Problem was he struggled to get an actual relationship. He slept around a lot, but he was looking for something permanent, but couldn't ever find it.

He was very attractive, I mean captain America level attractive. He also would manipulate woman, he had canned responses down to a T and would pretend to be liberal when in reality he was a huge misogynistic bigot.

He got laid, sure. But sex isn't everything. He couldn't find a relationship that lasted longer then a week or two because woman would find out who he really was and dump his ass.

If you are attractive you can get laid a lot, but that isn't gonna help you be in a healthy long term relationship. Kindness, humor, treating woman like humans, and genuine connection finds you a relationship. Even if you got into a relationship just based off your looks, one day once the honeymoon phase wears off you'll be stuck with just you and your partner, and looks won't matter anymore.

I'm not attractive, I would say I am below average. But I have been married for 5 years now, and I'm in a loving relationship with an amazing beautiful woman. I have never had an issue getting into relationships, and the secret really is just treat woman like humans, don't go into it expecting or chasing sex, just talk to woman like you would anyone.

It really isn't a big secret, the bar is way lower then a lot of people think it is. Bless woman because they put up with some crazy shit. Honestly it kind of seems like if you are doing the bare minimum you are doing better then most.

All you need is to not be a creep, treat woman like humans, take care of your self, and have a bit of confidence. That's it, that's the secret.

Also one more thing, relationships are not everything. They are not the solution to all your problems, if anything they bring more problems. Work on making yourself happy and confident being alone before you try to bring another into your life, trust me it will go a lot smoother. Love doesn't solve life's problems.