Well, Just like that. It's done.

bind91324 · 2024-11-15T07:15:22+00:00

I don’t understand, it sounded like your spouse was having second thoughts about finalizing the divorce, why not give it a chance for reconciliation. It sounded like you did not want the divorce, what changed?

p71interceptor · 2024-06-03T20:18:08+00:00

I'm right there with you brotha. I have a 3 and 1 year old. I've stopped trying to figure out my ex. She was 19 when we met so I think she feels like she missed out on partying and exploring her sexuality. My oldest turns 4 tomorrow. I'm inviting everyone over including my ex. This is the end for our family unit the way I had envisioned it but it's not The End.

Hang in there bud. There's brighter days ahead.

Adventurous_Fact2083 · 2024-05-31T23:36:52+00:00

Sounds similar to mine but she went to jail not me. OOP and no contact. Served that bitch papers. We don’t talk period. Be a high value man and level up. My ex is a gutter slut and slept with the entire community but she also lost her ass. Here’s my old saying when they ask for divorce fucking give it to them.

WindowFuzz · 2024-05-31T12:53:54+00:00

Your journey is not over. Your kids need you. There is no benefit in beating yourself up for not being able to provide your kids a typical family. You mentioned that: “I grew up in a home without a father; that’s all I wanted to provide them. “

But the reality is, you can still provide them that. You can still be an active presence in their life and create a home for them with a father. In fact, there’s a chance that it will actually be a better home for them because now you will not be under the constant abuse and denial of your spouse. In the presence of your children, you are now free to be the man you want to be. This will allow you to be an even better role model for them.

After my divorce, my relationship with the kids took an initial downturn, but it has been steadily getting better and better because now I am finally free to laugh and be myself around the kids, no longer worrying about her constant glare, negativity, and envy that I am getting along well with the kids. The main things you need to watch out from her is that she might engage in a smear campaign against you; there are a lot of helpful YouTube videos about parental estrangement that you could look up so that you can learn how to navigate this thoughtfully.

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-05-31T02:36:12+00:00

"Sorry about that! I was lost in thought and meant to edit my message later, but I accidentally hit the wrong button on my phone. I have big fingers and the keys on my phone are small, so that's my excuse! Thank you for your kind comment. I was just trying to let him know that it's not his fault and to simply love his kids. I hope that came through."

JustAnotherBoomer · 2024-05-30T13:52:37+00:00

Your post is so sad, but that last sentence is a heartbreaker. Everybody read it again or don't. It's that sad.

Hopefully, she will find someone else soon, and the more enthralled she becomes, the better. This way, she will have less time for the kids, and you will have more. Somehow, someway, you will always find a way to be a great Dad. This I am sure of.

BoredPollo · 2024-05-30T13:30:41+00:00

If a woman can lie on the father of her kids so easily, then I know marrying a single mother is a terrible idea.

playerknowmore · 2024-05-30T12:40:21+00:00

I remember my wife telling me she wasn't happy. I looked her in the eye and said, " I work a job I'm good at, but don't like. I took promotions I didn't want for the family. I always have to be the stern parent with the kids. Sometimes, I punish them for a situation you created. You spend ninety percent of what I earn, and your money is your money. The prize you offer is the same pussy once or twice a week. I'm not happy, I'm content, and if you think you deserve to be happy, I deserve the same."

She never brought it up again.

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-05-30T11:35:01+00:00

Look, it's done now. Make it the best you can for you and your kids. The kids come first and just show them love and affection. I'm sure you're the worst in the world, according to your wife But remember she wanted this she was or is in an affair or at least talked with others who put this rubbish in her head just be civil when interacting just yes or no answers where you can Gray rock her she wanted out don't be nice to her it's a shame you went through this it seems modern women what the one percenters and think they will get the rich guy and be happy they forget theses guys what to just play around and when they want to marry they go for the younger ones not older divorced females I can't say if she did but usually there is something or someone in the wings egging them on good luck be the best you can be let the marriage off and find that special someone who will have you for you

xadmin1 · 2024-05-30T07:37:19+00:00

How long were you together and married for? How much did the divorce cost you?

Jiujitsu_Dude · 2024-05-30T04:59:29+00:00

Your kids won’t grow up without a father, you will be there every step brother.

warwww · 2024-05-30T00:54:14+00:00

It wasn’t dismissed, it was finalized. The judge asked her, the petitioner, if she would like to dismiss the case as he was growing weary with the case.

bluephotoshop · 2024-05-30T00:42:54+00:00

Your posting is a bit confusing. If the case was dismissed, does that mean the divorce was cancelled?
“Dismiss refers to the court's decision to terminate a court case without imposing liability on the defendant.”

Title	Well, Just like that. It's done.
Author	warwww
Upvotes	42
Comments	21
Date	May 30, 2024 12:03 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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