IAMA mPUA with Aaron Sleazy. Ask me anything you want!

puaCurveBall · 2011-12-08T23:43:43+00:00

How often do you still go out for ONS and meeting new women from the nightlife? What is the appeal?

Personally I've found that it isn't hard to find about 5 (where I hover) casual sexual partners and keep them ongoing, where all are great in the sack with good personalities.

I honestly have little or no motivation to go pick up girls from the club, as practically any night I can have a proven girl or two over at my place, while at clubs it is unlikely that the hottest there meet my sexual standards. All my new prospects are daygame and a bit online, as I can screen personality / sexuality instead of what I feel is a ratrace at the clubs, competing directly with other guys, alcohol, etc.

So, I suppose I'm asking, where are you at in your life with women right now, and why would you keep up the game of screening new girls at clubs when it seems so easy to maintain an ongoing set found elsewhere.

Thanks!

notlurkinganymoar · 2011-12-08T23:35:19+00:00

If you could give only one piece of advice to a guy just starting to game (e.g., one who still has trouble approaching girls), what would it be? How about for a guy with "intermediate" (read: can get numbers and k-closes) who's looking to up his game? Thanks.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T02:41:50+00:00

Theillbehaviored:

You talk negatively about MM's linear model, because you already know what your doing, but for someone who has NO IDEA what there doing it is helpful. Seriously, I rather follow an overly elaborate plan then have no plan at all, atleast then I always have a way to handle contingencies. Your argument against it is that you can usually seduce a girl much faster without going through all the steps- current day PUA resources recognize this fact- RSD refers to it as 'excessive gaming', even MM and SS both state that the rules and system they established are just guide lines, break them if you need to.

I'm not sure that “practicing approaches” and “doing warm-up sets” is particularly helpful.

I don’t know how old you are, but you probably are familiar with the video game Super Mario Bros. for the NES. The goal is to finish level after level, and eventually defeat Bowser. The goal in pickup is to have sex with a girl. But what is the equivalent of the standard way of applying MM in terms of Super Mario Bros.? To kill yourself by running full-force into the enemy ("warm up sets").

I do provide a very clear plan, and I invite you to make yourself familiar with my material before making any accusations. Yes, I don't make use of the MM framework, because there is no need for it. Of course, at one point you have to say hi, and in the end you’re hopefully going to have sex, but that’s where the similarities end. At least there won't be any LMR. ;)

Everyone knows girls are as horny or more horny than men, thats nothing new.

Oh, is it? If that is really the case, then why do mainstream PU methods beat around the bush so much? If she’s horny, then address that instead of asking, “Who flosses more, men or women?”. Oh, wait, that didn't sound quite right, but nevermind. Really, if female horniness was on the radar of mainstream gurus, then they wouldn't have to bother with “transitions” after X hours.

Besides, "everyone knows" is a weasel phrase. Before Semmelweis everybody "knew" that doctors didn't need to disinfect their hands...

rmbarnes · 2011-12-08T23:10:08+00:00

I've been getting into your stuff recently, so I'm glad you're doing this AMA. I'm looking forward to getting your new book. I like your style, because as an introvert I don't like to have to spend too much time chatting to girls. I've read Sleazy stories and they sound like fairly accurate descriptions of how nightclub pulls actually go down.

Some questions:

You make out that most PUA gurus exaggerate how often most half decent guys can get laid. What do you reckon is a realistic annual lay count for an average looking guy who goes out most Friday and Saturday nights (given that he approaches regularly)?
I've heard that you are very good looking. Reading Sleazy stories it sounds like a very high % of girls you approach have a high interest in you from the start. Could this not be attributed just to looks, meaning that your 'way' of pulling won't work effectively for the average guy?
How long did it take you to get good at picking up women, or were you mainly a natural?
You mention seeing big name PUAs at work in London and not being impressed. Do you have any anecdotes which will get across what these guys are actually like with girls in the field (naming and shaming optional)?

alexryane2 · 2011-12-09T02:04:09+00:00

Why do women who you've been seeing for a reasonable while (6-12 times say) sometimes suddenly cut all contact and completely blank you with no explanation?

