As a woman who used to subscribe to feminism, I'm here to say that feminism is an utter lie and it is ruining our generation.

No-Cartographer-476 · 2025-12-02T00:31:04+00:00

Yes. What field did you go into and what made yoy come to these realizations?

Extension-Line-9380 · 2025-12-02T00:42:19+00:00

The issue is that a lot of women choose a STEM or male dominated degree in their “wild party years” in their 20s and so that they feel “empowered” and “independent” but they’re only able to keep up because the social buffer they have in their 20s keeps their jobs from feeling mundane or too stressful, once those women get older and as that party phase era ends and friends start disappearing (as people naturally drift away over time) they slowly realise how major of a screwup their career was because now they’re stuck with it with no social buffer or distractions and that’s their day to day life now

Hefty-Rip-5397 · 2025-12-02T00:54:37+00:00

Very insightful of you to see past the smoke and mirrors. I hope you find happiness and spread your positivity.

Normal_Cow1991 · 2025-12-02T04:50:18+00:00

Here are my two cents: None of us men are "privileged due to the patriarchy". I never consider myself "superior" to any woman I meet in my day to day life.

All these feminist subreddits have examples on how Feminism has helped them, especially those men: Some men who subscribe to this movement say that "They started to see women as people", "And how much respect and recognition women should be given" which is hilarious because does it mean that if it wasn't for feminism this percentile of men viewed women to be inferior? Make it make sense. As hypocritical that question sounds, ask that question and your ass is banned.

I literally have nothing against women in the workforce; my mom is a pharmacist and she earns a good wage because of her knowledge, does that mean her apprentice pharmacist(A lady) should receive the same wage? You know the answer.

My father earns more in the marketing field because of his expertise, he brought profit for his company way more than the lady who was in his position before him; Was it because he is a Man? No, it is because of his efforts and tactics.

I fight MMA (In a small scale), there are currently 7 groups of fighters and only about 3/10 out of everyone are girls/women, and most of them are naturally talented, yet they won't fight in the cage; therefore they(among another group of men) do choreography to represent themselves and as a result they earn a small dough in contrast to the larger payments me and the rest of the fighters get, because we face an inevitable risk.

In the campus; most of the girls outsource their projects, The boys do it too but it is mostly done by the girls to keep their "perfect GPA", All of us were recommended for a factory visit and out of the total of 100 students, only 4 girls came.

The men who subscribe to these feminist beliefs are some of the biggest idiots I've ever come across.

Last-Wave-9844 · 2025-12-02T04:56:47+00:00

Feminists have been waging war against men and men’s rights for ages. The public’s negative perceptions of the men’s rights movement are a reflection of that—they’ve worked hard to smear it while making false claims about how innocent and just feminism is.

Below are a few examples of how malign feminism has been. If you really support equal rights and responsibilities, you can call out and condemn feminists who say and do the things below.

“I’m actually not at all concerned about innocent men losing their jobs over false sexual assault/harassment allegations,” "If some innocent men’s reputations have to take a hit in the process of undoing the patriarchy, that is a price I am absolutely willing to pay." – Emily Lindin

"The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race." - Sally Miller Gearhart

"To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo." - Valerie Solanas

“We are, as a sex, infinitely superior to men. “ – Elizabeth Cady Stanton

“We should stop putting women in jail, for anything. “ - Patricia O'Brien

“Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers.” – Andrea Dworkin

“It is masculinity itself that has become the problem… The problem is not toxic masculinity; it’s that masculinity is toxic… simply not compatible with liberty and justice for all" – Lisa Wade

"Do we need men? Men are useless!" - Hosts of The View, the #1 daytime talk show

“Time is short. Change is needed. And women are smarter than men. And the men can’t complain because they are outnumbered today.” - Michelle Obama

“Despite all the challenges we face, I remained convinced that, yes, the future is female.” And “Women have always been the primary victims of war.” - Hillary Clinton

"Kill all men... the coronavirus isn't killing men fast enough." - Clementine Ford

“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men." ~ Sharon Stone

"I feel that 'man-hating' is an honourable and viable political act.” ~ Robin Morgan

"All men are rapists and that's all they are" ~ Marilyn French

"ALL men keep ALL women in a state of fear" ~ Susan Brownmiller

“So men… Don’t run for office. Don’t be in charge of anything. Step away from the power… We have every right to hate you. You have done us wrong. #BecausePatriarchy.” - Suzanna Danuta Walters

And from many unnamed feminists, we’ve heard these slogans and terms to turn public opinion against men, trivialize the problems that men face, get extra female privilege, avoid accountability, and deflect attention from the harms that feminism causes to men (and the rest of society):

“Misandry doesn’t exist.”

