Social Status is King

redditlegacy689 · 2020-02-10T14:21:23+00:00

This shit is so underrated, but it is also pretty hard to do for someone that is introverted and isn't that social.

Skinny_Wizard · 2020-02-10T16:17:01+00:00

Amazing post,thank you very much.A thing to note for the people reading this is that you shouldn't be a clout shaser,dont try to be friends with girls or popular people in general if you dont enjoy the company.

skatinislife446 · 2020-02-10T14:15:38+00:00

Cool report. Sounds like being non-needy helped just as much.

It’s both humbling and alluring when multiple women are overtly showing interest in you at the same time. You get to experience the sexual power a hot woman has at any given moment.

ImJustSo · 2020-02-10T16:13:14+00:00

Well, being social is king. Having social status isn't the requirement. You can walk into a new situation and be the same person, who they have no clue about. Your demeanor, your approach, your treatment of others all clue people in to who you are and they will automatically assume your status.

Like I have just stood outside some bar and had a guy walk up to me with his date. He says, "Hi..." and when I replied, "Good evening?" not sure why he'd bring his date over to me, his response was, "Oh, sorry...you just looked important."

So maybe he thought I'm a manager or a bouncer or the door man to get in. Although, I'm standing well clear of the entry, so you have to look at it at face value. He legitimately thought I looked important.

This isn't a one off ordeal either. I'm approachable and comfortable to strangers. I'm important looking, I stand out from crowds, I'm interesting looking and I draw people in. This isn't something I've always been. It's a byproduct of applying social skills. It's an outward appearance built from thousands and thousands of interactions.

If others come into my presence, I don't shut them out. I don't close myself off. I'm not afraid. I'm not intimidated. I'm not anxious. I'm just there, eyes open, body posture relaxed, mouth amused. My eyebrows move, my lips smile, my eyes look around, and I'm expressing myself through everything I have. When it's time to speak, they want to hear it.

That's what being a socialized person does for you. Your status is apparent.

You know when people take their pups to the dog park, or doggy daycare, for the purpose of socializing them? You can tell when a dog hasn't been socializing. They look scared. They look dangerous. They look like they're going to bite you or your dog, should you be walking it by on a leash.

Start socializing yourselves, or continue looking like a scared dog that's ready to bite.

Mak0wski · 2020-02-10T16:52:15+00:00

Looks helps greatly in that. not to say that it's all about looks but it certainly helps

Zee4321 · 2020-02-10T15:38:05+00:00

You seem to have two points here: that women respond well to being treated as human beings, and that they are also automatons that are easily manipulated.

These are somewhat at odds with each other, and pickup artists that insist women are automatons you can manipulate tend to be lonely losers, not high social status dudes.

aaa19900 · 2020-02-10T15:27:32+00:00

I'm turning 28 this year, and have never had any intimate contact with any female.... HOW DID YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN??????

cactiguy18 · 2020-02-10T16:07:36+00:00

Very true. Times I've had more success, I've been with a group of friends when I met the girl, I tend to be a natural leader in a friend group and so others have picked up on that. Times I wasn't successful is when I didn't have any friends around and did it alone. There's direct correlation

isha_103 · 2020-02-10T19:01:12+00:00

Damn.. I'm impressed.

The-Cascadian · 2020-02-10T18:24:58+00:00

Awesome man, but you should also note that while social status is super important, the context is fairly different when you're doing an exchange program or simply just traveling. It's an easier type of game because the women in these situations are actively looking to make friends, go out, socialize, meet new people, and get with guys whereas when you're in your home city, women have routines that they follow and established friend groups which are harder to crack.

At home they're more interested in relationships whereas when they know they won't be staying long in a place, they're more open to sleeping around. I know because I've spent a lot of time on exchange programs/traveling and met a lot of girls and been in the exact same situation as you.

Social status is still king and you did everything right by establishing that friend group from the beginning, but it's important to realize the difference between creating social status with others that are also away from home and creating it at home with locals. Women are way more cautious in introducing you to their established friend groups and inviting you out with them when you're at home.

But well done man, I recommend going backpacking in Southeast Asia or Europe for a couple months and see how the traveling game treats you. I have a feeling you'd do really well!

blueidiot314 · 2020-02-10T18:32:09+00:00

I've been to Montreal too. I went there for a couple weeks after taking a French class. I was surprised to see a scientology center there.

SirBlankFace · 2020-02-10T20:14:56+00:00

You know what? I think posters need to start clarifying things like height, weight and just overall appearance because there's this post somewhere on reddit about this guy's friend being able to get away with saying rather rude/strong things to women, but when OP tried doing it, he was branded a creep on some "avoid list" in this chat room ran by women and couldn't interact with women because he wasn't as attractive as his friend. I'm sure this isn't the only example.

This is all good advice and i know the two scenarios are different but my point is women have standards. You may fall into those standards thus being able to get away with certain strategies/things while the reader may not. if you actually look the part, you're giving other's who don't false hope and they may need to try harder or ay need look for different advice.

anon3451 · 2020-02-11T07:15:05+00:00

I think it's all about value. Of course it isnt black and white but, I treat myself extremely high value at a gym ive been going to for 6 months. All the sexy female fitness trainers and other female groups that work out there all check me out. Im 100% certain they talk about me because of how they do it and give me choosing signals. Im sure at least one girl said they were interested in me, and if a girl says that to other girls they will also at minimum also be curious about you. Im always alone and never socializing but act like I'm always on my purpose and chasing success and act too good for them, never check them out

_IdesOfMarch__ · 2020-02-14T18:37:09+00:00

Since you have been gaming since 15 years and have been so succesful how about you write your own book/blog/reddit post of all you have learnt through the years.

