On Monday my wife asked for a divorce, I moved out on Tuesday to my friends house to get space.

She asked me today if we are on a timeout or are heading for divorce, below is what she sent me after I asked her what she meant by that statement. In North Carolina we have to wait 12 months of separation to get divorced. I asked her to sign a separation agreement to cover both our interest. She is moving out this week into a place of her own.

“It’s a state of mind thing for me.

Are you moving on in your brain, pursuing new relationships, etc, or are you leaving the door open to come back to us once we’ve both focused on ourselves and reassessed our values?”

It feels like she is trying to control me by getting me to say it’s a timeout so I don’t pursue any other relationships (which frankly it gives me anxiety to deal with another women right now). I told her, we have 12 months, I would like to focus on myself and if along the way, I realize I want to stay together and you moved on, then that is something I must live with. I think setting expectations on someone like that is unhealthy.

1) has anyone dealt with something similar 2) what do ya’ll think about her ask