How do you become comfortable with having more than one girl at once?

GaryOak7 · 2025-04-18T22:41:00+00:00

By getting rid of the ‘shining knight in armor’ mentality.

Why are you trying to save her? You’re getting caught up in the sugar & spice act. The whole “no, she wouldn’t do that” idea.

A lot of men have taken their life over this illusion that most women are angels.

chips_and_hummus · 2025-04-18T22:51:13+00:00

simple, communicate intentions to the people you are seeing and always be honest. don’t lead them on or do things to suggest that you are exclusive.

eventually you’ll hit a point where you either choose to see one person or she will move on because she doesn’t want to be involved with multiple people.

any negative feelings of guilt or anything stem from leading someone on or being dishonest. so just don’t do that and you’ll be fine

soupondaroof · 2025-04-18T22:45:51+00:00

There’s lots of viewpoints, one that many default to is “she’s talking to lots of guys, so you shouldn’t be talking to just one girl”

But also, why is it morally problematic for you? Let’s say you meet two girls in one night, you are interested in them both equally. How are you going to find out which one you’re best matched with? What’s actually wrong with taking them both out?

You could argue that it’s actually morally worse to not do that, as you might end up wasting girl 1’s time for 3 months or longer as she becomes attached and you lose interest, when the whole time you’re better matched with girl number 2.

Get a girl that you’re not serious with, or a female friend, to show you her online dating profile. It’ll blow your mind. You’re not a bad person for exploring options. Real life isn’t a fairy tale sadly. Good luck!

2025-04-19T06:13:41+00:00

Knowing that those same girls have five+ other guys in the line up while being with you.

Khower · 2025-04-19T00:22:08+00:00

Theres tons of girls looking for casual noncommittal things. Non exclusive ect.

It's pretty easy to find girls to complement your lifestyle if you're forthcoming about your lifestyle

Far-End470 · 2025-04-18T23:21:24+00:00

Bro, she was never yours. It was only your turn.

So take a turn on multiple girls. It isn’t that hard to spin 2-3 plates. After that tho, I can’t manage very well and end up dropping one.

Infamous_Anonyman · 2025-04-19T06:45:41+00:00

There are a lot of women.. see it as if you're both applying for a job.

Be clear about your intentions.

Spread your odds.

See yourself as the price. Choose the best candidate if you want a LTR

If they don't ask, don't tell. Assume they're doing the same.

I have been there as well, it's a matter of getting used to knowing and having options.

Don't put women on a pedestal and say stuff you don't mean.

A1Horizon · 2025-04-18T22:47:13+00:00

Introduce them to each other and when the world doesn’t explode you’ll realise you had nothing to be uncomfortable about (the world won’t explode but don’t actually do this)

Refraktr · 2025-04-19T09:23:14+00:00

You’re dating multiple women to see with which one you’ll have a serious and healthy relationship and therefore increasing your chances of that happening by having multiple options and not getting attached to one to quickly before she proved to you that she is worthy. During the process, there’ll be some women with whom you’ll have more chemistry and things seem to flow naturally and others that you need to force things to have a good time because they don’t reciprocate your efforts through the process. Like guy said on an another subreddit: the cream rises to the top. Also, don’t forget, you’re the prize my friend 😉

Sure_Scholar_1061 · 2025-04-19T22:52:45+00:00

Because women talk to multiple guys all the time, you just don’t see it. Open their dms and dozens of guys

I_talk · 2025-04-18T23:05:11+00:00

Tell them upfront you are doing it. If everyone is aware, what's there to feel bad about?

ZEN-AF_Official · 2025-04-19T03:19:09+00:00

Lmfao.... bro so many times when I was in the early stages of seeing a new girl who seemed like a good girl and I felt guilty about talking with other chicks she ended up ending things or she was already seeing other dudes

SensitiveCoconut9003 · 2025-04-19T06:10:11+00:00

Talking stages are non-exclusive as a standard until you have “had that conversation” to be exclusive. It’s implied. What a taking stage achieves is to get to know one another, like a test to see if you can level up together or not. There’s nothing wrong with talking to multiple people at once when you’re dating.

But say you do like 1 person and you see yourself going to the next level (which is exclusively dating) then you have a conversation and decide to become mutually exclusive or to mutually put in effort to see where it goes. Thats the point to let the rest of your talking stages go

Affectionate_Air_596 · 2025-04-19T16:00:28+00:00

Don't do it, date one at a time and see if each one works out

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2025-04-19T21:36:30+00:00

I just dont have the interest in dating multiple women. I have too many other interests and hobbies. For me its binary: 1 or 0 girls

NotPlaneFace · 2025-04-22T23:16:57+00:00

Morals are useless in dating. Who are you trying to impress? Jesus?

- You stop putting women on pedestals.

- You stop dragging yourself down.

- You start having a realistic view of the situation. You have so much time and energy. Can you divide that up for different women while still treating them and yourself with respect?

- You are confident you can drop all other women as soon as things get serious with one

- You are honest and tell the women you are seeing others if they ask. You never share that information without being asked.

- The women should never meet or know each other. There will be drama.

YinMaestro · 2025-04-18T23:21:22+00:00

Practice makes perfect ;)

bannedcanceled · 2025-04-18T23:27:04+00:00

Cause i just wanna fuk em all

saryiahan · 2025-04-18T23:23:43+00:00

By thinking I want to get laid tonight. Which girl in my rotation is DTF.

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-19T01:12:17+00:00

Morals? You are in a sub where most users talk and advice on how to manipulate women into having sex with them. Morals is the last thing people worry about.

If you date several women simultaneously you just split the time and energy you would otherwise spend on one.

stink00 · 2025-04-19T23:25:33+00:00

That’s a dumb question I hope you recover from that corrupted mindset

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-19T00:02:48+00:00

I always see humans better be monogamous social-wise, but only if they’ve spent time for a while. Maybe like a year or 2; then go ahead, follow the steps; getting engaged then getting married.

Now here comes the tricky part: what we should do before those next steps? I would like to see it as you’re slightly more than a friend, but far away from getting engaged or married. So you’re actually close to the “friend” status than to “getting engaged” status. Because of that, like you having multiple friends, then it should be morally okay too to have multiple options.

cinammonbear · 2025-04-19T06:01:09+00:00

How do you become comfortable with only having one girl at once?

Aggravating-Tea-5583 · 2025-04-19T14:19:26+00:00

Don't let the other comments fool you, it is totally normal and isn't something you have to overcome. It's a good thing to feel this way and dont let the other people here fool you.

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Title	How do you become comfortable with having more than one girl at once?
Author	Sure_Scholar_1061
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Date	April 18, 2025 10:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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