I've always felt like I'm a mentally and emotionally strong guy. But after I recently got dumped (the relationship lasted almost five years), I realized one thing: No matter how strong you are, how much you can lift above your head - it means nothing when the ground disappears below you.

I was lost, but I decided to use the old "fake it 'til you make it". And this week, I made it.

I went out pretty much exactly 3 weeks after the break-up, and I was approached almost instantly by a really cute girl I'd been flirting with some time back, which ended with more than a phone number, and we're gonna meet up again tomorrow. I also have a movie date on Monday with another girl I met earlier, we recently got into contact again. And then there's a third girl I recently met that I'm gonna see some time next week.

It would have been easy to ignore the attention I was getting, or even stop getting the attention at all, just because of how head over heels I was. But I didn't. And in the (almost) ten years since I discovered the community, maybe other than when I got together with my now-ex, I've never been more glad I stuck with it.

I've read so much about people coming out of long term relationships and having no clue what to do. That's not me, and it won't be you if you stick with the program.