I was you at one age. I had every justification of why I couldn't approach a girl. I made excuses as to why I couldn't approach girls to satisfy my ego. Back in my day, we didn't have things like /r/seduction to learn us. We had crappy "free" sights that were created by other guys who couldn't get laid but were looking to make money off it. I always fell into relationships but none were of any value. When I wasn't in a relationship I convinced myself I was focused on my career. I had had minimal luck in approaching girls that I wasn't sure were a lock. In the meantime, I've obtained a great career, I own my own home, I have an interesting life (long motorcycle trips, rock climbing, active reader, interesting stories, etc) but still can't get over approaching a girl.

My last relationship ended over a year ago. I had some unsuccessful dates from online dating but nothing from spontaneously meeting people in public. A few months ago I had met a friend of a female friend. Instantly thought she was cute but found out she was in a relationship. For some reason, I later got the impression that it wasn't serious. Fast forward to tonight, she meets me and my friend out for drinks. We get to talking and agree to go smoke a j in the parking lot (another bonus, I finally found a great MJ connection.) We're having a great conversation and I finally go for it. I tell her I think she's really cute and I want to kiss her. Complete rejection follows. She tell's me she has a semi-serious boyfriend, she's flattered, she thinks I'm intelligent (WTF? You're not my employer, at least tell me I'm cute).

And if felt great to be rejected. I would have preferred a little make out session but 2nd place sufficed. We hung out for another 10-15 minutes outside. Very little awkwardness. We walked back inside. She told me she thought everyone was going to think we were having sex. I told her that that was my story and then told her I was going to reverse our roles when I told our friends about what happened. We hung out at the bar some more and had some laughs. No real awkwardness at all. I finally left when I got bored but got a tight squeeze on my way out. Boyfriend or not, I'm convinced something more may come out of it in the future.

If you're in your late teens and early 20s and freaking out about talking to women, enjoy it. It's expected. Be awkward. If you're in college and can't approach a girl, it will only get worse when you get out of college. You will never have as many women in your age range in such close proximity again in your life. Make use of it. Even if it's just to experiment with who you are.