lol seriously. 23f here. i rarely get approached in public by men and if i do they’re usually nooooot anyone i want to be associating with. i’m not really sure why this is because im objectively attractive enough, i dress fine, and i certainly don’t give off an impression of easiness. i go to the gym and out to bars and clubs on weekends with my friends just for fun but really not much happens. most of my relationships have come about through work or dating apps, and im not really satisfied with the kinds of people im meeting in either space (or they’re not satisfied with me :( )

i do think i need to have more going on in my life — i’ve been working a LOT since my last breakup and haven’t had much time to spare for anything beyond basic hygiene and housekeeping lol. i have lots of activities id like to do, like open mic nights and karaoke and martial arts classes and going to the shooting range and things like that, and obviously i want to do them for me, but it’s discouraging to feel like men aren’t interested in me irl no matter where i go unless they’re immature or unstable or dangerous types. idk does anyone want to share their meet cute stories or give me some advice :/ i get that this is just kind of how things are now but it stinks!

(also, advice on how to look more approachable would be much appreciated, apparently i have rbf and come across as shy and this is likely a good part of my problem but wtf does that actually MEAN and how do i physically change it?)