How are you able to tell at clubs/bars if girl DTF during a convo or looking to go home with someone BEFORE you open?

jackzander · 2024-10-01T01:30:12+00:00

Reddit won't tell you this, but girls that are DTF will wear earrings only in their left ear.

Viktor2500 · 2024-10-01T10:03:49+00:00

I have a feeling that in your attempt to avoid the hard stuff you're just searching for a clue that will allow you to just go up to the girl, say "Sex?", and make her go home with you and ride you. This doesn't exist! The only way you can tell is by flirting with her and seeing how she responds to you and even then it's not guaranteed. If you're looking for an ONS just make sure to be direct and not playing around and if she doesn't give in the tell her it was nice meeting her and go do some more approaches.

MyUsername0_0 · 2024-10-01T01:48:48+00:00

You will never know exactly what a girl is thinking or her situation. You can make assumptions but they are often wrong. You have to approach them and figure it our through conversation or other types of communication.

Quartrez · 2024-10-01T01:16:34+00:00

You don't. You talk to her and go from there.

Magnetar402 · 2024-10-01T02:18:45+00:00

Dude they post in the club WhatsApp chat, did they not add you?

itsnikho · 2024-10-01T11:54:37+00:00

Wanting to predict future events low this instead of engaging and finding out as you interact it might be a clear sign that your brain is coming to with strategies in an attempt to predict future social events to protect you from the anxiety, which is why you must double down on cold approach to gather experience and be comfortable in your own skin. Good luck.

4025808 · 2024-10-01T02:45:12+00:00

Some of my experiences included: - stares at you and waves at you - bumps into you at the club (obvious one) - complies with you to go on the dance floor - able to make out with you - if she initiates it then definitely, otherwise if she complies with you making the first move then ok - she herself says the place is boring, and to go somewhere else

dobbs1997 · 2024-10-01T01:13:20+00:00

lol why do you wanna know ? why not go over and find out if she’s down to go home with you

2024-10-01T10:07:58+00:00

There is no magic handshake. No Magic code.

You approach, break the ice somehow, be it verbal, non verbal.

Then you show interest and escalate whilst making her safe around you.

Then you lead the interaction to a location where you can be more intimate and you seduce.

At any point in this process, you may get rejected, you accept that and live with it.

However, there is no magical shortcut, no magic words, no magical fucking bandanna that women wear.

Its about you, are "you a" or "becoming a" man that women want to fuck. If your looking for magical shortcuts, probably not. Embrace the ambiguity, embrace the challenges and go get whatever it is you want. But accept, that like anything worthwhile, its gonna be a challenging journey.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2024-10-01T02:05:13+00:00

There isnt a code to women. Each girl is different and your approach should be flexible depending on your audience but adhering to certain principles.

berzerker5000 · 2024-10-01T02:16:27+00:00

You don’t know if she is open to same day lays in bars/clubs but you can tell you got a chance when she gives you the sparkle eyes. It is a certain look. Once you get that look, you know she is down to kiss at least and go from there. If you get to the point of talkin dirty, and she reciprocates with dirty talk she is DTF fo sho, but some girls don’t dirty talk and are still dtf. So no hard and fast rules but certain choosing signals like that she gives are good signs.

Sandvicheater · 2024-10-01T06:28:09+00:00

Until you seal the deal in her bedroom until then anything before that all bets are off and there's no guarantees in this world cept death and taxes.

I've had dates with women were they were hanging onto my every word and giving me the "fuck me" eyes all night only to get a peck on the cheek for the 1st 5 dates before she let me onto 2nd base.

Then there's 1st dates were the woman was neutral in her responses and was a pretty cold reception and later that night I was knocking boots in her bedroom the same night.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2024-10-01T13:20:45+00:00

Bro! just approach you be shocked how many women look closed off... arms crossed angry face, looking like she hates the world and when you open she becomes like a purring kitten... just some girls have a hard day at work and want to let loose

TvIsSoma · 2024-10-01T02:19:41+00:00

Yeah there’s a special smell to them. You should go around sniffing and ask if they are DTF so you can make the association muscle memory.

Or just fucking talk to them you weirdo (I say this with peace and love). It depends on a million factors including how the interaction goes. Her mind isn’t set when she checks you out, it’s set when she gives enthusiastic consent.

ellabbanlaith · 2024-10-01T12:30:28+00:00

dude it’s not that complicated, if they wanna go home with you at the end of the night they (probably, not guaranteed) wanna sleep with you. stop trying to figure it out before

MrMetraGnome · 2024-10-01T17:54:01+00:00

I just wait for the double take. Say something out loud that anyone can respond to, if she does, we're golden.

YoRafa97 · 2024-10-01T04:09:16+00:00

As someone who’s been going out every weekend for the past year, I can tell you that it’s very difficult to tell if the girl is dtf. Girls can change their mind in a split of a second, are easily influenced by their friends, and can be just messing around as they basically have unlimited option at these places. Keep your expectations low and don’t give af, say hi and see where things go, escalate quickly (touch,kiss) if all go through then initiate the pull. If you get a no or Idk then on to the next one

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-10-01T03:37:44+00:00

Stop being a pussy and go talk to her. You're literally just thinking of reasons not to approach

highjinx411 · 2024-10-01T03:58:36+00:00

She will come up and start stroking you while whispering or yelling in your ear “Are you DTF? I am DTF tonight with you if you are DTF!”

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-10-01T05:16:05+00:00

Attitude needs to be most girls are if you’re the right guy

All_Day_ADHD · 2024-10-01T03:12:06+00:00

You walk right up to her and smile, grab your junk and say "you want it, don't you? Let's go" start to walk away and if she follows I believe she's DTF ...... It works 100% of the time 3% of the time, I like your odds.

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-10-01T03:11:21+00:00

Okay, with that info you're 5'7-5'10 with dating site stereotypes. Honestly you sound average; and lacking social skills while being average won't help with first impressions and getting a foot in the door.

Females play games and work the system too just like men. There's honestly no telling of a situation just by someone appearing to only look at someone. Maybe you caught her eye? Maybe she wanted to see if she could siphon some free drinks? Nobody knows til they put themselves out there for the possibility of rejection.

mooreba2 · 2024-10-01T02:37:44+00:00

If she’s dressed like a slut

BonFemmes · 2024-10-01T16:41:56+00:00

I usually go to clubs with friends to dance. Sometimes its a date. Sometimes not. Its not where I go to pick up a ONS. Doesn't matter how good you look or how good your game is. Sometimes I see the same guy there and chat on several occasions. He might get a virtual phone number. We might have a date there some time.

Title	How are you able to tell at clubs/bars if girl DTF during a convo or looking to go home with someone BEFORE you open?
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Date	October 1, 2024 1:07 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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