just leave her alone. Respect her space.

2022-05-26T15:49:43+00:00

Walk away. Don’t pursue at all. She’s not into you now.

Start hitting the gym hard and consistently now, see noticeable results by the end of summer vacation. Get a new look (clothes, hairdo) during summer and focus on talking up other girls asap. Will make you look like a different person by the end of it.

Say hi casually when you pass by her after summer break, and if she wants to chat, let her. Don’t dredge up past feelings, just try to keep it light. She may not want to talk, which probably means that she’s just not into you. If so, focus on other girls.

2022-05-26T05:12:28+00:00

She's underage so your question has no place on this SubReddit

hnzosan · 2022-05-26T01:33:42+00:00

Tell her you were being stupid before, of course you want to go out with her, and explain that you were worried about being gone over the summer. Three months is not a long time, you can call each other, she obviously likes you.

Aggressive_Soil_5134 · 2022-05-26T09:39:12+00:00

Lmao what? Nothing to do here. Just leave her alone

2022-05-26T10:27:21+00:00

LEAVE HER ALONE.

farang · 2022-05-26T13:20:35+00:00

It hurts, but it won't damage you unless you let it affect your self esteem. Think about other things. Put your energy into other friends (including guys), school work, a job if you have one, new skills, working out etc. Build yourself up. And always believe in yourself.

countsunny · 2022-05-25T22:52:04+00:00

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