Now I know the obvious possibilities, let's forget those for a second. We're talking about women who really seemed to like you, they saw you again and again, maybe you were sleeping with them or maybe not yet but you were certainly making out, so not 'friend zoned' and there was obviously something going on or you wouldn't care so much that they stopped. They gave you serious indications they had deeper feelings for you but then suddenly, nothing.

This feels like a phenomenon to me and one that should be thought about. Because its happened to me and just about other guy I can think about and always with the girl we really actually thought of as kind of special (I know I know, I'm almost done!)

Let's call it "girls who suddenly ignore you, too long in the relationship for them not to be attracted but not long enough to call it a breakup". What are your thoughts?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:32:46+00:00

indigObstacle:

You mentioned that one of the reasons you were able to get really good really fast was that the rest of your life was in good order. I think that a lot of students of seduction have the belief (whether to their knowledge or not) that seduction is an area of their lives that is unrelated to the other areas like socialization, health, fitness, work, money, etc. This is not the case, though, and all areas of life are interconnected in ways that are not immediately obvious. I learned this the hard way - the best way to learn IMO ;)

I was hoping you could talk about this in a little more detail. Where does/should seduction fit in with the rest of one's life. What constitutes the sort of lifestyle that is a solid foundation from which one can spring up into higher levels of achievement, presence and awareness in seduction? And, if you don't mind, in what ways was your life in good order for you to learn so fast? Thanks!

I’ve noticed that most guys in this “community” don’t really care about reaching “higher levels of achievements” but just want to get laid every once in a while and eventually find a cute girlfriend. If this is what you want, then just focus on your work, make sure you are financially stable (as this is very important for girls who look for a boyfriend, at least once they are out of college), and have one or two hobbies that allow you to meet people. This will not turn you into a second Casanova, but you will meet enough women who share at least some of your interest that those comparatively modest goals can easily be reached.

On the other hand, if you really want to pull a lot of girls, and don’t care about your relationship potential, then move to a big city, only work part-time if at all, live near the cool bars and clubs, and make sure you never run out of condoms.

When I was devoting a lot of time to seduction, I had a rather flexible schedule as I was studying for an MSc in London. I was always good at handling even a tough workload, and in fact I managed to have the first draft of my thesis done before most of my fellow students had even started. Then, I was living in Soho, one of the main party areas. This meant that I only had to walk down the road if I wanted to have an adventure. Three amazing night clubs, and a couple of rather decent ones, I could walk to within at most ten minutes!

Also, I was in a pretty decent shape. No, I am not buff, but because I have a very low level of body fat, I don’t look too bad either. I was not afraid to talk to strangers, having been active in student societies for years. Lastly, one of my friends gave me a fashion makeover, and that was all I needed to get pretty good within a few weeks, and outstanding by any standard after some months.

PUATHROW · 2011-12-08T23:11:18+00:00

What are the major differences between Pick-up with a final goal of a LTR and normal ONS pick-up

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:04:08+00:00

Blake277:

My question is about sexual tension. I tend to talk quite a bit upon meeting a new girl - not because I'm naturally talkative, but because it feels more comfortable to do so. I understand that this often takes a lot of the tension away, but I seem to always default back to it as the sexual tension makes me uncomfortable; I don't know how to deal with it. Does the discomfort come from not knowing what to do with this tension? And what are some practical solutions (e.g. mediation, etc) to help me become more comfortable with it (so I don't try to defuse it immediately)? Your latest book should be arriving soon, and I look forward to reading it. Sleazy stories was a freakin' fun read.

First of all, thanks for buying Minimal Game. Please let me know how you like it!

Your observation is correct. The discomfort does indeed come from not knowing what to do. If I wanted to sound a bit pompous, I’d say it is an example of the “horror vacui”, the fear of emptiness. Meditation is one way of learning to endure “emptiness.” However, you’ll also find that you can work on this directly. Next time you talk to a girl and notice that there is some tension building, just hold it. Force yourself to keep your mouth shut. At first, it may feel uncomfortable, because you are afraid of sexuality, but you can quickly learn to enjoy sexual tension. It really is just a problem of discipline.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:17:34+00:00

Frogma:

How do you deal with LMR? Can you give me an example of a time where everything seemed to be going right but you still got nothing out of it?

