Let me tell you a story that will illustrate what it looks like when you have an abundance mentality in dating.

A few days ago I went on a date with a girl from Eastern Europe.

We had spoken briefly on the street only for a few minutes as she was in a rush, so I didn’t have a chance to get to know her quite well.

Right from the beginning of the date I didn’t have a good feeling about her. She seemed arrogant and very uptight, and not really in touch with her emotions. According to her, Barcelona was too chill of a city for her, men were not very ambitious here, and the dating scene here was terrible.

At the same time, she seemed pretty shy, so all of these things made me think she was very insecure about herself.

Those already were some red flags, but she was very physically attractive, so I gave her some leeway.

Then on the way to our 2nd bar she started talking about how she had started working in her company and in 1 year she quadrupled her salary and now she was making more than all of her colleagues combined.

I wanted to make the conversation a bit more playful, so I just made a joke saying - “that’s amazing, you can get the next round of drinks then with your big salary” and smiled at her.

And then she said with a serious face “well, if you only want to be friends, I can get the next round”

She explained how in her mind, if a guy is invested, he will take care of the girl and make her do nothing, including paying for anything.

And at that moment I lost any attraction I had for her. I didn’t even want to sleep with her anymore.

And it wasn’t even the money issue as my initial comment was just a joke.

But if there is one major red flag I don’t tolerate - it’s entitlement. If a girl believes she DESERVES things and special treatment just because she was born a woman (i.e. princess type), I don’t want anything to do with that.

And this girl was entitled on a whole another level.

So I just stopped midway to the bar and told her honestly - “look, I don’t mean to be rude but I really don’t like some of the things you said or the things you believe. And because of it I honestly don’t feel like having a second drink. However, I still appreciate our meeting, and I wish you the best of luck”

And I left.

Most guys in this situation would be pressured to go have a 2nd drink with a girl or even worse - they would get mad, start arguing with her and then be angry at all women in the world, and go to the internet forums to say how all women are gold diggers.

What did I do? Well it was only 21.30, so I had some time to do a few approaches.

And I ran into a lovely Italian tourist girl just half an hour later. 

It was her last day here in Barcelona and she was back on her way to her hotel.

I proposed to have a accompany her on the walk, we chatted for a bit and then sat down next to a fountain in one of the plazas here in the city. She told me that she hadn’t really dated in a while and her last relationship ended very badly.

I had just came up to her out of nowhere in a city full of pick pockets, so naturally she was a bit suspicious. However, I could tell she was into me, so I started to develop more trust and rapport by sharing more stuff about my life and even showed some photos of my travels.

I mentioned we should grab a drink rather than keep sitting at the fountain, and she said she actually had just bought a bottle of wine but she didn’t have glasses. I suggested we could drink them in her hotel room as long as she behaved and kept her hands off me. She thought about it for a little and then said - let’s go.

We went to her hotel, enjoyed the wine, shared a great conversation about our lives and dreams, and then had great sex. And since she was staying in quite a fancy hotel, I also got to shower after in one of the nicest showers I have ever been to.

So the takeaway from this story is this.

After my first date that failed, I could have gone home, be angry at the girl from Eastern Europe and tell all my friends what a shitty date I had. But what’s the point of that?

In 10 min I had already forgotten about her and 30 min later I met another girl that I liked much more.

So when you master the skill set of dating social skills - you really have incredible abundance with women and hence it’s much easier to say no to women that you don’t like no matter how physically attractive they are.

And there are a ton of beautiful, sweet, kind, smart women out there in the world. You just have to find them and have the social skills to attract them.

And if you want to learn these dating social skills in a systematic way - let me know