Seddit is not about helping you get ONE specific girl! It's about studying and practicing methods that apply to ALL girls!

alphaasfuck · 2010-12-08T21:48:58+00:00

I think I understand what is frustrating you, and I'm sure plenty of us feel the same way. The whole premise behind these posts are that people are so FROZEN in fear of doing something wrong and fucking up at this chance with this girl (pussy pedestal, oneitis, blah,blah, whatever you call it) that they don't just take a fucking chance and say something. It is more important that you have the self confidence to just say something anyway. Fuck up? Oh well, I learned not to do that. Yeah it'll suck. But in order to get good at this, you need to fuck up. Alot. Yes, if you are doing it right, you may get hung up, you may get kinda down that you messed up that chance with the super cute girl with dimples who was into dinosaurs or whatever you're into. We've all been there. But guess what? This subreddit isn't about doing it right the first time, or even everytime. It's about developing into a character who can deal with these issues themselves. If you fall into the pattern that "seddit has all the answers, oh no, I don't know what to do!" you lose.

(TL;DR) So I present to you this, seddit. Fuck up. Alot. Grow a pair and do it. Let us know if you seriously stuck with improving yourself (not with what to do next) and can't figure out where you went wrong after reading the sidebar. We're here to guide you, not support you.

chumpta · 2010-12-08T22:12:11+00:00

there was a brief period of time where i was running into some sticking points with about 3-5 girls. each one had a different, unique issue that was preventing me from getting to the next phase. a few times i was very tempted to come to seddit and say "hey ive got girl x with problem y, how would you go about this?"

this is useless. you cannot carry around the internet with you when you pick up. just like youre not allowed to use wikipedia during academic tests. you dont have to learn what to do, you have to teach yourself what to do. the time for analyzation and Q&A comes after you've done some shit, not before.

superfuntime · 2010-12-08T22:29:57+00:00

This might be a case where leading by example is the only answer. Asking the beginners not to act like beginners doesn't seem like it will ever change things.

It might slowly improve seddiquette if more experienced sedditors would translate someone's specific question into the general case and then show how the theory applies. It does put an extra burden on the people who are already helping most, but I think it stands a better chance of turning the "help me" posts into something that adds to the community's knowledge.

For example (and this is not at all a criticism of Tofu), I posted a FR that had me puzzled. I don't really understand enough about what I'm doing or not doing to abstract it into a general PUA theory question, though I tried. Tofu responded by saying I should ask her to coffee. That's good and I plan to do it and it helped me a lot, but may not have helped anyone else reading it. If he or someone else with experience had included a bit of discussion about what theory was at work and why coffee is the answer, then the thread would have been more useful.

But it's more work for Tofu et al. I recognize that and don't really expect it which is why I haven't been complaining about weak "help me" posts :)

MrRisky · 2010-12-08T22:20:55+00:00

Upvoted, I've been wanting to say this for awhile, but I'm reluctant to speak for "the community." I'm glad others feel the way I do.

That said, I asked specifics in this case and it worked out well.

MrRisky · 2010-12-09T01:23:24+00:00

If /seduction was a car forum, it would be about automotive racing engineering, but all these AFCs are asking us how to change the brakes on their 92 Civic, or change a headlight on their 89 Lumina.

throwaraptor · 2010-12-08T21:02:41+00:00

But I just need help with this one girl please. I made her a collage out of hair that I've collected for the past year.

How do I get her to see that I could treat her so nice and never leave her and worship her every bit of being? Should I just tell her I love her?

Also she's 15 and I teach at her highschool.

laberge · 2010-12-08T22:35:39+00:00

How to be more appealing to the opposite sex.

ArMcK · 2010-12-08T23:35:20+00:00

God, I love you LesbianPUA.

Edit: When are we going to see some field reports?

ArMcK · 2010-12-09T02:10:45+00:00

Okay okay, noobies go here.

JustYourLuck · 2010-12-09T02:57:39+00:00

On the one hand, yes you are right, definitely. People should use the search function.

On the other hand, people in general respond much better to responses that are specific to them, rather than responses to a general situation or someone else's situation which is exactly like theirs. People will always want to ask "should I approach? how can I approach?" rather than reading general advice about approaching...

If you find a way to make people not want individual advice let me know.

2010-12-09T05:08:11+00:00

Someone should create /Howtogetthatgirl/ so people can ask questions about how to get that girl .

sleeknerve · 2010-12-09T11:35:47+00:00

I understand this rant, but there a few girls that I have ever met that I would want to be with and happen to be available, so there really that many opportunities for me to practice with, its mostly all or nothing.

philosarapter · 2010-12-09T14:52:36+00:00

Thank you for this!

There are so many post here lately that are like "I tried calling her 6 times in a row and begging her to go on a date with me but she said no... seddit how can I win this girl?"

rotomangler · 2010-12-09T02:04:18+00:00

meow!

MrRisky · 2010-12-08T21:49:34+00:00

There are no methods that apply to 'ALL' girls. You're living in a delusion.

takfam · 2010-12-09T00:36:48+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit

"there doesn't seem to be anything here"

Seeing as how there IS no AskSeddit, where do you suggest people ask their questions?

solocup · 2010-12-08T21:06:21+00:00

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Title	Seddit is not about helping you get ONE specific girl! It's about studying and practicing methods that apply to ALL girls!
Author	LesbianPUA
Upvotes	152
Comments	73
Date	December 8, 2010 8:56 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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