How important money/status is for a guy? Is it a huge deal or it's just a bunch of my insecurities? Please be honest.

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-05-31T03:21:57+00:00

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Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

FriendlyFun9858 · 2024-05-30T19:19:20+00:00

Money becomes more and more important to woman as you get older. Anyone who says money doesn't really matter is drinking copium. Lacking money doesn't mean you can't still get girls just like being a fatty doesn't mean you can't get girls- but it sure is harder.

Kylearean · 2024-05-30T19:30:14+00:00

Depends on a lot of factors.

If you're an 9-10 looks wise, you don't need money. Just show up.

If you're an 6-8, having enough money to be fully self-sufficient is important. Well dressed, clean cut, sociable, genuine, and confident are the necessary ingredients.

If you're below 6, be as rich and socially accepted as possible. Preferably with a yacht and a fan club (see, e.g., Pete Davidson, Adam Driver, Steve Buscemi).

Loopyrainbow · 2024-05-30T17:56:14+00:00

Looks, easygoing and socially fluent vibe are more important. As lame as it sounds, the most important thing is to be able to have fun. Most people are way too serious and rigid. Cyndi Lauper was right.

IIIllIIlIIIIlllllIII · 2024-05-30T18:11:30+00:00

Look at it this way. There are many things that tend to be attractive, including… - money - social proof - physique - appearance - confidence - humor

But you absolutely don’t need them all. Broke funny guys get laid. Rich boring guys get laid. Skinnyfat CEOs and roided up dropouts get laid. Yes, you’re being insecure by focusing on your weakness rather than your strengths.

ShittDickk · 2024-05-30T19:48:54+00:00

When i worked pizza 3 girls got herpes from the same coworker that had just gotten out of jail / rehab. It's insecurities dude.

TerminatorReborn · 2024-05-30T18:35:51+00:00

At your age it matters A LOT.

I have a saying that the older you get it's less about who you are, but more about what you do. What I mean is that in high school girls literally don't give a shit to anything beyond looks and personality. In college you take these two attributes and pair it with intelligence. After college people want to know what the fuck are you doing with it.

Seriously, just pay attention to girls our age talking about who they are dating, it's always bragging about their job title, how much money they make, the potential they have to grow in their career...

RandomBlokeFromMars · 2024-05-30T20:26:34+00:00

looks is far more important. after that, personality (and not the good one either, just watch all those videos where girls break up with a guy bc he is too good).
for money and power to have any effect, you have to be at least average looking, and not too nice.

if you are fat or ugly but have money, you can still pull women but they will cheat behind your back with the attractive ones all the time.

of course there are always exceptions or weird fetishes.

Captain_w00t · 2024-05-30T18:00:32+00:00

Money and status are only “relatively important”, but they aren’t nothing compared to your inner peace and mental wellbeing.

A lot of nice looking, decent status and wealthy people struggle with dating because they lack a lot of fundamental personal traits.

The truth is that look, money and status are totally ephemeral, they can come and go very quickly and outside of your control, but what your inner self stays there.

Being in your 30s means you’re at the top of your life, you still have a lot of choices ahead and nothing will stop you.

Maybe you just need to switch your mindset and focus on different aspects, enjoying what you have and improving from there.

First step is: stop comparing to others, focus on yourself, try new things and work to get what you want. Complaining about your status or playing the victim won’t help.

epimpstyle · 2024-05-30T18:03:27+00:00

I know that there are a lot of wealthy and fancy girls that won't consider even hanging out with you unless you match their lifestyle and wealth.

Right!

The solution is to look for girls with the same social status as you. When you look at a woman, you can estimate the level of her social status based on the way she is dressed, makeup, body position, skin, language....It is hard to explain, but you can feel it. Just lower the standards and you will be fine....

