Nun mode

Jenneapolis · 2024-09-06T22:28:01+00:00

On make up, you don’t need 10 hours a week to learn. Men like light and feminine make up - less is more! Go to the department store and the lady can teach you all you need to know in a couple sittings. I go for Clinique because it’s old school and therefore light and natural. I like some MAC products too but if you have them teach you, they’ll lay it on far too heavy. This is an easy one to check off your list quickly :)

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2024-09-06T22:11:36+00:00

In so far as losing weight, I recommend that you eat healthy foods. Avoid junk food and fast food. We usually lose weight by creating a calorie deficit. Walking is good to start, but you should work your way to getting your heart rate up also.

As for your improvement program, I suggest taking small steps and trying not to overwhelm yourself.

TheFeminineFrame · 2024-09-06T22:29:56+00:00

That’s a lot of time on makeup! Unless you are really passionate about it, your energy would be better spent divided between your other goals.

A more effective tactic might be to schedule an appointment at a beauty counter/store for makeup application. They can show you the basics. Then if you see a particular makeup look you like you can try that out.

I would also try to break down that recipe goal into something like “1 recipe a week”

Other places to meet conservative people would be church if you’re religious.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-09-06T23:36:25+00:00

Spend 10 hours a week on a second job, use the money from that to pay for professional MUA classes if you're actually serious.

Making learning makeup microtrends a part time job isn't going to help you achieve anything, literally.

OkKaleidoscope9696 · 2024-09-07T03:33:33+00:00

The most important thing is weight loss. Download the Lose It! app to count calories and record daily weight, follow weight loss subreddits and social media accounts, etc. You should do jumping jacks and jogging in addition to walking to get that heart rate up. Of course, strength exercise is great, too.

Healthy eating, healthy cooking, and exercising can become some of your hobbies in the process.

amityjeanklein · 2024-09-07T01:01:04+00:00

Firstly, I think you have a solid plan here and if you stick with it then you will be in great shape! As a former cluster b gal myself, I’m very grateful to myself for my dedication to nun-mode because it quite literally changed my life. Feel free to check out my post history for the deets there. :)

Secondly, this got really long and I apologize for that. Hopefully you find something that resonates with you, and that makes the wall of text worth it!

Side note: this could be confirmation bias, but I see a lot of posts here from women who relate to cluster b/bpd/etc. and I can’t help but think there’s a relationship between the RPW mindset and the successful management of those symptoms. I won’t get into that here because it’s off topic but it’s something I have given lots of thought to. Anyway, on to the good stuff!

Weight: Any effort is good here, I would suggest that you get into a consistent habit of tracking and walking and then add in strength training as soon as you’re comfortable. It’s a huge boost to confidence and self-worth, and you don’t have to go crazy - just enough to help tone (and potentially avoid loose skin after weight loss to some extent, if that’s a concern).

Mental health: DBT IS EVERYTHING especially with what you are dealing with. Seriously. Therapy is a great tool for understanding yourself and learning boundaries/coping skills, but the structure and accountability of DBT (even if you just get a workbook online and do it on your own) is the most effective way to get back behind the wheel of your brain, so to speak. It’s not fun/easy but it’s the Holy Grail of mental health treatment in my opinion.

Hobbies: No notes here, when I was in your shoes I made sure to schedule time for hobbies to make sure I was able to enjoy them and that helped. It’s easy to get caught up in life and lose yourself, so scheduling an hour or so to do something you enjoy is a good way to stave off burnout.

Job: Again, no notes. Having work experience and being responsible enough to get a degree is a great way to invest in yourself!

Friends: I’m also 26 and lean Conservative, it can be tricky to find people who share that mindset (depending on where you are, I guess). I would just suggest not discussing politics unless it’s appropriate and vet for friends in other ways, unless you’re firm in only wanting to socialize with people who are on the same page. Most of my friends are going to vote blue and I just don’t participate in political conversations with them. If you’re religious, try to find a church and be involved - that could be a little more successful than trying to connect at campaign events, especially this close to election time!