“Misogyny kills; misandry annoys.”

“Not all men, but always a man.”

“Men did it to themselves.”

“Believe all women.”

“Kill all men.”

“Toxic masculinity”, “male violence”, “male rage”, “the patriarchy”, “male entitlement”, “mansplaining”, “male privilege”, “the manosphere”, “manteruption’, “man keeping”, “male fragility”, “man spreading”

Feminists have stolen money from men’s health programs like Movember, shut down domestic violence shelters for men, relentlessly attacked men’s rights organizations, and promoted female-only assistance programs even in areas where women are way ahead.

It’s time to stop pretending feminism is all about equal rights for both genders. It’s a hate movement that lobbies for female privilege.

KalzK · 2025-12-02T01:23:32+00:00

Men make such sacrifices so they can provide for a family. If your goal is to make such sacrifices so you can do without a family, you're already looking at it wrong. A small minority of men have a true selfish drive to be successful for glory and riches.

PrettyBadObsession · 2025-12-02T01:01:05+00:00

This is a positive post. Ignore the trolling from some.

My take is that job entry should provide equal opportunity for all genders. However, what is not equal is the propaganda of pushing women into subjects most aren't naturally interested in.

This creates environments where people not passionate about their careers are stuck with them. I've seen it happen to my female friends now living in regret. The feminist push in certain fieldis toxic for us all.

brainhack3r · 2025-12-02T00:56:29+00:00

I think we need a meme/concept to counter feminism. I'm VERY pro female. I love feminine women. But feminism isn't pro-female. It's more similar to a female supremacy and bigoted anti-men movement.

saiditonredit · 2025-12-02T04:09:23+00:00

Promoting the ideas of equality in terms of education, vocation and overall rights and opportunities is all about choice and having the same options as everyone else, not mandating them. Equality is not about equal outcomes but only equal opportunities, one is no less or more equal for pursing an education and a career that doesn't allow for a traditional marriage and even kids or skipping an education and wanting to be a housewife straight out of high school, if it was all a choice.

Where feminism goes too far is proscribing the idea that women should emulate men and men should behave more feminine. That's where all the problems come from. Pushing these expectations and mandates in the name of oppression is the opposite of liberating and is actually the oppression part. We may have enabled many bad men but now we are overcorrecting and enabling so many bad women. Gender relations and workplace cultures are often ruined because of this idea, and it makes its way into all other aspects of society.

GudduBhaiya-Mirzapur · 2025-12-02T09:33:12+00:00

Deed is done, now watch the world burn.

Joey3155 · 2025-12-02T10:20:33+00:00

If you don't mind me asking what was your watershed moment? What made you change your perspective?

LucyferTheHellish · 2025-12-02T01:07:45+00:00

Much appreciated but maybe you should be telling this to people that don't already know?

MysterVaper · 2025-12-02T00:30:03+00:00

I think there is a healthy and unhealthy version of masculinity and feminism. You make some good points but let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater, there is some need for positive feminism. Same goes for men’s rights.

TraumaJeans · 2025-12-02T09:50:42+00:00

We need something new that unites both, makes both work together, and promotes healthy relationships

AbiesRich1150 · 2025-12-02T14:06:14+00:00

I'm sorry you feel that way about the path you chose. In hindsight, feminism has never been about equality, even though some of its efforts resulted in positive legal outcomes (e.g., equal opportunities in education and employment). What's unfortunate is the narrative that tells women that a career is the ultimate goal of life. I read that you study law. Since you've already spent time and resources pursuing this degree, have you considered teaching? At least your efforts would mean something. Also, it's not as high-pressure as practicing law, and you'll have time to work on your private life. Just food for thought. Good luck, OP.

SupWitCorona · 2025-12-02T05:46:05+00:00

Wait until you hear about how the CIA brought feminism to mainstream. Less time with the family for kids, the state became the parental figures, and they could tax 50% more people by creating a workforce to that didn’t exist before.

Upstairs_Ear4172 · 2025-12-02T08:03:24+00:00

This reads as such a fake post, most likely by a man

BattleFrontire · 2025-12-02T03:03:46+00:00

Men and women are different. Our hormones operate on different cycles and our brains work differently. Women aren't suited for intensely high-pressure environments, and we've pushed them into these environments and told them that choosing that path over a loving and happy family is what is truly fulfilling.

