If you go out with the sole intention of meeting women or getting a woman’s number, you are inherently framing your interactions in a manner that puts them on a pedestal, where they are an objective that is your purpose for being out. In that context, they hold the value and you are not on equal footing.

Meeting women is a numbers game, but that doesn’t mean that walking up and talking to every marginally attractive woman is a healthy exercise, or will improve your social skills. It reinforces that you are low value, enough that you build your life around seeking out the approval of women. Women can sense this.

When you are out in your day to day life, be social with everyone—young, old, attractive, not attractive, men, women. When you finally encounter a woman who sparks something in you, interacting with them is simply part of your routine, but with more sexual energy applied.

When talking to women is framed as ‘approaching’, rather than simply talking or flirting where things unfold naturally, it becomes objective-based behavior that ultimately seeks validation through getting a number or a date.

When out socially, your sole objective should only be having fun, regardless if it involves a woman. If you have difficulty in this regard, then it is time to explore becoming a more well-rounded, self-assured person.

Attractive men are out in the world doing their own thing, and don’t need to seek out women. The women are drawn to them naturally, and they know how to apply sexual energy appropriately.