Cooking: I find a lot of great recipes on social media and have really improved my culinary skills by just saving recipes/videos and making them. My partner and I have a weekly dinner date night where we find a recipe and make it, and over the last year we have managed to find a pretty decent amount of meals that are simple/good enough to keep in the rotation. Consistency is key here, the more you cook the easier it gets to build confidence and make yummy food.

Dress: I did StitchFix for a while, it’s a bit cost prohibitive but it’s a good way to get an idea of what your style is! I also use Pinterest for help here. I just got my first “real” job in January and am finally getting to the point where I feel like I dress the way I’ve always wanted to. I’m still slowly building my wardrobe, and I have a lot of success at places like Goodwill and TJMaxx now that I have a better idea of the style I like.

Makeup: There are tons of content creators who are geared toward beginners, and teach the basics of everything from brushes to beauty trends. I strongly recommend starting with skin care; the better your skin looks, the better you feel/look (and the less makeup you have to wear on a daily basis). When you get to the point where you’re ready to date, this is crucial. Men notice how much/little makeup you wear and I was surprised to find that I got more compliments from the men around me when I started focusing more on my skin/doing “clean girl” makeup! (Obviously this is not one size fits all, and it’s up to you how you do your makeup!)

Psychology: Start with the books in the wiki here! You can learn so much, and also make progress on your goal of getting back into reading. Videos are great but I find that reading books is more individually impactful than watching videos by people who are motivated by money/engagement to get viewers on board with their personal interpretation of things. Either way, the wiki is the first place I’d suggest going to find material for your specific purpose here.

Closing thoughts: Have grace for yourself, and take it one step at a time. If you try to eat a steak whole, you’ll choke - cut it into bitesize pieces and enjoy it! This is a great plan but personal development has no finish line. Don’t discourage yourself by jumping in head first, just try to keep going even if you’re going slower than you like. I like to tell myself the goal is just to be 1% better each day, and if I make a mistake it’s okay as long as I learn from it. You can do this, and posting here/taking the first step is proof of that in itself. You got this! I’m excited to see some updates from you down the road. :)

babyegirll · 2024-09-06T23:09:48+00:00

I'd be happy to be your knitting buddy! It's my biggest hobby and I'm interested in making friends :)

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2024-09-06T23:31:01+00:00

These look great. The main thing that jumped out to me was you have very solitary hobbies and not much a clear goal/vision around your social life - maybe figure out how to either find a social hobby or make your existing hobbies more social (like start a weekly book or knitting club).

Out of curiosity how did you arrive at 104 recipes? That’s such a specific number!

CountTheBees · 2024-09-07T01:54:01+00:00

The only thing that's keeping you on that 1.5 year schedule is the therapy and maybe weight.

In terms of dressing yourself, look into seasonal colour analysis, and also figure out your Kibbe type. That'll help you build up a wardrobe of flattering shapes and colours.

Once you get started on any of these, adjust your expectations and goals you initially set out. Eg, if you try one recipe but don't get it right the first time, you may want to remake it till you are satisfied rather than try a new recipe.

Once you get started with makeup and clothes, you'll realise you need less time than you originally thought and don't need to do more.

If you're not losing weight as quickly as you wanted, you may consider adding eg yoga or running to your exercise routine.

I wouldn't copy YT videos for personality but do pick up a copy of Fascinating Womanhood & implement the strategies therein. Even the basic things like saying "yes" more or asking for help and showing gratitude, complimenting people around you, will go a long way.

You will get some socialisation opportunities from your school/degree so make it a goal to organise eg 1 social catch up a month with someone you meet there. Something like a movie or shopping trip at the local thrift stores. Trying stuff on and asking "does this look good" is basic girl bonding.