LMR is actually a big mystery to me, no pun intended. I don't think I have ever encountered it. Sometimes there are some logistical hurdles, but that’s a different story. For instance, a couple of years ago I found myself undressing a girl I had pulled from an after-hour, and what happens? Her mother calls, showering her with accusations because it’s 9 a.m. and she hasn’t come home yet. Apart from such rather comical situations, though, I couldn’t give you an example of LMR as it is commonly described.

Mystery’s LMR, which he actually calls a fixed part of his method of seduction ("it's not solid game without LMR"), is in my opinion an effect of the kind of game he promotes. You get it because you spend too much time with your balls tucked in. Would you, instead of using a “neutral” opener and some incredibly awkward “transitions” like palm-reading, make your intention clear from the get-go, LMR wouldn't be an issue.

You_Are_Loved · 2011-12-09T01:18:41+00:00

Why "Sleazy?"

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:45:22+00:00

Buzz_Le_Dingo:

What is your opinion on monogamy? Is it sustainable in the long run, or will you likely have some kind of open relationships for most of your life?

Ask me again in thirty years! I am currently in a monogamous relationship and very happy with it. I have tried open relationships and other correlations, but they were not much more than glorified “fuck buddy” arrangements, with some additional downsides, so I didn’t pursue this path any further. No matter what you prefer, though, there are always some drawbacks. I used to be skeptical regarding monogamous relationships, but it turned out that it is just very difficult to find a decent woman, but once you find one you really like, it's actually rather fulfilling.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:37:51+00:00

JohnnyBaap:

I know you like sexy stereotyping a lot. Could you suggest how one could figure out which sexy stereotype will best work for a person? Most of the people who I see using this to best effect are those who use the "rockstar" or the "wall street banker" stereotype. Could you give examples of what other stereotypes can one use? Just briefly about myself - 24 year old, 5'9", about 140lbs, very skinny, brown skinned guy. Any suggestions on what might work for me would be sincerely appreciated. Could you also point to some resources on fashion? Thanks

Just think about what you like. I used to love listening and dancing to indie rock music, so it was just consequential to copy a certain outfit that happened to be rather timeless, too.

Is there a sport you like, i.e. actively do, or “something” you identify with? Once I was working with a guy who had the same issue, so I asked him what he likes to do in his spare time. It turned out he loved riding his motorcycle and taking good care of it. My advice was to then just wear his heavy biker boots and leather gear when he’s going out as well. This has been working very well for him. Women regularly eye him whenever he enters a bar.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:19:40+00:00

drufs:

What is your opinion on why men (especially a great percentage of the seduction community) are so socially awkward? Is it a factor in their childhoods? Is it the media and Hollywood shoving "ideal romance" down their throats? Is it parenting, the lack of father figures, and being raised primarily by women? A combination there-of? How can we prevent this in our own children?

I think it’s a combination of all the factors you have listed. Many boys nowadays grow up in broken homes, and don’t have good role models. More often than not, they are taught by female teachers, which comes with a whole slew of other problems. That they grade girls better, and are more inclined to scold boys for "misbehavior" is another. (There are studies on this.)

How do you prevent it? Be a good role model yourself. Demonstrate to your son that you won’t let other people walk over you, that you won’t take shit from a girl, and show him that he doesn’t have to be afraid of other people. I think teaching by example is the only way to go here.

anonymous_hero · 2011-12-09T16:13:21+00:00

What's up with posts like this: http://aaronsleazy.blogspot.com/2010/10/tribute-to-tyler-from-rsd.html ?

You're a salesman, selling your product. But your blog is full of personal attacks against other salesmen.

In your free book you spend a lot of time (rightfully) discrediting the industry, and painting a picture of "getting your dick wet" within a few minutes of meeting a human being (which is a magic trick we'd all pay to know, of course). But where's the useful information? What's your actual message, besides "Haa-Haa! Tyler's wearing glasses! He's losing his hair! He's got a double chin! What a loser!"?

