How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women?

Dinosaurbears · 2025-03-01T15:33:58+00:00

What makes you think you're likely to entice less-conventionally attractive women with this attitude?

Overweight, below-average women will pick up on your lack of genuine interest and be unlikely to accept your offer, especially if you seem resentful of them. Nobody wants to be used, and most people don't enjoy feeling like someone wants to sleep with them as a last resort.

It might be helpful to give that some thought and work on the non-physical things you can improve so you can find someone you're genuinely excited about being with, even if they aren't conventionally beautiful.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-03-01T15:45:41+00:00

A lot of men underestimate how attractive a good haircut, nice clothes, and confident attitude are.

You’ll never be attractive enough because you’ve convinced yourself of that so you’re not going to try

Go outside man. People watch. Average looking men pull attractive women all the time.

Go to the gym. Get a good haircut. Buy nice clothes. Work on your mental health.

Miserable_Yam4778 · 2025-03-01T16:21:05+00:00

Looking at your replies, you could pull a woman who met your exact ideal standards and you would still be unhappy when it turned out that despite being hot she was still just a human being. The dissatisfaction you're experiencing will never be solved by access to a woman, the call is coming from inside the house.

Fuzzherp · 2025-03-01T16:08:57+00:00

Honestly really feel like this is putting the cart before the horse.
I think you need to focus on improving your own happiness. What you are doing currently is clearly not making you secure in your own life and finding a partner or attempting to change your attraction won’t do anything for you at this current moment.
I don’t like most people. I have like two people I like, a bunch of people I think are ok, and the rest I am just like some level of whatever about. That being said, you still have to meet people to find those people. Easier said than done, but it’s the truth unfortunately.
I’ve got depression and a lot of other hangups, and really the only thing that keeps me in a good headspace is being a more active, rather than passive participant in my life. People will say exercise/be social/therapy, and yes those things are good and you should do them, but you also have to find out what drives you personally and that’s going to be driven by your interests. I always do better when I combine that basic gym/therapy/social with shit like painting miniatures, reading or other special interest hobbies instead of looking at my pocket screen from hell.
It’s ok to be attracted to attractive people, but it’s important to understand that there is value beyond that, and that includes seeing that in yourself as well.

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-03-01T17:24:14+00:00

Work on your self worth and self esteem.

You are worth finding a partner YOU find desirable and finds YOU desirable. Like you shouldn't feel you have to date someone you don't find attractive to find love. That's absurd.

thrownawaytodaysr · 2025-03-01T15:57:32+00:00

Have you ever been able to meet women who you might not have been attracted to at the outset from a sexual standpoint whose company you could still enjoy as friends?

Spending a long time around someone can grow your attachment and soften your perspective. Another piece, do you spend time on social media or porn sites staring at women who are more conventionally attractive?

Have you contemplated what, besides appearance, you are actually looking for in a prospective partner? Do these things typically take a back seat to appearance (e.g. are you willing to compromise on intelligence or integrity if it means the person is more attractive, but unwilling to compromise on physical traits to find someone more intelligent or with greater integrity?).

It seems like you are fixated on physical traits and that this serves as the starting point for your attraction. If that's your standard, it seems like you need to do a lot of work on yourself before exploring the idea of being with someone else.

Try to find ways to boost your empathy for others. Try to find the innate value in women as something other than a romantic prospect. Learn to be comfortable with being alone.

sickbabe · 2025-03-01T16:10:09+00:00

do you hear yourself? would you want to be stuck in a conversation with you?

bakewelltart20 · 2025-03-01T16:20:35+00:00

If you're describing them like that, please stay away from women you're not paying.

Just find someone who does it as a job, and pay them.

Dingus1210 · 2025-03-01T20:06:56+00:00

Stop watching so much porn. Stop following the hottest and most promiscuous models on social media. Stop obsessing over women so much. Cut back on masturbating. When guys focus so much on “hot girls” and “getting laid” women pick up on that and it’s cringe af. Maybe then you’ll realize women aren’t sex puppets, and can actually be enjoyable to be around. Then maybe you’ll find someone who YOU find attractive and take it from there. P.s. building a strong genuine connection with someone usually makes them 10X more attractive. There’s a lot more to life than just sex.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2025-03-01T21:00:30+00:00

Actually talk to people. Seriously. Stop assuming a great experience because of an appearance alone. I have met some very hot but very abrasive women. I have met some average but actually pleasant women. Go meet people and get used to humanizing instead of picking templates by attractiveness.

dalen52 · 2025-03-01T16:04:59+00:00

Hey man we all are struggling. Usually it’s best to go live your life, make hobbies, find your passion, and stop wallowing.

Never settle king.

rebrando23 · 2025-03-01T16:07:05+00:00

Very anecdotal from my experiences, but I’ve found that I often get less interest from a overweight women than I do fit women (and that’s as an overweight guy). I think my chubbiness reminds them of their own. I’d say just keep shooting your shot with women you’re genuinely attracted to, because overweight women aren’t so desperate for options (honestly a shitload of dudes prefer thick women) that they’d want a pity fuck from someone not attracted to them.

Toddison_McCray · 2025-03-01T15:27:26+00:00

Do you watch porn?

Puzzleheaded-Fly52 · 2025-03-14T09:45:32+00:00

The same way we force ourselves to be attracted to low status, broke men with no career prospects, no wealth and no prestigious future.

Title	How to make myself attracted to below average overweight women?
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Date	March 1, 2025 2:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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