You're a guy, you like sex right? You like meeting women? You enjoy flirting? Let me let you in on a huge secret.. Women do too. They like attention. They enjoy flirting just like us. Why wouldn't any human enjoy feeling desired?

"No shit" you say. Well if it's so obvious why do we forget these simple facts when we see a hot girl and make any lame excuse we can to not talk to her.

"Oh she's grabbing a drink with her girlfriend, they don't want to be bothered." Or "There's no way she's interested in me, she's fucking perfect."

Let me tell you about my Friday night which really opened my eyes to never make an excuse again.

I was out at a restaurant, sitting with about 8 guy friends in their outside seating area. About thirty minutes in, two girls are sat at the table directly behind me. Directly behind me, like I could have turned around and touched them proximity. We're at a big table and the two girls are in a small table that only sits two.

One girl is honestly one the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. Her friend.. Her friend was not. Her friend was obese while the other girl was very fit. Huge difference between the two girls. This is important later.

My friend and I are trying not to stare and going through the whole "you talk to her" "no you talk to her" lame bullshit. 30 minutes goes by and we haven't said a word to these girls because "they are just having a nice dinner, they don't want to be bothered by us." And the one girl "is fucking perfect she has to have a boyfriend...no way she'd be interested."

I was visiting from out of town so I really wanted to pull through and wingman for my friend.

I get up to use the restroom and when I get back the girl's have gotten their bill and are about to stand up to leave when I finally say something stupid to the not attractive friend like "you girls leaving so soon? Where are we going". We start talking to the non attractive girl first and eventually bring the other girl into the convo (this part is important later).

They were new to the area, we chatted for maybe ten minutes, gave them bar suggestions, and finally told them to just come out with us.

6 hours later the hot girl and my best friend are pretty much in love making out like crazy outside the bar at 2:30 am.

What the girl's said to us the next day blew my mind. The host tried sitting them at another table and they told him no please sit us next to that big group, in the hopes that one of the guys at the table would talk to them. We didn't say a word to them for an hour because we didn't want to bother them (excuses) and the whole time they were sitting there wondering why we weren't interested. When you think about it, it's simple.. DUH .. Guys like attention from women, and women like attention from guys.. 9/10 times they go out to talk to guys... Just like 9/10 times we go out to talk to women. They're not that different than us.

Second big thing: remember how i said we talked to the ugly friend first? The gorgeous girl said "you guys were talking to my friend, I thought you weren't interested in me, only her and I was starting to get upset" This girl was a fucking perfect 10, gorgeous face really sexy body and her friend was obese maybe a 3 and the 10 thought the 3 was prettier: that's how self conscious girls are. So never stop yourself from talking to a girl because she's "too pretty" for you because women are just as self conscious and shy as we are.

We're all humans with the same desires and the same fears.