Seriously, what the fuck? Haven't you got anything worthwhile to say? How about concentrating on enlightening us, instead of badmouthing others like some teenage drama queen?

You and your fellow salesmen all have something to sell us, but most of them at least dole out some little nuggets of wisdom (or not, as the case may be) in between their sales pitches. You just concentrate purely on hawking the shit out of your shit.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:06:10+00:00

Blake277:

in your experience --- what percentage of women were out alone, vs with friends?

In clubs, it's indeed rare that women go on their own. I couldn't give you a percentage, but it would be a very small number.

heckz · 2011-12-09T19:40:30+00:00

Does your "seduction" work support you fully financially or do you do other work too?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T20:37:12+00:00

Can you sum up your approach? I tried to read interviews and whatnot but I don't really understand it.

How do you compare to 60 years of challenge? I like his style and you're affiliated with him so I assume you're similar. I like his physical style, but I am more interested in day game (which I don't think it will work for).

How does your material work for day game or college? I prefer it since I see girls I wanna chill with or do dirty stuff with, but I don't really know how to do it, especially on public transportation.

I like how 'real' you are. It seems like a lot of pickup artists are just there to pick up girls, fake it and sell products and not really improve themselves. You have an approach that seems genuine.

Thanks for taking the time to get on reddit!

ThreeLetterName · 2011-12-09T22:25:08+00:00

Hey Aaron,

What's your take on the differences between older and younger guys trying to get girls; specifically, if a guy is in his early 20's and does not look mature? Where does that leave someone in such a position? I understand TVA may be an exception :)

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:07:51+00:00

Do your tactics work as well on intelligent women? What percentage of women in general do they appeal to? Be Honest.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:43:54+00:00

IV-65536:

You say you teach good guys how to get better. What are these >already-good guys lacking that experience doesn't correct?

By “good" in this context I mean guys who have been with a few women, and ideally have had one or two one-night stands. What I try to avoid is getting a complete newbie who would need to fix so many basics that he won’t get that much out of a one-on-one. With those, I prefer just doing a phone session to get them into the right direction, and if they later on need more help, they can of course book me again.

When working with guys who have had some experience, I focus on fine-tuning their appearance and giving them feedback on how to become much more efficient. A big issue is that they notice that she is interested, but play it way too safe. Of course, sometimes, they lose the girl as a consequence.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:11:06+00:00

Is there a way to "target" (sounds fucked up) women who would be more interested in getting laid that night/day/ 5 minutes from after you meet them. Meaning, is there anything you specifically look for before approaching women, or do you just approach women you want to fuck and push for the sex as soon as possible?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-08T23:19:37+00:00

TheDukeDevlin:

It seems to me a linchpin of what you teach is cutting out the fluff and focusing on what actually works. Do you have any advice on how we can apply occams razor to our game and separate what really works from "fluff?"

That’s a great question! First, you have to have a lot of experience. Say, you’ve only slept with three girls in your life, and base your opinions solely on that. Of course, it’s understandable if you think that it’s necessary to take them out on dates, and talk to them for hours.

But what if you had been with ten girls instead? That’s not a bad count by all means, and it will give you a much different frame of reference. Maybe you’ll have important insights such as that it only took you 30 minutes to kiss Jenny, who didn’t seem particularly “slutty”, and thus that it may not take three hours on your date with Susan next Tuesday. Is this clear or do you want me to elaborate further?

TheHeartOfZen · 2011-12-08T23:27:24+00:00

Hey Sleazy,

2 questions:

1] When you began Zen meditation did you just observe the breath (like Vipassana) and progress into shikantaza or what?

It seems that you follow the "Experience is the best teacher" way of seduction and had a lot of success doing so (I'm sure other variables are involved) but...

