Dating in 50s - advice needed

Mundane_Buddy3791 · 2025-11-29T12:47:44+00:00

Duolingo for a year, then Tinder in Miraflores Lima or Cali Colombia.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-11-28T13:24:14+00:00

Delete your online dating profiles, take new pictures and restart in a couple weeks. I did that and it took a day to meet a good one

birdguy1000 · 2025-11-27T18:08:05+00:00

Start or join a dad band.

Enigma_Colchonero · 2025-11-27T17:20:14+00:00

If you are financially well off why are you even looking at women your age.

If what you're saying it's true you shouldn't have an issue attracting women who are 37-45.

Im 42.....5'11 175lbs..Workout out 5 times a week.. . I Dress well(old money style)I eat well and I only make 50k/year and have no issues attracting 24-30 year old women.

I don't find Women my age attractive at all. Maybe I'm too shallow

Ok-Cause1108 · 2025-11-27T14:57:09+00:00

Just go about your normal life and don't limit yourself to women of your own age.

I'd keep the women at your gym off limits. Grocery store is full of cute women. When you do your shopping and see one giving you choosing signals go get her number and set a date. It is that easy.

TreyGarcia · 2025-11-27T12:33:59+00:00

I’m not far off from you in many ways. 54, divorced, two kids one still at home, also king-sized at 5’8. (Lol) but gifted with genes that make me look 35, above-average looks and a full head of hair. I live in a city of approx 1m people. I tried the apps, had some success, but absolutely hated it. I did have a girlfriend for 3 years who I met via Bumble, and numerous dates, flings etc. What finally worked was when a good friend set me up with one of her friends and we hit it off spectacularly. All this to say, lean into the relationships that you do have, make it clear what you are looking for and network. If you have multiple others passively looking for your matches, your odds are increased. Matches from friends are gold compared to girls from apps. Good luck my friend!

Gattsama · 2025-11-27T07:41:31+00:00

The biggest issue is geography. If you feel comfortable telling us more about your location, or at least the population density and the sort of people/politics of your area. Also depends a lot on what you're looking for: FWB, companionship, partnership, LTR, intimacy, etc.

There is no shortage of females, they're everywhere. However there is an incredible shortage of "good women" that are fit for a LTR.

A lot of it is simply a numbers game. You have to dig through a lot of shit to find the rocks. A lot of rocks to find the gems. And a lot of gems to find the diamonds. Don't get selective about finding a certain girl, or attraction to a certain girl. Sometimes it's a good idea to just try to aim for asking out 10 girls over the next two weeks. Most will say no, some will say yes, and just continue the process of just going through the numbers game.

A lot of guys over focus on trying to find "the one." She does not exist. There's probably literally hundreds if not thousands of women that could fulfill that role, and rather than spend your time overly investing on trying to find the one. You really sometimes have to just accept the fact that you need to just go out there, make yourself available and just go through the process.

With that in mind, it's incredibly important to know what it is you actually want, what your boundaries are, and to always keep in mind that this is a vetting process. You need to be able to walk away at any time.

You also have to get used to rejection. Rejection is not failure, it just means that at that particular moment in time you got rejected.

I don't know how much of an introvert you are. But if you are, a good exercise to start with is simply to make sure you say hello or good morning to say 10 or 20 women a day. This is not to ask them out, it's just to get used to breaking down your internal anxiety about initiating conversation.

Then it's a good idea to just get used to asking out women, or asking for their phone number. Rejection is going to occur, so accept it and embrace it. Once you get used to the concept, a lot of the anxiety falls off when you realize that it's all internal. It's not really a big deal.

The most successful guys I know aren't necessarily the best looking, have the best resume, or even that nice of a guy. What they do is constantly make themselves available, and constantly ask out women. Again, it's largely a numbers game.

Positive_Rub_6696 · 2025-11-27T05:39:18+00:00

Maybe yoga

FUMoney · 2025-11-27T04:57:53+00:00

See professionals. Not much time left, don't waste it in the total cesspool that is modern dating and dating apps.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-11-27T04:11:03+00:00

It's much harder in rural areas or in small towns or medium sized towns as the dating pool is much smaller unfortunately. Easier in big cities unless you are prepared to travel but still your amount of matches will be limited if they want someone in the same town or close by.

Mangrove43 · 2025-11-27T02:16:56+00:00

Start volunteering. Animal shelters have more women than men. Or another cause

ginogekko · 2025-11-27T01:45:20+00:00

When you say dating pool, which apps? What is the age range you’ve set?

Title	Dating in 50s - advice needed
Author	jayjb25
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Date	November 26, 2025 6:41 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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