Just about every week on r/askreddit someone posts the question, “what non-sexual act turns you on?” One of the top-rated comments from women was watching a guy back in the car while having his hand on the passenger seat headrest.

Now, I have no need to use my arm like that; I can back-in perfectly fine with the mirrors and a slight shift. After driving to the place, having some casual conversation, a little banter, a couple of jokes which she laughed at, we get to the parking garage.

The guy gives me the return ticket, and as I’m about to back in, I put it in my mouth like a cigarette, put my arm on the headrest, and back my car into a tight space. I did it subconsciously, more than as a way to show off or look cool, and joked about it afterwards. I’d known this girl a total of 10 texts (met on bumble), and a 15-minute drive, yet I could see her watching me intensely as I went through the motions, to the point where I almost felt self-conscious.

I teased her, lead, made her laugh on the date (all of these are important of course), and even though I wasn’t that interested in her, we hookup and decide to head back to the car. Once we’re in the garage, she said, “I knew this was going to happen after watching your little back in maneuver with the car.” I almost started cracking up, because I took that advice from women on a reddit post, and the rest was history.

Edit: we made out at the venue then went back to her house. She was talking about sexual things on the walk back to the car, so we both knew it was happening, and she confirmed it with the car line mentioned in the story above.

If you go to r/askreddit or r/askwomen and search the word “sexual” or “non-sexual” you should be able to find multiple threads to browse for yourself.