2] How do you suggest one accelerate one's learning curve without reading about/relying on the experiences of others? An efficient "self-debugging" path of seduction that minimizes blind spots is what I'm essentially asking.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:10:00+00:00

What was your life/career/hobby background before you got into pickup? Would you say it's important for a man to have his own shit going on, in order to be confident enough to pick up women?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:02:46+00:00

drufs:

"Fix your life first, and the women will come." A 5/10/whatever bullet list of things all men can immediately apply to their lifestyle that would make them into A Better Man. Elaboration would be cool, but a bite-size version would also be cool for the ADHD crowd. Another way to ask this would be "5/10 steps incoming noobs should apply before even thinking about seduction techniques".

Off the top of my head, I'd say that those are the most important basic issues:

Living where there are enough of the women you want
Having your own place
Some money to spend (no, you don’t have to be rich, but having enough cash for a cab, for instance, can make the difference between sexual bliss and blue balls)
Be in shape. No, you don’t have to bulk up, but you shouldn’t be fat either.
Have time and opportunity to meet girls
Make friends
Dress so that other people get an idea what you stand for

notlurkinganymoar · 2011-12-08T23:28:16+00:00

Hey man. Thanks for doing this. Any sex tips for a wild ONS?

Afct384 · 2011-12-08T23:41:03+00:00

Any general advice for a senior in high school? Books to read? I'm not very good with girls, not very social.

Also, how do I get over one-itis? Told the girl how I feel. She doesn't feel the same. She LBJF me.

Thanks

tryhardest · 2011-12-08T23:50:37+00:00

Hi Sleazy. I think I've seen you write that you tend to sleep primarily with girls who you would also consider a relationship with. Given you seduce so quickly how do you manage to filter out the girls that are unsuitable for relationships? Thanks

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:24:57+00:00

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AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:35:41+00:00

Buzz_Le_Dingo:

Hi Aaron! I was never a big talker and you were one of the first guys I modeled when learning this stuff.

I’m pleased to hear that and feel flattered. I’m not a big talker either, by the way, because I find small talk incredibly boring.

What is your take on evolutionary psychology as it applies to women, relationships, and seduction? I have read Sex at Dawn and it was pretty convincing, as well as debunking some old evo-psych theories. Have you read it and if so what's your take? I know there is a lot of pseudo-science out there, but are there any books/resources you would recommend?

I’ve heard good things about Sex at Dawn, especially when compared to other books in this area. However, I haven’t read it yet. My take is that any “science” that postulates hypotheses that cannot be tested can’t be taken seriously. If this sounds too radical to you, then just pretend that I’ve written, “should be taken with a grain of salt.” Therefore, I don’t spend much time thinking about those hypotheses. I view them as entertainment, and if there’s an interesting insight I get from it, I’m happy. I certainly don’t let any wild theories influence my view on the world. A good book that’s somewhat related, however, is Nancy Etcoff’s Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:39:31+00:00

Buzz_Le_Dingo:

Do you still mostly meet women at clubs or has that changed & how/why?

It’s been a while since I went to a club. This part of my life may be over. You have to see that I am in my early thirties now, and after a few years in this scene, you really do grow a bit tired of it. (I do have plans to release a book on “club game” that collects what I learnt from playing that kind of game very successfully for a long time.)

MonkeySteriods · 2011-12-09T01:56:43+00:00

How do you like Berlin? I found that its rather easy to open there. I tried to introduce 2 new people and have them blow out on introductions in the UBahn, they opened and started a conversation. I was shocked.

Anyways, where are your favorite places to game/sarge/work in Berlin? Have you gotten in Suicide Circus yet?

jerseykid · 2011-12-09T04:01:43+00:00

I'm a guy who was at about a 7 looks-wise before dropping to a 3 or 4. How do I deal? I am going to the gym getting my body in shape. Going to pick up your book, looks great from the preview. Thanks ahead of time.

CaptainLeader · 2011-12-09T06:02:31+00:00

Any close calls with STDs?

Jakegarr · 2011-12-08T23:17:55+00:00

I like to hit on women that most guys wouldn't for good reason. I don't see it as a problem but can see how other people would.

