Fuck it I’m just gonna approach girls for fun instead of treating it like it’s some kind of big chore

FutureGrassToucher · 2025-02-17T02:36:48+00:00

I go country swing dancing 2-3 times a week. And I try to ask 5 new girls to dance minimum a night. (There are girls I see there all the time that dont count lol) After each dance I try and talk to them. If theres something there, i ask to dance again and try and work on moves (so I can keep getting better), inevitably messing up and making her laugh. The entire time Im physically escalating. The girls that I dont end up trying to game, Ill befriend and theyll come ask me to dance whenever they see me out. Then when I do try and game someone, I’ll dance with the girls I know and the new girl will be like “who is that girl hes dancing with👁️👄👁️”

The drawback is these dancing girls are crazy and all of them have rosters.

But to your point, the dancing and flirting is fun and why I go and if I get a number at the end of the night thats just a plus

bossnas · 2025-02-17T11:24:58+00:00

And you’ll start to realize it’s actually fun to play the numbers game, especially when you start to realize you are getting better at it too. The world becomes your oyster. You get to focus test your approach and conversations a bit to smooth them out and get better over time. And, i repeat, It’s a fun process! The more you can embody that you are having fun while doing so, the more successful you will be. Good luck!

nocturaweb · 2025-02-17T11:23:03+00:00

Going up to them is the success.

No matter which reaction you get you've already won.

It's just a numbers game. At one point success is inevitable.

CoachSlyDating · 2025-02-17T05:14:34+00:00

Your results will increase 100x. Congratulations on figuring out the secret.

WaitingForTheFire · 2025-02-17T19:52:27+00:00

I’ve heard this works very well for some people. Personally, I can approach one or two women per day and then I’m mentally exhausted. I really hate being an introvert with social anxiety.

iROLL24s · 2025-02-17T20:44:24+00:00

My guy, you’re starting to figure it out. Always treat it as fun. Never as a make or break situation. It’s when you don’t care and don’t chase that it comes to you naturally and effortlessly. It’s when we are trying too hard that it doesn’t work out. This is the same in anything. If I get too nervous around people I play guitar shittily lol.. if I relax and let go of the pressure I do fine. Simple as that.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-17T12:00:31+00:00

It's the vicious cycle.

It's fun, when you get results; to get results, you have to inspire good reactions by being fun.

You have to feel how you would want them to feel beforehand, in order to offer something of 'value'.

You get what you give; the energy you put out is the energy you get back. Expecting women to be super enthusiastic about you when your expression is incredibly 'dry', where does that energy come from? Conversely, it's no suprise women are excited about you when you inspire that excitement.

cruz_93-j · 2025-02-17T15:06:44+00:00

Last night I went out and I was saying hi to everyone. I would compliment girls outfits, tell couples they looked good. By the end of the night I was so comfortable just telling everyone hi. No numbers but did spark up like 5ish conversations with beautiful women. Now I just need to work on my closing game.

PrinceDestin · 2025-02-18T13:30:58+00:00

I just started doing this no fear in my heart no fear of rejection just doing it to get my stats up and so far it’s been good results where as before if I had that butterfly feeling in my stomach I was guaranteed to not get no number

Physical-Time4796 · 2025-02-19T17:30:39+00:00

Good. That’s literally the key. You have to get out of your head and “just do it”. Who cares what her response is! And if she says “no” you just take it to the chin. Walk away with your head held high and chest out and get on with it. On to the next!

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-17T11:35:18+00:00

What? Such a novel idea to make meeting women fun and not a chore.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-02-17T19:53:50+00:00

Definitely. Gotta enjoy the process. If your angry all the time and miserable you’ll never have fun

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-02-17T13:08:38+00:00

Yes. Just go where girls are, smile and laugh and you're gold. People complicate things by accepting the terrible takes on this sub and the "pill" media.

2025-02-18T15:34:30+00:00

This is the way.

JarrodDonne · 2025-02-24T21:35:45+00:00

This is the way.

DescriptionFuture851 · 2025-03-16T11:28:45+00:00

That's awesome man, I wish you the best or luck.

However, what about men like myself who dont find it fun, and instead find it a chore/something you have to do?

arcalumis · 2025-02-17T16:01:50+00:00

Fun? What else do you find fun? Doing job interviews for the job you always wanted? Testing for that license you always dreamt about?

Carbo_Fig · 2025-02-17T13:37:49+00:00

Said:If u can flirt with one ….do it with all of em …..trust me thats gonna be damn easy😜

The_Squelched · 2025-02-17T16:14:51+00:00

This is the way.

CommanderBayou · 2025-02-17T17:18:19+00:00

Ideally with enough practice this is what it turns into, approaching girls for fun. I hope to become that as well

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-02-17T13:52:53+00:00

This is the way

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-17T18:51:22+00:00

Those are the Exact last words someone would say before social death.

It always baffles me how guys expect women to just like them because they were born or something. It's a paradox: yes you do deserve women because you're a man, but at the same time you need to grow yourself . Why would a woman be with you just because you're having fun? If you don't know how to present yourself, how to talk, how to flirt, ho to manoeuver things socially, why would she ? Do you really want a woman who would sleep with any guy just because he said hello?

I was in your position last year. After 2 years of trying I almost gave up. But I was lucky to realise my issue wasn't trying, It was trying wrong. Ego is a deadly thing. Also most of the advice you will find on the internet is garbage, especially for daygame. I had to find something else and it finally helped. I finally lost my virginity from daygame after I found the right guidance .

Also, feel free to DM me , I love talking about this stuff!

Title	Fuck it I’m just gonna approach girls for fun instead of treating it like it’s some kind of big chore
Author	Perfect-Highway-6818
Upvotes	321
Comments	50
Date	February 17, 2025 2:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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