Money is not mandatory to have a girlfriend, in fact in Romania I know many couples where the man and his partner work together to save money for a car or a house, but they are happy with a pizza instead of going to a restaurant, they are happy in nature instead of an expensive trip .... you get the idea.

nordik1 · 2024-05-30T18:16:25+00:00

Status is the biggest attractor of women if you can attain it, but you don't need it to attract women. Most men who pull do not have status in the traditional sense.

With money you just need enough to be self sufficient and be able to date without stressing that you're not going to be able to pay the light bill.

a guy in his late 20's normally has all of his shit together and I'm still on my way.

No he doesn't lol. More people than ever are getting crushed by this economic state and there's people moving home in their 30s etc. I know a mix of highly independent financially successful people in their 30s, but also people that had to compromise to stay afloat even though they work a good job etc.

Stop worrying about these factors. Focus on money enough to support yourself, and dial in your social ability otherwise

MrAnonPoster · 2024-05-30T19:23:53+00:00

The answer is "yes". Thats what you should concentrate on - making $$$, not chasing skirts. Making $$$ will achieve two things:

You will have $$$ to spend on whatever the fuck you want
Skirts will be chasing you. And because to make $$$ you need to be a one street smart motherfucker, the skirts trying to get your $$$ wont help them but will help you

Kagenikakushiteru · 2024-05-30T19:35:44+00:00

Dude money is very important, but because of using it for seduction. Because when you wake up next day and the chick is gone all you have left is your money. Or you’d rather go flip burgers for the day for $20?

tantinsylv · 2024-05-30T21:02:33+00:00

I make more money than a lot of men. I don't need someone to make more than I do, but they need to be responsible with money and financially independent. Beyond that, I don't really care. I'm never combining finances with a guy again.

DaygameCode · 2024-05-30T21:24:51+00:00

Only if you want to marry, and want a drama free married life. But you shouldn’t even want to marry in the first place if you are smart. So to hookup here and there you don’t need that stuff.

spacemangoes · 2024-05-30T22:12:08+00:00

Follow the 3 rules.

Be attractive.
Follow Rule 1.
Else, be rich and be confident in what you believe. Case and point: Terrence Howard.

manyseveral · 2024-05-30T22:31:15+00:00

If you are studying for example a post-grad course at university, there will probably be girls around your area also doing that so those would likely be the best candidates to date

Mysterious_Pickle_78 · 2024-05-30T22:38:30+00:00

It depends.

R- selection vs K-selection.

If you have looks and game, money doesn't matter. But you need strong r-selection.

Hot-Turnover4883 · 2024-05-31T00:34:55+00:00

I don’t think much its mostly about looks. Just have enough money to dress well & pay for dates.

Quin2020 · 2024-05-31T01:29:26+00:00

if you're trying to get married then you're going to share a bank account so of course it matters.
Otherwise, status (job title, education) matters but not money. Just my opinion.

Afraid-Air1243 · 2024-05-31T02:10:38+00:00

Money and status are different. Status will always be important. Money is only important when your 25+, doesn't matter at all from 18-23 roughly.

However if you're extremely confident in yourself and are ambitious (working towards creating a better life) women are cool with that. Of course they'd prefer to wait at the finish line (a guy who's already rich) vs. a guy still in the race (a guy who may be rich in the future), but most women are actually cool if you're at least working towards something.

Sporty_guyy · 2024-05-30T17:42:53+00:00

It’s a huge deal . More than looks . Society measures you as a man based on who you are . And so do women . If you have a high status even your average loooks will be good looks . If you are nobody even your good looks won’t amount to anything .

Yoh6820 · 2024-05-30T18:05:21+00:00

More for a long term I guess

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-30T17:38:22+00:00

You are focusing on the wrong things.

If you don't stop now, it will cost you a lot. It might cost you your life.

Now, what do you actually want from women?

mister_k1 · 2024-05-30T21:25:26+00:00

having money means you can provide security and women are wired to seek that.

Title	How important money/status is for a guy? Is it a huge deal or it's just a bunch of my insecurities? Please be honest.
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Date	May 30, 2024 5:27 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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