Should I call notice to it and say it's no big deal or ignore it completely?

notlurkinganymoar · 2011-12-08T23:31:19+00:00

How do you deal with girls who get clingy after ONS, whom you'd like to remain friends with for social circle reasons, but aren't necessarily interested in hooking up with again?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:07:32+00:00

djmarco:

Hi.what do you think about Jeffy? from RSD? I've met him and he is cool and no nonsense guy. anyway Can you give a break down how to do dancefloor game? I am interested in Dancefloor game but I can hook a set more than 2 mins or friends will ALWAYS cockblock. Thanks.

I haven’t met Jeffy and I am not overly familiar with him. People say he loves to fuck fat girls, but if that's what he likes... One thing I found odd about him, though, is that he seems to extremely exaggerate the quality of the women he's with. There was a whole series of posts on a girl he called "chessclub." You'd think she was a a complete stunner, and would dress really cool on top, too. Yet, a few years later there was a seminar he did with her, and she was nothing special at all. Even calling her plain would have been a compliment. So, if this was his "ten" I don't want to know about the other women.

About the dance floor: two minutes is a very long time. If you think she has some interest in you, try to get her off the dance floor straight away, and tell her friends that you’ll bring her back. Sometimes, they’ll cockblock you as if there’s no tomorrow, but this strategy works very well in general.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:51:12+00:00

MonkeySteriods:

Correct my if I'm mistaken, but your system suggests one on one seduction, rather than dealing with groups. [Picking out girls away from the group rather than with their group]. Why would you pick this route? It seems a bit unusual and more for people looking to avoid solving their issue with AA.

The most compelling reason is that it’s much faster and leads to infinitely greater success. Entertaining groups is more often than not just a waste of time. If you think you’d have no approach anxiety when approaching a girl when she’s on her own, then maybe you should go ahead and try it. It will probably be much harder for you, because you can’t pretend that you aren’t interested in her.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:31:24+00:00

JohnnyBaap:

I have a question regarding physical escalation. Could you give a few tips on how to escalate smoothly in an interaction where the girl is showing interest? My current problem is that I initially came from a position where I was just not escalating at all on any women. Now trying to reverse that scenario by being aggressive, my escalations have become very uncalibrated. Right now my strategy is to just push it and hopefully after some practice, I will get better. I read your post on Really Smooth Escalations, and I understand my problem right now is that I am escalating off of her "push"-es than her pulls. I still tend to fuck up a lot though and am missing our on very good prospects. Could you give more tips on how one can be more smooth at this?

In order to avoid being too pushy, you can play it very safe by putting your hand on her lower back, but not in an awkward way but such that two or three fingers are actually resting on her ass. This will make it perfectly clear to her what you want, without being so forward that you will actually risk losing her. You can be smooth and still get the girl. There is no need to push the interaction as hard as you can. Especially when you know that they are very good prospects, you should take care to not overdo it.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:38:22+00:00

Buzz_Le_Dingo:

Since you were so heavy into clubs, did you ever find that you were really good at meeting people at night, but still experienced social anxiety during the day, at work, etc.? How did you make the transition to a more "normalized" way of being?

Actually, I don’t think there’s a big difference in principle. Admittedly, I don’t like the idea of “street game” as you often really just intrude on other people. This was demonstrated very well by some “PUA” I hung out with in London once to show me his stuff.

On the other hand, in any setting where you could naturally talk to a woman, I had no issue at all. This included the university campus, bus stops, public transport, shops, etc. It’s not that I had to or would have approached every girl I saw, but I’ve done it a few times, and had some great interactions, one of the most memorable being a wild make out during lunch break with a girl I had only known for 20 minutes ago or so. (Yes, I met her again.)

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T02:33:59+00:00

Theillbehaviored:

I have studied pickup theory from MM, RSD and SS and have used elements of MM and RSD in field successfully; never had a chance to use SS yet.

Would you thus conclude that studying SS wasn't the best use of your time. If not, then please explain why.

