I am really feeling down guys. Lost my home my daughters I have no savings but still gotta pay alimony

GodOfMuayThai · 2025-11-10T21:15:22+00:00

A good lawyer wouldn't let this happen to you. Find another one.

JonathanApple · 2025-11-09T12:26:16+00:00

Bud, welcome to the shittiest club ever, lot of us have been there. Myself included, with a ton of very down days, the system sucks. Pulling for you and here to chat if needed. I was 40 when we split with a daughter. Custody and wasted money have been crushing.

Oh and skip above and go straight to attorney if you haven't. She ain't your wife, she is your mortal enemy and she hates you with a burning passion if willing to pull this shit.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-11-05T05:30:56+00:00

What is one thing you can do today to make your life better? Tomorrow think of another and take charge of your life. Be there for your kids, they deserve to have their father in their lives as much as their mother.
You worry about disrupting their lives? Not having their father in their lives will have a much worse impact if you ask me.

tragicaddiction · 2025-11-04T16:55:35+00:00

Stop the thought you “owe” her or that she will see the sacrifices you make or anyone else will

This guilt you are feeling is being manipulated to make you accept something you shouldn’t, go get a lawyer, stop playing nice guy and get what you deserve

cdjohnny · 2025-11-04T15:33:01+00:00

Do you not have a lawyer? FFS

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-11-04T11:31:17+00:00

Same situation, 7 months in. Ups and downs. Hopefully it gets better.

throwaway_temp_5555 · 2025-11-04T11:28:37+00:00

why not just move to a new country? Live an easier life, be at peace, get a dog, move on from the stress

Temporary_Practice_2 · 2025-11-04T04:30:22+00:00

Hey man! You will be fine. The greatest weapon and defense you have got now is your mind.

Now go and grab Rational Male book by Rollo. You need it

Puzzleheaded-Let-500 · 2025-11-04T03:29:30+00:00

There is absolutly a silver lining. As time goes on you will start to realize more and more all the things your ex didnt do for you. You will realize you dodged a bullet. The signs were there but you were blind. The fact that your marriage ended in divorce is proof of that. You are free now to find real joy, real commitment. Congratulate yourself, love yourself for what youve accomplished in life. You are raising daughters. You are supporting two housholds. Thats increadible! You're free now to do whatever it is you want to do, without her judgements and cruelties. Your time with your daughters is now yours to define. You will have reserves of patience and kindness from your time away from them to be your best self when you are with them. They'll benefit so much from that. Teach those girls how to live strong and happy in hard times. Start being selfish for you and your girls!

PlantainCapital3848 · 2025-11-04T03:11:54+00:00

I may not have much to add but, I am feeling your pain very much. And I pray for your fortune and a new path, if you are open to religion, seek Jesus.

Shoddy_Classic_350 · 2025-11-04T02:56:42+00:00

You need to take a step back and look at the situation from 30,000 feet. Read the ancients, start with Marcus Aurelius. I'm not fucking around.

Get an annotated version. Skip book 1 for your first read.

Factastical · 2025-11-04T02:21:36+00:00

The silver lining is you're free after. You can level up many times between now and then. Stop wallowing. Go and try new things.

GodOfMuayThai · 2025-11-04T01:56:39+00:00

A real lawyer wouldn't let this happen to you.

Nothoughtiname5641 · 2025-11-04T01:31:23+00:00

I'm sorry man. Find a small thing to do for you. Only advice i can give other than a virtual hug! I'm rooting for you!

rowman_nahledge · 2025-11-04T01:13:20+00:00

Dude you sound defeated. Get yo ass up an fight for them kids. Why you laying down? Get a lawyer and fight back we got rights and you can see your kids and split money and the house. Man up dawg cmon

Due-Judgment6004 · 2025-11-04T01:06:59+00:00

All marital finances are split in the divorce, savings and debts…how is she the one holding all the money right now and cutting you off? Did you explain your financial situation to your attorney?

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2025-11-04T01:03:05+00:00

wtf? Keeping it cordial? Why? You don’t have anything else to loose.

Stand up for yourself.

conker574 · 2025-11-04T01:02:19+00:00

The courts favor the women, yes.. but NOWHERE near as much as they used to.

I'd talk to another lawyer, one of your own... tell him you're getting fucked.

You might wanna do a little homework on what the standard is. Only a breif post and one reply, but, I don't think you've really put forth an effort here to protect yourself as a father.

conker574 · 2025-11-04T00:55:13+00:00

Did you talk to a lawyer? Did he explain it all? Did you not fight for custody?

There's hope, but it's like climbing out of a shark tank while having bloody diarrhea. You best find a support system buddy.

Title	I am really feeling down guys. Lost my home my daughters I have no savings but still gotta pay alimony
Author	wise_goat_1
Upvotes	35
Comments	46
Date	November 4, 2025 12:52 AM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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