Ex in the middle of moving out.

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-09-24T23:19:00+00:00

Your best friend would never do this to you.

BatGroundbreaking771 · 2024-09-24T19:47:12+00:00

Are you seeing a therapist?

stupididiot78 · 2024-09-23T21:10:24+00:00

She's not your best friend anymore. She stripping your home and making things terrible for your kids. Remember these times.

Movieman_Steve · 2024-09-23T17:10:45+00:00

When the kids are at her place, work on yourself- gym and therapy. And when they are with you- only be there for them. Take the love you would've put towards her and give it to them. Make plans on calendars like when you have them- plan trips to the park or if you're near forests hiking trips. It'll be hard but be positive around them, don't let any negative emotions show cause your kids will soak that up and bring it back to her to use possibly as evidence in the soon to be custody battle that will be on the horizon.

No-Asparagus6937 · 2024-09-23T13:00:59+00:00

Sell the house and move some where new. It will help you move on faster

SufficientCurve4934 · 2024-09-23T11:31:34+00:00

I am really sorry.

I decided to stay in the same house after she left a few months ago. I redecorated, got rid of all the shared memories. Mostly, I am doing well, but it’s still a rollercoaster. I didn’t think of her for a week, and then yesterday, when I went back to the bedroom, I could smell her. It was probably an old blanket or sheet she had washed before, or maybe my mind was playing tricks on me, but it just crushed me, and I started crying like a baby.

Now, I’m thinking it might be better to move out, no matter how much I like this place. Something for you to consider as well later on.

Ok-Prize-6217 · 2024-09-23T10:27:03+00:00

Sorry for your pain. And especially the kids. I'm about to go through exactly this in about a month. At least we're both moving out, so I'll have a new place to go that won't remind me of us. And my son is actually excited about things. I guess that's a blessing.

I remember many years ago I had to break up with a woman who lived with me. She had a son about my son's age at the time. Telling him goodbye was the hardest thing I'd ever had to do up to that point. Watching my son drive away this time is going to be hard. But I will see him occasionally.

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-09-23T06:25:32+00:00

She took things apparently & usually with other family male member. YOu did not expected that but it is a very classic move., like jab & uppercut in boxing lol.

Lesson learned for the otehrs: one process of divorce is started, you are at high risk of spouse theft so protect your most important personl assest firsr.
than Make an inventory of what you have, along with invoices stored somewhere other than at your home, and possibly involve a judicial officer. In most cases, there is generally no theft before the first court hearing, so it's more or less 'open season' until then. Same thing with your car: put a hidden tracker in it such as an airtag

Livlife2fullestt · 2024-09-23T00:49:54+00:00

I could have written this. Together 11 years since I was 19. Only ever lived with her. Got our first appointment together. Did the whole adult thing with her.

Feel free to DM me. It fucking sucks but like a phoenix rising from the ashes we will rise.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-09-23T00:39:53+00:00

I've only ever lived with her

This is driving 95% of the feelings

fixingmedaybyday · 2024-09-23T00:15:41+00:00

Redecorate ASAP. New furniture style, repaint if you can, new wall art and different layout arrangements. Make the home uniquely your own. These early days suck a hurt worst than anything. You can get through this. Be there for your kids. Don’t lean on them for emotional support but do let them know that you’re sad too. Hold them if you can and then go do something fun. My heart aches for you man. Always remember, you got this.

Title	Ex in the middle of moving out.
Author	Still-Average9690
Upvotes	31
Comments	30
Date	September 22, 2024 11:59 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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