I rarely approach these days but whenever I see a 10 IRL I usually say hello. So this one had her laptop out, earbuds in at a restaurant. I tried to make eye contact but she was ignoring all strangers as most tens do. She was sweet to the server though. That's all I needed to make a move. I tested the waters then approached.

 

Long story short she was a drop dead gorgeous 22 year old. Killer style. We chatted for about twenty minutes. Really sweet lady. Casually it came up that she was living with her boyfriend. Turns out they met on tinder. I just got back on tinder so was curious. Get this. She went on 2 dates total off tinder. The second date ended up becoming her bf. Back when I was super active on that app I went out on like 30-40 tinder dates. Most were meh. ( fyi I'm not a looker but super confident / awesome personality.. )

 

Anyway, the reason for my post: know how most hot girls on tinder want to get to know you first on the app before they give out their number and agree to go out? That's because they can have literally any guy on that app. Literally. So they are EXTREMELY selective. No matter how good looking or tall you are they won't care because they are twenty more guys that are better looking who just super liked her. So she's trying to narrow it down to 1 guy that she'll actually go out with. So she starts making you work aka "get to know you". Once the date happens, if you're not awkward AF it's pretty much a done deal. You're not going anywhere because she's sweet, young, and drop dead gorgeous. So a relationship ensues. Meanwhile a thousand dudes on tinder liked her and super liked her and are staring at their screen waiting for her to swipe right.

 

Btw if she was single I would have had a chance. She asked to stay in touch and asked for my info. There's absolutely zero chance I would have matched with her on tinder. Zero. Even if she swiped right and I killed it with the jokes and got her number there's a 100% chance she would have flaked. I've been on tinder long enough to know what my pictures and killer text game can and can not do. Bottom line if you wanna score with a ten on tinder you have to be extremely attractive, be willing to waste time "getting to know her online for days" then if you're lucky you get a shot at meeting her. Or you can just walk over like I did and say hi. Hope this was somewhat interesting to some of you.

 

tldr a) a ten only gave a chance to 2 out of gazillion dudes on tinder. The second one is now her bf and she's off the market b) I would have had zero chance of meeting her via tinder. Hung out with her for a while effortlessly in real life by approaching during the day

 

UPDATE: Many asked about how I was able to not let the headphones bother me. Let me put it this way. First of all a ten is never going to be chilling by herself with a big smile on her face waving at you and waiting for you to approach her. There are usually a few cockblockers, gfs, thirsty dudes trying to get her attention, her phone going off, etc. Headlhones are not a big deal, if earbuds intimidate you you're not ready to approach tens. ( or even 8s ).

 

Let me put it another way. If she was wearing headphones and you knew her car was getting towed would you feel comfortable approaching and saying "hey your car is getting towed". it costs like $200 to get a towed car back. No big deal. I'd like to think what I bring to a romantic relationship is worth many thousands, and if I don't trully believe that I find a way of convincing me of that. I hope I'm making sense, I can clarify if I'm not just lmk.

 

UPDATE #2 She just hit me up and straight up asked to hang out again so I'll be deleting this thread TOMORROW sorry. If anybody wants to read the entire thing do it today. The chance of her finding this on reddit is super tiny but it's still there thx for understanding.