You make it seem as though your ideas are SO revolutionary and profound, I have heard many of them from other PUA sources. You listed so many discrepancies within the community yet only offer a handful of alternatives, most of those alternatives are already mentioned in some other seduction material: for example, you stated how numbers are not solid and how easy it is to get a number, and just because you acquired a number doesn't mean your going to get called back; Tyler Durden says the SAME EXACT thing in his Foundations DVD set. Actually, your 'simple' way to get a girls numbers (Tell her to put your number in her phone then to call you), is EXACTLY what Tyler Durden said to do in his lessons. Your really bringing NOTHING new to the table

The problem with the “mainstream gurus” is that they tell you an awful lot. Let me tell you something: If I strolled down to church next Sunday, dragged the poor dude from behind the lectern and into a studio, put him in front of a camera and said, “Tell me everything you know about seduction. And if you don’t know anything, just make something up. You’ve got 20 hours!”, what do you think would happen?

Of course, some of what he said would be true, but a lot would just be conjecture and speculation. How else could it be? I hope you understand what I am aiming at.

Also, I do provide an alternative. Check my homepage, read the interviews I've given, skim the articles on my forum, or have a look at the second half of the Debunking the Seduction Community. All of this is available for free. Of course, I'd appreciate if you bought Minimal Game.

Also, my “simple way of getting a girls number” doesn't sound like the course of action I recommend.

cold_winter · 2011-12-09T01:03:50+00:00

Can I sell a shitload of PUA e-books to some poor fellas by just inventing stuff about me travelling to hip cities and fucking random tens, while looking/dressing good and being an overly confident douche?

I mean, was I born ready or am I just that awesome?

MonkeySteriods · 2011-12-09T01:59:33+00:00

Whats the deal with the whole "everyone else is a con artist, except for me" attitude? The bigger names in the industry style/mystery/deangelo sell a product, its not a solution that works for every single person, but they work. [You can't make a product that works for everyone]

Also, there are plenty of "pua gurus" that double as a lifestyle coach, you're not the only one out there.

jamma27 · 2011-12-09T02:04:11+00:00

As someone who's been a student in the UK, any advice for very loud Nightclub game? Bars are ok, but clubs are just too loud! Also, any general advice for a AFC at uni?

MonkeySteriods · 2011-12-09T02:53:45+00:00

How do you deal with feminists?

InternetAmateur · 2011-12-09T04:17:49+00:00

I haven't read the book yet, but I'll definitely pick up a copy after reading your comments here. I recently started reading a bit about this stuff, after realizing I'm an AFC. I'm married, and have had several girls fall into my lap in the past, but I'd chalk most of that up to dumb luck.

I'm pretty shy, and my wife is a bit shy too, and we both usually go out together with friends. What I'm wondering is if you have any advice for meeting people when I'm already married (this could apply to anyone in a LTR as well)? I'm already letting my AA win, but opening people with my wife around seems so unappealing to me. I feel like if I get blown out in front of her, it'll be an even worse disappointment than if I was with my friends or flying solo.

jros14 · 2011-12-09T04:31:44+00:00

Hi, I'm just starting to get into this. I have a dead-pan voice... a lot of people tell me I don't vary my tone of voice very much at all (or my facial expressions). Once people get to know me I can be pretty funny, but generally I get misunderstood by new people I meet, and I have trouble making girls I just met laugh, even if it's something that I think is funny and I'm just entertaining myself by saying it.

Any tips on improving voice tone? I've been told reading a book about stand up comedy could help... would you recommend this?

SpiderFan · 2011-12-09T05:09:46+00:00

How are some guys able to sexually escalate so quickly? I remember back in high school the 'cool' guys would regularly spank girls, and put their hands up their skirts.

I remember this one guy. This one time Girls would go up to him and be like 'I like your chest" and poke him in the chest. And then he would be like 'hi, uh, i like your boob' and poke them in the boob. Laster on, I was like 'wtf', and one of the girls was like 'oh, it's funny, cuz he's socially awkward, and that's what a socially awkward guy would do'.