No-Comfort1229 · 2024-09-07T00:05:31+00:00

i doubt copying femininity videos on youtube will actually be helpful. if you want to become more feminine you can’t fake it, you should connect with your own feminine side inside you.

as masculine as you feel, everybody has a feminine side, you just have to connect to it and cultivate it. i suggest you try dance classes, yoga classes, spend time in nature, experiment with your looks, meditate also but not only on the sides of you you feel less comfortable bringing out and why, reflect on what you love about being a woman… and there are really countless other things you could try out, these were just off the top of my head.

AutoModerator · 2024-09-06T22:03:41+00:00

Title: Nun mode

Author MathematicianMean273

Full text: I am a hard nun mode case. I am 26 5’4 194 lbs with symptoms of cluster b. I have no hobbies, no job, and no friends (outside of my parents, that is) I don’t know how to cook, dress myself, or do makeup. I’m psychologically masculine.

Things to change

Weight - lose 80 lbs through calorie counting and walking

Mental Health - stick with a personal therapist and DBT for at least 1.5 years

Hobbies - get back into writing and reading and knitting

Job -find job through social worker - complete associate’s degree within 1.5 years

Friends - find places where there are other socially conservative people (volunteer at a Trump campaign, maybe?)

Cooking - Cook 104 recipes

Dress - look up how to dress guides and copy them. Overhaul wardrobe

Makeup -Spend 10 hours a week on TikTok learning makeup trends. Use money from job to buy makeup

Psychology - look up psychology of femininity videos on YouTube. Copy them

This process should take 1.5 years. Any thoughts?

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No-Diamond1824 · 2024-09-07T02:15:38+00:00

One more thing if you want to attract a masculine man:

Decentering men. Focus on loving yourself. Please youtube search Decentering men.

No-Diamond1824 · 2024-09-07T02:17:46+00:00

I used to worship having a bf and marriage. Until i learned, i still feel loved without putting men as the goal. And life is sssooooo freeing when you realize being single is a BLESSSING. please check subreddit SingAndHapp. Is soo peaceful there.

tornteddie · 2024-09-07T02:55:14+00:00

Maybe try a church for other like minded individuals if youre religious?

For hobbies, i know you mentioned knitting, i do crochet and find it much more versatile so it keeps my interest longer. Something to consider

littlechiz89 · 2024-09-07T05:28:14+00:00

I would suggest getting a smart watch like a Fitbit. Then, in collaboration with the Fitbit app, you can track all your nutrients and calorie intake, your sleep, your menstrual cycle, it will automatically track your steps and calorie burning and exercise, there's also a spot for mindfulness/meditation tracking. Plus you can measure your heartrate trends too. I learn so much about my sleep patterns from my Fitbit. I would suggest a Fitbit Sense, personally, because they track the most of your vitals and activities. This could help you lose weight and feel more aware and in control of your health.

Journaling helps too, I track everything I do everyday in an app called Daylio. Like everything, from whether or not I listened to music that day, meditated, ate fast food, had a bowel movement.. literally everything, and you can customize and add your own activities to track. Plus it gives you a spot to write a note about the day and even add photos from the day. It will help you keep track of your progress on all fronts and follow it in an easy to review, visual way.

(Regarding the Fitbit: not only all of that, but you can read and reply to text messages on it, answer phone calls without having to dig out your phone, read emails, calendar alerts, alarms, etc. My life would feel so lost without my Fitbit, honestly, haha.. and the alarm is just a vibration on your wrist to remind you to do whatever, so its discreet and not disruptive at all!)

Dionne005 · 2024-09-07T08:40:19+00:00

I don’t think I’d go to a political campaign for friends. Mainly because the focus isn’t you it’s the politics. Even when you’re outside of it or once the election is over in two months the relationship will most likely end too especially if one loses. Instead try conservative like festivals. Maybe invite your parents out to the last BBQ fest in your town and try to run into folk or a music fest or pumpkin fall fest. Everyone loves the fall. I’m sure there will be lost of apple cider events going on or maybe even hard cider. It’s a great time to make real friends outside of politics. The focus is you and them not Trump or Kamala.

Title	Nun mode
Author	MathematicianMean273
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Comments	36
Date	September 6, 2024 10:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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