Seriously. Stop it.

If you stare at how someone behaves from across the room for more than 30 seconds, I guarantee you that you'll find at least 10 reasons that she's "into you," 10 reasons that she's "not into you," and "20 million reasons that you're not going to approach right now."

Just approach.

You know how I find out if a woman is interested in me?

I start talking to her.

If she starts smiling, standing closer, and laughs at my jokes, I begin touching her.

If she touches back, smiles more, and stops paying attention to other people, and lets me escalate, I keep going.

It's like I'm playing limbo. Every time I pass one mark, I move on to the next challenge. I don't stop until I fail* EDIT - a girl declining escalation is not "failure" in a grand sense. You DO stop and move on, but don't think of yourself as a failure. Don't get all rapey on me, fellas.

But that all starts small with an approach, and a "hello," and that doesn't require IOIs, ABCs, 123s, or any other acronym that you're trying to pull out of your ass because you don't have the balls to approach.

Never look for a green light to start a conversation - you won't find one. And even if you do, you need to approach. You don't need permission to walk up to someone in a bar/club/sauna/international space station and start a conversation.

This isn't "National Geographic Presents: The Woman." You're not here to analyze what it means when a girl is "tapping her toes" or "pouting her lips."

Are you interacting with her? No? Then your observations don't mean sh*t.

Honestly, if you're using IOIs as an excuse to approach, you're doing it wrong. Take a risk - specifically the risk that she's not into you and doesn't want to talk to you - man up, and talk to her. That's the only way you can get anything started, with anyone.

EDIT

Yeah, I get that you have AA. Yeah, I get that you're scared. I've been there, too. Think I came out this way?

Everything in my life I've ever been good at (except math), I sucked ASS at when I first started. I'm talking bottom 25%, in dancing, in writing, in everything.

I was the prime example of someone who was hopeless, unless it involved video games, or math.

The difference is, I was taught early on that it doesn't matter how you're doing today - it matters WHAT you do today and how that affects you TOMORROW. And that's your life, every day.

So, are you gonna not approach a girl because you have a whole list of reasons (like lack of IOIs) not to approach her?

Or are you gonna throw away your reasons, and just do it?

When you want to get good at something, you have to do more than you think you're capable of. Every. Single. Day.

Don't sell yourself out on this. You will be dead some day. Lighten up, and have some fun.