Girls (and grown women alike) found guilty of relational aggression, although boys still found to bully physically, in a study done in 1995.

rgbvalue · 2025-05-16T16:40:28+00:00

yeah there was a whole movie about this called Mean Girls.

i don’t think it’s that girls expertly hide their own insecurities so boys can’t see them. it’s more that boys don’t have as much practice in the arena of relational warfare, so find it harder to compete. similarly to how a girl would find it harder to physically bully a boy

84JPG · 2025-05-16T17:32:20+00:00

Bullying between girls, or from girls against boys, is complicated because there’s no culmination point or off-ramp. Women aren’t likely to engage in violence, and boys aren’t going to retaliate against girls through violence.

With boys, there’s always the possibility or danger of escalation into violence. Most boys are aware that if they mess with others they better be ready to engage in violence at some point - so it serves as a deterrent. So even if you are a dick, you most likely avoid being so overtly in the interest of self-preservation.

With girls, the only thing that deters them is the possible loss of status. If you are a dickhead as woman, it’s very unlikely that you’ll have your ass kicked for going around life messing with other people (men or women); at worst you’ll be shamed, but that’s unlikely to happen in environments where said women enjoys a high-status (e.g. most simplistic and clear example is in the school context, the popular girls) as most people will take their side.

There’re still plenty of male bullies, of course, who pick on the weakest, but even then, it’s common for the weak pushover to at some point get tired of it and try to fight back - at which point bullies tend to move on. There’s no similar mechanism for women - there’s little realistic defense, retaliation or escalation against girls or women above one’s status who say the most vile offenses or incite emotional pain.

SnooCats37 · 2025-05-16T16:43:30+00:00

Girls, especially teenage girls are brutally nasty, you say girls and women don’t let their insecurities be known but usually the bullying is a projection of their own insecurities

YetAnotherCommenter · 2025-05-17T03:19:37+00:00

I still remember one particular Mean Girl from Grade 4. I remember what she said and the hateful leer on her face as she said it. And how the (also female and also a heinous bitch) teacher didn't punish her for it.

Women are absolutely able to be just as evil, cruel and vindictive as men are able to be.

ChadChasingBReturns · 2025-05-16T17:25:56+00:00

I definitely experienced more guys spreading rumours about me AND there were assaults including an attempted rape due to those rumours. I experienced nothing like that from other women. Men also engage in the same behaviours. It’s not a gendered thing.

attendquoi · 2025-05-16T16:49:59+00:00

I only experienced bullying in elementary school (my high school had way too many people for it). Between getting bullied physically by the boys and emotionally bullied by the girls, I'd much rather be emotionally bullied.

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_weedkiller_ · 2025-05-17T16:02:46+00:00

These girls don’t only target boys. It’s some sort of fucked up neurotypical bonding ritual I think. They target other girls and women as well, long in to adulthood. There are grown women who engage in “mean girl” behaviour. In professional settings, and any place where women/girls congregate.
I’m autistic which always made me a target.

I would be very interested to hear from the perpetrators of this behaviour. How do they rationalise it? How do they convince themselves it’s okay?

The worst psychological torture I experienced was from men I was in relationships with, but that’s 3 men. Whereas lower level bullying has come from so many different girls/women that I cannot count.

Numerous-File7012 · 2025-05-16T19:15:32+00:00

There’s an excellent Ted talk about this.

https://youtu.be/2j-S06u5lDY?si=M1rYs2tgPPUs_RY0

DashboardPilled · 2025-05-16T17:40:56+00:00

No matter how much feminists try to pretend that women are still oppressed, women and children are still considered a "protected" class. The only way to protect yourself from relational aggression coming from women is to:

- Always agree with women and basically become a status quo supporter of whatever the "current thing" is.

- Go gay or transition to female which makes you part of a "more" protected class so you can always play "the gay" or the "trans" card. I am really speculating here but I think this is why we see an uptick in guys who are transitioning to female because they figure that it's the only way to fit in. There was an incel named Jack Peterson who decided to "go gay" because he realized that getting into gay relationships is easier.

reallinustorvalds · 2025-05-16T19:09:27+00:00

Cool. I don’t take any sociological studies seriously.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-05-16T18:34:11+00:00

Oh, women/girls don’t bully each other, only men, is that right?

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-05-16T21:03:18+00:00

The thing I noticed about my experience being bullied by women, is there is also not as likely to be a sense of malice from it. The men I've been bullied by admitted that the reason they did it was solely because they found my reactions entertaining. Who I was mattered nothing. All that mattered was he was bored and I committed the sin of existing in his presence while he was bored, the punishment for which was bullying. That's also why male bullying doesn't last as long or take as much of his energy: it doesn't mean anything to him.

The women did it because of a big, complicated social mess that basically rounded into them believing that I was bullying one of their friends. I had no intention of harming or bullying anyone, and they saw their bullying me as just "protecting" their friend. So, as far as both of us were concerned, we were the innocent party and the other was the bully.

AnxiousPeggingSlut · 2025-05-16T18:04:42+00:00

I have always felt like it would be better to be hit by a women than emotionally hurt by her.

A bruise will heal in a day. Their words will cut you for a decade.

Like, if you’re really mad at me? Just throw a punch. I won’t hit back. I’ll say sorry. Whatever.

Better that way than the words lol

I’m not joking.

Title	Girls (and grown women alike) found guilty of relational aggression, although boys still found to bully physically, in a study done in 1995.
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Date	May 16, 2025 4:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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