I hate that I picked up smoking again

jaceq777 · 2024-11-24T05:24:21+00:00

I smoked years back, and after the separation I started vaping. It helps with the stress, but when all is settled and the nerves finally calm down I'll have to do something about it, at least vape less.

Upset_Sky_8485 · 2024-11-21T20:22:21+00:00

Same, broski. 6 years thrown away, and all the stress and anxiety sent me back to the smokes. Thanks, my STBX. Glad the state I'm in doesn't needa 6 month waiting period. "Yeah, pretty sure I want out ASAP." I'm scurrying to get all the financial paperwork filled out, but right after that, IT'S ON! ...then waiting weeks for the lawyers/ court to do their part.

SouthParkTimmy · 2024-11-21T17:06:52+00:00

You are not alone. I picked up vaping and never smoked my whole life. Now it’s hard to stop.

aquatic-dreams · 2024-11-21T08:11:42+00:00

Sorry dude, I've been so tempted to pick it back up. I liked myself more as a smoker, but damn I smoked a lot and it was a bitch to quit. That was twelve years ago. I don't think I could go through the dizzy hell I went through the first time.

I don't know when the empty feeling lasts, I'm going through it too. My guess is that it's because my ass made her my purpose, which was a terrible thing to do, and now I need to find my own purpose and until that happens, I will have that void.

HalfTheMan611 · 2024-11-20T23:07:31+00:00

I picked up vaping during my deep depression from separation and divorce two years ago and have to say it was a huge help. I used to smoke cigarettes 20 years ago, but abstained since. I savoured those moments of enjoying some nicotine from the vape with a cup of coffee or tea. It was part of my ritual sitting and reflecting and trying to make sense of it all. I don't feel any regret or shame from it. The thing now is do I stop two years in? Hehe...

atomicnugget202 · 2024-11-20T18:15:03+00:00

Going through mine sober. It's tough. Grabbing a drink or a smoke would be nice but won't help me bounce out of the peaks and valleys. It just masks it.

But don't be too hard on yourself. Separation -Divorce is stressful, and getting low is tough. You're getting back out to a life that will be post marriage. Just challenge yourself as you have been with working & going out. Challenge yourself to slow down on smoking and then challenge yourself to abstain.

LoveCrispApples · 2024-11-20T18:03:26+00:00

I've always smoked. Now I'm smoking more.

Too_old_3456 · 2024-11-20T16:53:18+00:00

I picked up smoking again too, I really need to stop. Been about six months for me also. Let me know when the empty feeling stops for you. I’ll do the same.

Arislan · 2024-11-20T04:41:30+00:00

Yeah I also took smoking back up. It’s gross but here’s the thing - I keep it to 5 or fewer a day, and it’s less destructive than drinking, drugs and gambling in the short term at least. I quit before so I know I can again, but Christ we are human and sometimes need an outlet aside from gym, meditation, therapy (which I all do).

I am learning to be kind to myself and less hyper critical which has always been a problem for me.

usedbc · 2024-11-20T04:03:52+00:00

Did the same, picked up smoking and used it as a crutch.

Decided last week to ditch them, a week in and feeling better. First few days sucked, but feeling good now. For me, it seems to take around 4 weeks before I'm past the hardest parts, not sure if that is the same for others.

AffectionateAd6060 · 2024-11-20T01:58:43+00:00

"How long does this empty and lost feeling last?" it can last a very long time . . . 3 years it lasted for me. If you have to smoke something please know that vaping (love it or hate it) is miles better than cigarettes. nicotine patches work. zyn works.

Objective-Bug-9205 · 2024-11-20T01:12:13+00:00

At least you're only 29, I'm 38 and it was 11 years. Someone always has it worse though in my experience. Sorry probably doesn't help much, but you get better at living in hell and used to it.

Kitchen_Play_3354 · 2024-11-19T22:29:22+00:00

Started as well. I had a religious marriage so no financial burden but stress yes, especially from all the manipulation I got put through. I got played, hard.

I’m working out, improving my cash flow and making plans for the future. However, I did indeed start smoking. Planning to drop by end of this year. Keep strong brother, step by step.

justAnAccount5432 · 2024-11-19T21:27:02+00:00

I started smoking again too. Quit for a solid ten years before separating. Not great, but still guess it’s true to where I’m at right now

Potential_Item610 · 2024-11-19T21:16:48+00:00

Yeah I’m looking at my packet now after 10yrs off them, divorce hearing 9 Dec then throw them in the bin again.

Ill_Personality_5704 · 2024-11-19T20:38:48+00:00

Hello,

I started off like that too. I picked up cigars. Then dropped them after couple weeks.

Life is going good now. I have found peace in loneliness. However I do need physical touch and a partner to complete me. I am single but actively looking. I date for purpose i.e woman who want a relationship and not just fun.

I was married 12 years. I dont feel like it was wasted. I feel like marriage is complete. I have experience, good mindset. Net neutral energy towards my stbx. I have 3 kids 4th is due in Jan/Feb. (Yes, her pregnancy jacked shit up) I have boundaries now. I wouldn't just marry anyone who I find attractive, that's my least concern. I wouldnt marry anyone who gives me anxiety either. Also my condition would be a prenuptial.

You can get there too.

HousingSignal · 2024-11-19T20:26:33+00:00

Get actual therapy. Part of unhealthy relationships is that you can get dependent feelings pressed on you. You are independent now, and that can be absolutely awesome.

Did you have kids?

Title	I hate that I picked up smoking again
Author	BlindSpoiledPotato
Upvotes	15
Comments	19
Date	November 19, 2024 7:27 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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