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PaleontologistNo2785 · 2022-02-16T13:05:27+00:00

I find it strange how anyone serious about wanting to get laid doesnt max out their looks.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-16T12:46:21+00:00

I'm 6'3, I run 5x a week, I have a legitimate interest in high fashion so I naturally dress really well, and I have hair, skin, and grooming regimes to the point of metrosexuality....hasn't helped my confidence one bit lol

mightymite88 · 2022-02-16T10:43:46+00:00

That's true. I lost 40lbs and got a new wardrobe and suddenly game was like playing on easy mode.

I always had luck before. But now it's so much better it's crazy

I'd really bought into the "inner beauty " thing. But unfortunately it's only half true. Game is possible when your present tation is off. But its exponentially harder

flabsatron · 2022-02-16T14:45:03+00:00

If your scared to go outside because of how you look then obviously some people care about how you look. In fact, duh, we all have eyes, and we all use them, alot. Make life easier on your fellow humans, give us something nice to look at

2022-02-17T01:27:04+00:00

I can relate to what you’re saying because I’ve been in this place before, as recently as 2 years ago. But I think your birds-eye perspective is killing your happiness. You are aware of all the points that women may like (your height is good, your physique is nice, you are fashionable and secure etc) but you’re finding resentment in the world because you’re doing all these things and it’s not getting you anywhere.

This may be controversial in this subreddit, but I would suggest stop doing all that stuff for a month. Don’t run 5x a week, and don’t do your skincare stuff. It’ll be a good reset so that you can know what YOU like. You don’t need to do all that shit to be a participant in this game of life. As a side tangent, if you’ve made good gains, you only need a good gym sesh 2-3 times a week with one of those working on PR’s. Same with cardio, you don’t need to go 5 times. I say need because maybe if you stop for a month, you’ll realize you like it. But then don’t take that aspect of “I’m doing high value shit so they should like me” because you being high value doesn’t matter much in the current dating game. All you have to be is fun.

Think of being fun, think of what fun looks like to you. Be suggestive, be cheeky. Guys masturbate mainly because they have a fear built up of being rejected by women. Be daring, but be respectful. I get that masturbation is tough to curb. Hell, I’ll go on dates where we just make out and I go home and jerk it like crazy. You say you jerk to your imagination, is it your dick going into someone else or is it an image of another dick? I think the whole aspect of you being aware of the tropes of what women like in pop culture are ruining your self-image, both in terms of your growing resentment and sadness that the world isn’t favouring you, and in terms of the fact that you aren’t the main character in your own fantasies. I truly believe if you can visualize it, you can have it. But I don’t mean just visualizing sex. Visualize how you lock eyes with a girl, how you perceive your smile as you say something suggestive to her. Perceive the urge within yourself to touch them, and do it! If she pulls back, allow yourself to understand that you are a big strong man and that her pulling back has nothing to do with (insert your name) but rather as a reflex due to her concerns for her safety. And don’t say you’re bad at visualizing because a ton of dudes are great at visualizing the worst possibilities.

I’ve said this in another post, but women in todays day and age make their own money and the idea that women look for security in men is slowly going to dissipate. Money is cool cuz money lets you be spontaneous and adventurous; those are qualities women value more, so you can be frugal and fun too, and a lot of women in different social circles (indie chicks, gamer chicks, etc) don’t need the money, they just need someone to spark that feeling of “oh I’ll never be bored with this guy”.

To recap, I urge you to stop looking at the grand scheme of things in terms of fwb, old, sidechicks, and all the other things that pop culture feeds you. In fact, I would say that the mere fact that you let those things affect you is a sign that you have too much time on your hands. I get the occasional scrolling of Insta as you’re waking up or hungover, but letting those ideas consume to this degree shows that you’ve entered a circle of vicarious living, which is never going to be good for your mental. I urge you to stop running and doing your skin care. Keep doing fashion because that seems like something you’d do even if no one was paying attention, but if it is for attention, stop that too. By eliminating things that make you a tryhard, you will feel and act and project a sense of grounded ness that perhaps you don’t exude now because you have a demeanour of “I do everything right but no one fucks with me” and people are picking up on that. I also urge you to be fun. Being fun is the key. And be bold! Take what you want (respectfully). We are all tryna find a partner or get our nut off (or both), so be aware of that. You take my advice in this, it will give you the reset you need in order for you to understand what you really like. YOU

2022-02-16T12:37:21+00:00

It's not everything. I usually end up settling for lonely 40-year-olds. The last time I got laid, she said I was one of the cutest young guys she had been with, and she didn't believe me when I said I only lost my virginity a year ago and that I frequent hookers.

jjboy91 · 2022-02-16T20:32:22+00:00

I dress good all the time and it never helped me

the_vendetta777 · 2022-02-17T04:35:29+00:00

No one is ugly, everyone can look good, but looking good takes genuine effort.

greenlight144000 · 2022-02-16T18:12:22+00:00

I wish I could I’m naturally skinny and can’t get bigger

2022-02-16T19:03:51+00:00

Common sense 101

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