I walked into the bookstore and I head towards the area where they sell pastries and refreshments.

I quickly noticed around 6 or 7 beautiful women sitting alone. Some were eating pastries, some were drinking coffee, and some were studying with their laptops open.

I decide to approach a beautiful blonde girl sitting alone on her laptop.

What did I say to her?

I said, “Hey I though you were cute and I wanted to say whats up.”

She said, “Sorry I’m busy”.

I said, “Ok no problem”.

On to the next one.

I literally approach another woman who was sitting about 3 feet away from her and I say the same exact thing.

She gives me a similar response.

Did I give up after 2 rejections?

Hell no!

I see another beautiful girl (she happened to be much more attractive than the two women I opened first) who looked to be native American.

I go up to her and say the same exact thing, “Hey I thought you were cute and I wanted to say what’s up.”

Her response?

She said, “Hey what’s up I’m Samantha”.

I introduce myself and go into a playful conversation (with injections of sexual tension) that we both enjoyed.

However, what makes this interaction different from most is that it ended with her asking me for my phone number.

Why?

Well, let me break it down for you, because this has happened to me more than once, and I’ve noticed exactly what I’m doing different in those interactions that result in the woman asking me for my phone number.

The first thing I do, is I get a couple rejections out of the way.

When you get rejected a couple times, you start to realize that rejection is not that bad, and as a result you won’t try to avoid it as much because you simply aren’t really affected by it.

When you are not afraid of rejection and you’re calm and relaxed when interacting with people you will resonate confidence and you will be more attractive to whoever you’re speaking to.

The second thing I do is I listen carefully to what the woman is saying in the interaction and I ask her questions that will allow me to enter her world and really get to understand what she is going through.

I find out what her passions are, what her goals are, what her hobbies are, why she does what she does, and her philosophy on life.

Lastly, I connect with her on the points above, and I show her that if she gets to know me her quality of life will increase because I have high value when it comes to her goals and aspirations.

In the specific interaction with Samantha, I found out that she was studying business marketing and she was interested in the business world. I happen to have lots of experience with business marketing and I was able to show her my value by speaking about my experiences, successes, and failures.

She realized that if she connected herself with me her chances of achieving her goals would increase.

The icing on the cake was that I could hold a fun conversation, I displayed self-confidence, and I was presentable.

So, what I’ve done here is I’ve set the frame that I see her as a romantic interest from the beginning by telling her I thought she was cute and that was the reason why I wanted to talk to her. I was playful and flirty with her in the interaction.

And lastly, I showed her that by connecting with me her quality of life will increase and her chances of achieving her goals in life will increase.

So, when I told her I had to leave, she realized that if she doesn’t get my contact info she will miss out on the value I have to give.

To sum everything up.

If you want women to give you their phone numbers, you must find out what they value in a man (and what they value in life in general), and you have to display that at a high level, while also displaying confidence, social skills, and inject sexual tension in the conversation to avoid being put in the friendzone.

If you do those things you will notice more women asking for your phone number and asking you out.

Yes, you heard that right. Not only will women give you their phone numbers, they will ask you out.