Here's another example: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gA4Bji7Afdk

How are guys able to do this?

shogun21 · 2011-12-09T08:27:11+00:00

What are your life goals? And what do you think your ultimate purpose in life is?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T10:42:23+00:00

Sorry if this is late, but,

Have you ever been with a girl that was initially unattracted to you? Have you ever been able to build attraction as opposed to exploiting attraction that's already there?
What's your take on street game? i.e. picking up girls walking in random directions on the street?

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T10:51:55+00:00

Hey Aaron, I have this issue where i'm a 5'3" asian guy, and honestly, i even look nerdy. the few times that i've had a girlfriend, they don't want to be seen in public with me. It's really starting to get to me. No matter what I do, it doesn't change the fact that a 5'11" blonde doesn't want to walk around in public next to a 5'3" asian guy, and people always look at her and then look at me. It's really getting to me.

RedPosterboard · 2011-12-09T13:28:46+00:00

Hey man, what's your take on handling situations where your mind goes blank soon into an approach because you either sense she's not that into you or she's uncomfortable with the situatuation, and so you start to panick?

... Also related to the same situation; how do you avoid ending up in questions mode? I've gotten most success from direct day game and have done hundreds of direct day time approaches - I commonly end up in situations where I feel that I'm loosing her, so I start to grab for anything I can hold on to by asking too many questions. Sometimes I fail to connect on her answers properly since I have to do most of the approaches in Chinese (living in Beijing), which I don't master.

Do you have any suggestions? Thanks for your time, brother :)

slowhands69 · 2011-12-09T18:35:55+00:00

Hey Aaron, I'm a big fan of your minimal no nonsense approach...you plus 60yearsofchallenge plus puahate helped a lot in getting over the bad programming that the community gave me and fucked up my mind so thank you! Couple questions....

1) Did you meet your current girlfriend from the club scene? I ask because I still have this view that while girls from the club scene might be fun....they aren't many that are relationship material.

2) Fashion tips - Exactly how outlandish did you do the rockstar look when you went out? I keep my indie look pretty standard and safe, tight jeans, cool shirt, usually don't accessorize....how much did you amp it up?

3) Any tips for guys on the shorter side? - I use to read stuff from theletter, short asian guy that from what I read did pretty well for himself, (have you ever seen him in action btw?)....is height one of those things like looks where it can limit you but worrying about it doesn't lead anywhere?

4) Any advice on coming back from a rejection?

5) Any tips on how to look good dancing on the dancefloor instead of a tool.

6) Not a question but you should get 60 to do one of these.

7) Who lies more? :D

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T00:35:25+00:00

JohnnyBaap:

In your view, what are some of the things which guys who are from ethnic minorities looking to seduce regular chicks do to maximize their chances? I read your advice that you should stick to more "international" type events. That works very well for me. Any other things which you feel might help?

If it works for you, then keep doing it! In general, though, you should try to seek out situations in which your minority status would be a benefit. For instance, if you were a Spaniard living in Berlin, you’d surely find that if you taught your language to a room full of eager women, some would inevitably come on to you.

For anything more concrete, you’d have to tell me what minority you belong to and where you live, though.

AaronSleazy · 2011-12-09T01:33:57+00:00

JohnnyBaap:

I am presently living in a relatively small city where cold approach is not very common. So social circle becomes very important. How to get more practice with sexual escalations in this environment? In a cold approach setting, it is easier to take more risks, and after enough practice, you can get good at it. I can't be very reckless in a social circle environment. So in this setting, could you give any tips on how you could show sexual interest in a girl, and how you could "test the waters" a bit with the girl before pushing the interaction far?

Is there a bigger city nearby? The problem in smaller cities, especially if they aren't university cities or tourist towns, is that you just don’t meet many new people as everybody will just stay within their social circle. However, you only have to get them alone. If you meet a girl through your social circle, and think she likes you, just ask her out on a “date”. It can be low-key like just a quick coffee, then you take a walk, and if you get a good vibe, you head back to your place.

Banake · 2022-01-26T20:56:08+00:00

It is weird to think that you made a AMA.

Title	IAMA mPUA with Aaron Sleazy. Ask me anything you want!
Author	AaronSleazy
Upvotes	49
Comments	165
Date	December 8, 2011 10:57 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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