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libertas · 2011-09-09T13:56:23+00:00

This is something I've been thinking about. My best answers:

Make friends with a social connector, and make friends with the people he hangs out with, essentially integrating yourself into his existing group of friends.
You be the social connector, get the name and number of every cool person you meet, and invite them to cool events that you put on (even if that's just going out to the bar). Create your own social group.

sturmeh · 2011-09-09T15:19:43+00:00

You are not too cool for them.

T3hJ3hu · 2011-09-09T14:52:43+00:00

The next time you go out to sarge, make your target friends instead of women. Open sets of guys that are having fun and look like they're pretty decent at the art of seduction, to save yourself some headaches further on down the line. Hell, while doing this, you might actually end up pulling in more women, just because you'll be there having a good time instead of trying your damndest to pick up chicks.

Alternatively you could join a club for something you love, like some form of sports league, some writing/art classes, the Freemasons, or even find your local reddit meetups -- although that last one might not help with the ladies too much. ;)

feedthekitty · 2011-09-10T02:12:56+00:00

Hand out dick fliers with the line "nothing sexual" underlined

DesignMyself · 2011-09-09T13:42:54+00:00

I'm back in New York after several years away. I don't really know, but I'm trying to find out too. I plan on going out at almost any opportunity I'm invited. I'm not willing to settle for boring small-talk. That doesn't mean I'm always going to jump to deep serious topics. It means I'm going to be wiling to show myself in any interaction. I'm thinking these things will help.

AboveThee · 2011-09-09T22:54:30+00:00

My suggestion is to find local bars/pubs that have certain events during the week... For example by me there's a trivia night that I go to regularly. You will tend to see the same people and have more comfortable interactions each time you go. This won't give you an automatic "crew" but it's a start

2011-09-10T03:55:51+00:00

I never get how the hivemind works. I posted a similar question a while ago and got ignored. I guess it's all in the presentation--just like seduction.

revtrot · 2011-09-09T18:47:55+00:00

this is tough.
no easy answer.
i was in your same situation but much worse.
what worked for me was Meetup.com and starting to become a regular at certain places.

in this day and age of facebook and all that social media shit you can easily create groups around things you are interested in.

sevencoves · 2011-09-09T18:31:08+00:00

I'm starting to think that to make friends and to be considered a social person, you have to have money to do so. Why? Because I notice that the people that have developed a crew of friends are the ones that plan stuff, invite people out places, host parties...basically do the work of getting people together. And you need money to do that, which I have none of.

When I had more money I was more social and could do more stuff with my friends and wasn't lonely.

Am I wrong in this? Am I missing something?

screwthat4u · 2011-09-09T15:59:46+00:00

A Guy's friends are the people you have known forever due to work, school, etc, reconnect with those guys.

ShamwowTseDung · 2011-09-09T22:16:24+00:00

hang. out.

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