I have a love/hate relationship with club game. On the one hand, it can be really fun when I'm with the right people, or by myself, because I get to go balls to the wall and I don't feel like I'm dragging deadweight.

On the other hand, club game sucks if you are not there with the right people.

If you plan on running game in a club, this is what works for me:

  1. You need to be in a crew of extroverts. Sorry introverts, the club wasn't built for you - no harm, there are few lost opportunities that can't be made up elsewhere.
  2. Every single person in your crew must either have zero approach anxiety, or can at least ignore it with you and your friends' social momentum. Be careful though, if their reluctance is so bad that it drains your own momentum, don't invite them to the club. They won't have fun, and neither will you.
  3. Have some good looking girls in your crew. Don't tell me you don't know at least one 7+ girl who will go to a club with you. If you don't, you aren't ready to be running club game. They don't even have to be single, they just need to be seen with you.
  4. Dance with everyone. Talk with everyone. Be seen - don't just stand around in one place in the corner. Move around and scope the place out, and more importantly, talk to one person in every room/area you end up in. Mystery peacocks for a reason - you don't have to wear a funny hat, but you sure as hell need to be in the social consciousness of people at the club.
  5. Don't underestimate lines - entrance lines, drink lines, bathroom lines, that is (queues for the brits). These are the most boring experiences that are part and parcel of being in a club. Be the group that makes being in a line fun, and you have a ton of cred going for you.
  6. The amount of kino that's acceptable on a dancefloor IF A GIRL IS VIBING YOU is hilariously high. But, do not start at 11. Escalate, and don't be timid. If a girl is dancing with you, smiling, and laughing at your jokes, you should be escalating like you're trying to reach the moon.

So, I had to write this because I was at the club with my girl and our friends. Our crew is me, another guy, and seven girls.

Naturally, we're quickly surrounded by dudes who do everything BUT approach directly.

Here are the common mistakes that they made (over and over) that you should avoid:

  1. Being seen standing around in the same spot for 20 minutes doing nothing and pointing, as if to say "I want to approach but I'm scaaaaaaaared." I'm a dude and I thought that was weak/creepy. I was rooting for these guys to man up and swoop in. Didn't happen.
  2. When they DID make a move, they tried to approach the girls from behind. EVERY TIME. What the fuck? Nothing says "zero confidence" like watching a girl from the front, then walking halfway around the dancefloor so that he can spend the next two minutes dancing closer and closer until they "accidentally" bump into one of my friends.
  3. Anytime you approach a girl and make like it was an accident and then try to finagle your way into talking to her, it will seem fake. Unless you're really fuckin' good at acting. Hint: you're probably not. In which case you need to work on direct approach.

There was one guy who managed to k-close one of my friends, and got her number. However, she won't be going out with him. She says because he was boring. Even the kiss was boring (get good at this, by the way). Informative, I know.

Don't worry, though - I got your back! I was keenly observing exactly what he was doing right, and wrong during the whole process, because my girl and I are into that kind of thing.

Right:

  • Kino - this guy didn't have any qualms about it.
  • Isolation - got our friend away from us with a cigarette break.
  • Looks - he was a very put together guy compared to the others who were trying to break in.
  • Conversation (?) - she spent a lot of time talking to him. That could be good or bad though.

Now... here's why he didn't get laid, and why she won't be answering his calls.

Wrong:

  • Was seen orbiting - he was hanging near our group for a good 2-3 minutes before approaching. He at least approached directly, but before that he was just staring at us with his friend.
  • Did not escalate - beyond basic kino, this guy wasn't stepping up his game on the dance floor. In fact, he looked extremely uncomfortable there the whole time. Don't be uncomfortable. If you're not a dancer or enjoy dancing, fine, but then you better isolate and come up with a more fun idea quick, and one where you can ramp up physical/sexual aspects of the interaction.
  • Continued to orbit - never did this guy leave our friend's side for the entire hour leading up to last call. I mean, the isolation was a good call, but after they returned, he kinda just hung there looking awkward when she wasn't dancing directly with him.

For serious. If you are pussyfooting in a club, you will fail. Period. So, bring the right ingredients, and follow the three second rule. Being blown out is perfectly fine. Shit, take a month to get your first 50 blow-outs so that you get used to it. After you realize that all it means is "no thank you," you can move on with your life and bang a whole bunch of chicks. Sometimes at the same time.

I'm hoping all those guys went home thinking "damn, I knew I was taking too long/being too indirect/not having confidence. I'll do better next time!"