i don't claim to be an expert on pulling woman but i just wanted to share a break-through i had over the weekend.
i'd been crushing on this girl for close to 2 years since we first met. and she knew it too. i asked her out a while ago but she just kinda just laughed it off. it was a huge blow to my ego and let myself get Friend-zoned like a mofo.
we have the same group of friends and go to the same school, so i saw her often. whenever we all would go out or whenever i was around her, i was the classic Beta: super nice, available at her every beck and call, and holding out hope that one-day she would reconsider my offer for a date. basically, i let her take advantage of my feelings for her.
over the last 2 years, i never actually saw her with another guy but i'm not that naive to think that she hasn't been with any guy either (HB8 latina w/ smokin hot body). it wasn't until last month when our group of friends were out at a party when i saw her making out with another guy. it nearly ruined my night but luckily it was roughly the same time i found /r/seduction. i had learned to shrug it off, ignore her, and kept on having fun. no sense in letting something out of control get the best of me
i carried this mentality over to monday when we came back for school. ignored her. didn't talk to her. not so much as look at her either. when she tried talkin to me, i'd be brief and walk away. i realized how much better off i was doing this and have kept this up for the last month. i got rid of my beta tendencies.
we were still friends, but i was no longer available to her like i was the past 2 years. she wasn't getting the attention from me that she was use to getting and it started to bother her. earlier last week, she came up to me and asked why i was ignoring her. and i responded the same way i had been all month. i just said, "no i'm not" and just walked away. steadily, she'd been trying to get my attention more and more everyday.
it all culminated to this past weekend when we all went out as a group for the first time since the party to an all day outdoor concert. i went about doing my own thing like usual: ignoring her and just having fun. but as the day went on, she started getting closer and closer to me. escalating kino and throwing iois at me (grabbing my butt, holding my hand, etc)
i push-pulled her. we'd be walking and holding hands for a bit but then i'd just toss her hand aside to go talk to a random group of chicks just to let her know that i have other options.
by the end of the day, she was sitting on my lap with her arms all around me. she asked me again why i'd been ignoring her all month. i didn't say a word and just k-closed her.
not much but its def a great start. i got more done in one month with an alpha mentality than in 2 years as a beta.
TL;DR - don't be a chump and NEVER be too available to a girl.
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