Or just comment some good material over the last 15 years you have followed.

mr_sinister111 · 2020-02-10T15:37:58+00:00

Thanks brother for all this...guys like me can learn a lot...

Joshua3109 · 2020-02-10T15:58:39+00:00

You did Explore at 28?

Chill___Dude · 2020-02-10T16:33:38+00:00

Do you think not sleeping around was important? Looking at how Steph responded to you making out with Tiff, do you think it would have helped to take more of the other opportunities, or would it have been too much at some point?

bigbuddha47 · 2020-02-10T18:18:07+00:00

Do you practice online dating as well? Like tinder? Im more comfortable with infield, daygame because of my height and looks. However, I don't have the patience for texting or tinder game

Clipz_glOBOXx · 2020-02-10T19:48:23+00:00

social skill is also optain trough game, going against your fear, doing activites to built confidence and be funny

0urlasthope · 2020-02-10T20:12:36+00:00

Too bad friends are harder to get than hookups these days ...

uo1998 · 2020-02-10T21:12:44+00:00

Damn, why did you delete the post?!

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2020-02-11T05:20:46+00:00

What social status do college boys have .. "popularity" isn't social status

MyLifelsALie · 2020-02-11T07:05:04+00:00

Before Steph pulled you over, how were you interacting with her regularly? Were you nice to her and treated her as a friend or were you being flirty, push and pull?

usedtimecapsule · 2020-02-11T18:41:05+00:00

I feel like it’s kinda sad that you have to show disinterest and literally make out with another girl to get a girl to like you. But if that’s what a real man must do, then that’s what has to be done.

DirtyLickins · 2020-02-10T16:24:31+00:00

Fuck bro. Teach me your ways. I'm so envious, not of you, but your life.

haanyaa · 2020-02-10T16:55:42+00:00

Wow that was good, good for you bro. Social status is something difficult to work on (compared to body, etc) but you grasp it so well. probably a result of accumulating experiences, I’m assuming?

I have a question actually, Im going to university next year and want to accomplish your level of seduction. But there’s a few difference

1 Im going into comp sci so the people tend to be more “nerdy” and quiet. So it’s a little harder to initiate conversations and hang outs

2 I’m a straight woman, so it might seem weird or creepy (or I’m a gold digging egirl) if I approach a guy first

3 Im not looking for just hookups, I sort of want long term things

Are there any suggestions of approaches to establish social status for my case so I can make friends and find potential partners? I’m planning to perhaps join some clubs (dnd, magic, yu-gi-oh) for social but I’m not quite sure how to approach people or make friends for future uses of meeting partners.

Thank you!!

DrixlRey · 2020-02-10T17:51:54+00:00

Good for you! I think the key is that 1st interaction. How much do you think practice/natural talent/clothing factored into this interaction?

caesarfecit · 2020-02-10T18:09:38+00:00

Yeah social status definitely makes a difference. So do good looks and money.

They make you more romantically/sexually compatible with a bigger pool of women. That's why nearly every girl wants to bang Brad Pitt. Looks, money, and status.

For guys who are struggling with attracting women and getting female attention at all, these things might seem like the be-all and end-all of seduction. What you find is that while looks, money, and status definitely do make things easier, a chump with those things is still a chump.

A classic example of this is Elon Musk. Now I'm a big admirer of the guy, but a ladies' man, he is not. That guy on paper could have almost any woman on the planet, and instead he winds up with gold-diggers and weirdos. He may be a legit genius, but he's definitely not Tony Stark either.

Now, it's certainly a lot easier to cultivate the behavior and mindset of a ladies' man when you've got high status, but then you run the risk of becoming dependent on the things that bring you your status, like crutches. I've seen this too. And invariably, the crutches eventually get kicked out from under you and then watch out. I've seen people's egos collapse when they lost the things that brought them the social status they relied upon. When I was in a fraternity in college, it did wonders for my social status and social life in general. But when I left school, it was like starting from scratch. And I knew some guys who had a far tougher time of it than I did.

What's better is to focus on building an attractive lifestyle (which is a long-term project), and develop your social skills so that you can, if necessary, start from the bottom and work your way up. Then what social status you cultivate isn't dependent on crutches. It arises from being a natural leader with good social skills who can walk into a new environment and build relationships and earn respect.

Then you're even more of a badass than some overrated Hollywood celebrity or workoholic tech CEO because you can start from nowhere and build yourself up.

Then the circle is complete. You carry social status with you wherever you go because it is based on your personality, not external attributes. You don't need a job, a title, a social network, or any other bullshit to establish yourself as a high-status person. And you bet your ass women respond to that.

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recyclablebanthas · 2020-02-10T19:08:26+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2020-02-11T02:11:10+00:00

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Look guys, talking about being socially well-adjusted and how your social life feeds into your love life..... These are common sense things.

These are basic things. It's not humble brag. It's not fake.

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And OP no, this post wasn't deleted I don't know what your edit is talking about

Title	Social Status is King
Author	Joshua3109
Upvotes	393
Comments	90
Date	February 10, 2020 1:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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