Do women actually liked to be approached?

DaygameCode · 2025-02-25T18:45:36+00:00

Yes, but only provided that you do it with respect, are socially aware, look confident doing it, don’t doubt yourself when challenged by her, are clear from the get go about why you approached them, and seek their permission to engage in a conversation.

If you sound apologetic and approval-seeking, if you don’t look confident doing the approach or you show to her one way or the other that deep down you don’t fully believe approaching women like this is fine, women will sense that and will react to your uncertainty than your approach itself.

It’s not that approaching is inherently bad… it’s that if you act like it might be, she’ll assume you’re right.

If you hesitate, seem unsure, or act like you need permission to exist in her space, she’ll feel that energy and mirror it.

But if you approach like it’s the most natural thing in the world, like you have no doubt that this is how two people can meet, she’s far more likely to roll with it.

habbo311 · 2025-02-26T02:08:56+00:00

Yes if you fit into her very selective criteria which is largely based on your social standing of the group or scene she is trying to fit in with .

Example, a wall Street banker wearing a 5000 dollar suit who earns 800,000 a year won't stand a chance with a girl who wants to be part of a punk rock scene and tries to hit on her in a punk rock bar

Rhino3750ss · 2025-02-25T21:02:08+00:00

Women LOVE being approached by a guy who is competent enough to not talk and behave in ways that turn them off.

Most guys just don't act like normal, regardless of how they built their appearance and status...which is why approaching in person grew a negative rap.

I lost count of how many times I watched a guy much more handsome than myself try to talk to a girl only to get the eye roll from hell or brutally dismissed...I am a non Chad yet had no problem talking to those same girls. It's because these guys shifted their emotions and got "giddy" and talked to the girl like she is a cute puppy instead of an equal human being. Go to any place where singles meet and you will see this happen. I strike a vibe that is a balance of positive yet detached. Even if I wasn't a particular girl's type, I at least had a positive convo with no hard feelings and expanded my network.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-25T22:51:30+00:00

If you 'add value', if you make her situation better than if you didn't approach.

If you feel worse than she does (tesne, insecure, hesitant), you just project uncomfortable energy which you obvoiusly wouldn't like. In the same respect that you wouldn't watch amateur content on YouTube, you expect some degree of polish, finesse, presentation which is reliant on you 'uplifting' the mood by going first.

I say this all of the time, you have to relax in general, relax in the vague presence of other people, before you can start talking to people and especially before you start expecting results.

Mean_Bumblebee1945 · 2025-02-25T19:49:03+00:00

They like to get approached by hot guys and get disgusted when getting approached by unattractive guys

ShameAffectionate15 · 2025-02-26T02:43:44+00:00

They crave it. It makes them feel desireablr and makes them feel beautiful. Only angry overweight toxic feminist who are loud on social media says otherwise.

PleaseDontBeTakenPlz · 2025-02-25T21:12:49+00:00

Sometimes. We don’t like being uncomfortable or put in a bad situation. Most girls are “good/nice girls” so rejecting men can feel awful, awkward, or scary.

Sometimes when the situation is low risk or im in a social environment - I LOVE being approached and im pretty sure most women feel this way.

spacemangoes · 2025-02-26T00:06:04+00:00

You lost the moment you give a shit about what they like or not. You are approaching for you. Not for them. You live for you. Not for them. Be a bit more narcissistic. It’s good in small doses. That being said, just don’t be a dick when approaching. Read the cues. If you are unsure what that means, then only approach when you get IOIs.

Mother_Okra_9606 · 2025-02-26T02:41:35+00:00

Yes!

Makakka2002 · 2025-02-26T03:05:35+00:00

Depends on the situation plus the attraction gap can’t be too wide else is considered an insult (he thinks hes in my league) or if other way round you have a hard time giving enough security to avoid self defence mechanism. It’s a long road for you buddy you have tons of aa and this post helps noone but me flexxing a bit thx for the forum and all the best

Netherus · 2025-02-25T19:05:32+00:00

To answer this type of questions, I often like to present hard facts. How many ladies have been cold approached and later developed a romantic relationship with the guy? Tons, right? So, obviously, at least some ladies like it.

Seductive_allure3000 · 2025-02-25T20:55:38+00:00

Yes definitely. You'll often here Women complaining that a guy they liked didn't approach.

Remarkable_Fan6001 · 2025-02-26T11:37:43+00:00

Imo, I feel like most humans like to interact with other people. I'm already introverted, but even when I was at my lowest when I was avoiding talking to people (hoodie, mask, headphones), I was always happy after a good interaction with a random stranger.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-02-26T14:21:36+00:00

most guys have no game so they hate it but they love when a guy has social awareness ! I been using the line hey can i talk to you real quick ( john anthony line since 2017) never got a bad response I have gotten women saying they are talking about serious topics or whatever.. you just say sorry and move on

Known-Student-381 · 2025-02-26T17:30:42+00:00

Generally speaking, yes. Despite the horror stories you see, the average person is flattered to have people show interest up until it becomes inconvenient. Even pretty people can be hooked on the rush of validation from someone less attractive to them.

Think less about getting chosen and more about making your attempt a positive interaction -- the kind that gets bragged about (or even giggled about if you botch) and not the one that causes grimaces and concern when she tells it again.

You're gonna make someone uncomfortable now and again; that's life, and you can't read minds. So long as you're doing your best not to be coercive, and can handle rejection gracefully when it does happen, no sane person can fault you. There will be people who try, because those people always exist, but you get nowhere in life listening to them.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-03T05:38:30+00:00

If it’s done in a genuine way yes they do quite a bit. And it’s nice. For example “hey I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi”. Will almost always be positive and women will like it

Playful_Scale3306 · 2025-02-26T07:42:40+00:00

Yes!!! I’ve been told I’m intimidating and I’m the most down to earth person ever, I wonder if I’m giving off resting bitch face because I’m not hit on nearly enough. It’s fun to see the attempt and joke about it, when it does happen I try to make them laugh and feel comfortable so they can unclench their butthole and not be discouraged from trying it again

VKend · 2025-02-25T18:39:46+00:00

yes that's what they dress up and look cute for.

jackthehat6 · 2025-02-25T20:28:09+00:00

if she is attracted to you/you are her type, then yes.

Keepora · 2025-02-26T06:25:20+00:00

Who cares if they do or not? Ask them out anyways and if they say no move on. Their feelings aren’t your responsibility. If you’re worried they’ll make a big deal then record it from your pocket so you have audio evidence you did nothing wrong if all you did was ask them out. You miss 100% of shots you don’t take brother.

Tovo34 · 2025-02-27T02:33:16+00:00

If you do it well - absolutely yes

Most do it bad

shinn497 · 2025-02-26T01:16:26+00:00

Why do you care ?

Title	Do women actually liked to be approached?
Author	FarFromThere2
Upvotes	22
Comments	54
Date	February 25, 2025 6:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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