If you think a girl is 'Out Of Your League'

Theplayasclub · 2019-04-25T18:50:59+00:00

As much as I’d like to believe there isn’t a ‘league’ there is. Guys and girls who feel someone is out of their league are usually right. Don’t be like everyone else and think it’s looks that define league, that’s not it at all.

You have to realize that someone who socializes more than the average person, takes care of themselves, and works on their future; is way ahead of someone who only goes to work, comes home to porn, weed, and video games.

Being social requires you to learn social do’s n don’ts. Taking care of yourself, and planning your future requires study an implication. You won’t go to the gym for the first time and try to workout with someone who, obviously, looks like they’ve been going for years. Why? B/c they are out of your LEAGUE and all you’ll be doing is hindering their growth b/c you have nothing of value to contribute.

joestar0 · 2019-04-25T21:20:57+00:00

Don’t y’all realize the OP is trying to game you folks.

Classic make you feel like shit for not being alpha.

But wait you can learn it too.

How?

Look to the guy who called you out to give you answers for the low price of $XX.XX.

InterstellarReddit · 2019-04-25T17:16:14+00:00

By walking up to a girl, you're putting her in your league and now she has to prove that she's worth your time.

classylassy28 · 2019-04-25T19:32:12+00:00

How do men experience attraction?

the5percenter · 2019-04-25T20:17:24+00:00

If you believe a beautiful stranger is out of your league, I'd advise you to work on your self-esteem…

I agree, this is so important and has been one of my limiting factors. What's more annoying is I am cognizant of the fact that I have 'sucess' in most if not all other aspects of my life as well, from looks, to physique, to charm, wit, humour, intelligence, career etc etc. Yet STILL because I have been out of the game for so long and the fact that I never went ALL IN to game/approach development when I was younger that insecurity/fear or don't know what to call it exactly is very strong, and needs for me to correct it every time.

Dan-tastico · 2019-04-25T22:00:27+00:00

Alright so how do you work on self esteem?

2019-04-25T18:05:26+00:00

i'd say remove the existence of any kind of 'league' to begin with

saintmrdog · 2019-04-25T21:59:49+00:00

20 positive things about myself!? I only got this cute smile ;)

RowRowRowsYourBoat · 2019-04-26T06:55:45+00:00

I've been thinking about how to improve self-esteem. Do you know any books or resources that have helped people in this regard? And what are some example traits that could be in a list of 20?

DajuanKev · 2019-04-26T15:19:40+00:00

Go up to them, don't expect you can convince them, don't let their disapproval hurt you. Just be confident and don't give af.

phx_throwaway_thing · 2019-04-25T21:20:31+00:00

Does this apply to dating in the gay community as well?

Like if I, someone who is has a good face but is pretty overweight, try to go up to some nice skinny guy do I even have a chance?

DhatAsianDude · 2019-04-25T23:57:23+00:00

She's not out of my league but women are hella stuck up these days. How to deal with stuck up ladies?

xoxuv · 2019-04-26T01:45:08+00:00

Most dudes on her "league", or even "higher", were total betas that pedestalized her and made her puke.

You are over those dudes just by not pedestalizing girls.

Next time you see a hot girl, look at her, and see how many losers put themselves under your league, and how desperate she is for at least a normal guy.

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ArmitageShanks69 · 2019-06-22T08:59:54+00:00

This is no doubt one of the many, many reasons I will never meet a woman as all of them are out of my league.

2019-04-25T17:21:07+00:00

Thanks for writing this. Everyone needs to hear this.

bigtuna45 · 2019-04-25T17:27:26+00:00

Thanks. I was at a bar with no one there and a hot girl walked in. Gave me constant IOIs - kept looking at me, making eye contact, etc. I didn't approach because I figured she was out of my league. Regretting it now!

_cg88 · 2019-04-25T19:02:46+00:00

Saved! Take all my upvotes...

TheJoeyJoeJoe · 2019-04-26T03:24:18+00:00

Just to clarify a few key points.

Yes, there are 'leagues' when it comes to personalities and quality of life. You can work on yours and improve it.
You shouldn't judge a beautiful woman who you've not even met as 'out of your league'.
Whether you believe or not you're in someone's league, you're often likely to be right

Cheers,

Joe

2019-04-25T20:21:23+00:00

There is no 'out of league' bullshit invented by some looser

Veiran · 2019-04-25T20:58:16+00:00

There are tons of attributes she values more than height, muscle and a strong jawline.

Assertiveness.

Charisma.

Confidence.

Groundedness.

Humour.

Intelligence.

Leadership skills

...to name just a few alpha-male traits.
These are far more valuable to a woman. If you have these in abundance, you should be able to beat off the pretty boys every time.

And what if you don't? Sh*t outta luck?

If you struggle to list at least 20, start listing things you need to work on. Then, start working on them until she’s not out of your league any more…

Were it so easy.

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You mention changing oneself to fit the mold of what these people want. What happens when, years after marriage, a man's grip on his desire to grow and be better slips, reverting him back to the less-motivated self he was before? These "tips" are incredibly short-sighted. But... I suppose this subReddit is, too. :mull:

MBSCinsight · 2019-04-25T21:14:15+00:00

I do think that some beautiful girls are out of my league and I REFUSE to DOWNGRADE to their level...But I can live that.

Title	If you think a girl is 'Out Of Your League'
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Upvotes	516
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Date	April 25, 2019 5:10 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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