I think it's more that most women and men aren't all that fond of jobs; it's just that having control of your own money is safer than depending on someone else.

swarly1999 · 2025-12-02T11:59:17+00:00

26M, I see this as more of a critique of our hyper capitalist society in which taking accountability for your financial stability is non-negotiable. I had several women in my Undergrad for GeoChem perform well and even better than their male counterparts. More women went on to grad school than the men as well for my year. They displayed more emotions, but I would argue that letting it out and processing it with a friend is better than burying it like most of my male friends did in order to perform. I may be off, but I have a sister that did both and she inspired my entire career tbh. You can take accountability for your independence so you can understand yourself wholly without outside influence and you can be aware and proud of the rights and privileges you were born with that your mother and grandmother did not have. She is an electrical engineer making 6 figs, married a husband that sees her worth and respects her rights and bodily autonomy, and now has two adorable babies just past her 30s. They thrive because of the respect and communication they share. Their fights are never crazy toxic and it always seems they both feel valued in the relationship. They are independent and built themselves up separately so they don't have to rely on each other, but choose each other every single day. Just my 2 cents, it's rough out here

Njaulv · 2025-12-02T16:05:49+00:00

Well said. You pretty much nailed it.

odiegh · 2025-12-02T07:25:20+00:00

Being raised by 2 lesbians I'd say feminism is was hijacked by man hating lesbians trying to turn or who think secretly all women are secretly at least bi.

PastDifficulty7 · 2025-12-02T13:00:44+00:00

In fairness to actual feminists, they were calling out the corporate “boss babe” nonsense over a decade ago. However, our media is aligned with capitalism, and it taught a generation of women that their value was not in raising families, but in building their professional careers. A liberated worldview simply recognizes that women and men have value in and of themselves.

CortexVortex1 · 2025-12-02T06:32:22+00:00

It makes sense to question big ideas when your lived experience doesn’t match them, but your path doesn’t negate others. Plenty of women thrive in careers and plenty thrive in family roles. It’s really about choosing what genuinely fits you.

Superb_Raspberry_208 · 2025-12-02T03:01:28+00:00

I'm glad you realized feminism is wrong, but you shouldn't buy traditional beliefs either. Men and women are not "so different" because of nature, they're simply raised incredibly differently in the world hence their incredibly different problems.

FrequentPotato6116 · 2025-12-02T03:18:30+00:00

This world and the way it functions is not build for a woman to bloom the way she should bloom. The first mistake women did was wanting to change the world which will never be able to be done. Instead of finding ways to adapt, creating jobs specifically for y’all and that could allow y’all to be creative, the smartest you could ever be, you guys came to our world, tried to fit in but it didn’t work. Now they’re full of egos, not wanting to admit that they made a mistake and try to find ways to do what’s best for themselves they’re stuck because they talked too much. When you speak a lot you become a prisoner of your own words and that’s what’s happening now. Now they’re begging men to pay them the same without spending as much ours than us working, give them a chance just because they’re a woman, etc. Men created a world for women to feel safe and protect their family but they wanted out and found themselves trapped, wanting to be saved by the very person they spat on. Although men need that extreme to realize how much of a coward we were sometimes hitting women, treating them as less than human and not listen to them at all. Because not listening to your woman is not smart especially when you recognize the power that god gave the feminine which is most likely their sharped intuition, nurturing power and so much more. It’s about time we go back to masculine men and feminine women and stop stepping on our toes so much

Time-Dot-6608 · 2025-12-02T05:31:14+00:00

Ok. So, I am coming at this from a similar standpoint 20 years on. We can’t blame feminism for making the wrong choices for us. Feminism paved the way for you to have a choice to be able to access these courses, and to have the choice to choose a career and/ or children. You made the choice of what that might want to do, which is great, but now you are in the thick of it and it doesn’t quite look like how you thought it might. And thats ok. We don’t always know what we want, how it will look and what challenges we will chase in the way to get there.

I hard core disagree that women can’t make it in these fields. I’m not saying that for every field, but Law needs both men and women. But it doesn’t look the same for everyone. My first degree was a law/arts degree many years ago, and there were many different types of men and women people in the course- not one of us has followed the same path, used the same opportunity or had the same career tragectory. Some work in the field still, and others don’t. But most have had fulfilling careers. I had kids whilst I was doing the degree, (so add your current course load with a baby and a toddler) and I recognise that I was in the fiery depths of hell for years 3-5. Some had them much later, some of the men had wives to care for them, or partners they shared the load with, and some, perhaps the “pinnacle” of that feminist ideal you envisioned have gone on to do and be all the things-regardless of gender.

Many of my female friends who had their children later, had the advantage of establishing rewarding and often lucrative careers in firms, private and government positions, and then had workplace flexibility to work out options that support their families. Additionally, many of them have well negotiated gender balances within their homes, partnerships and families.

That being said, I think as a parent of young people of your generation, (and I work with many others of your generation) - I think that we have failed you.

Snarleey · 2025-12-02T11:03:36+00:00

Egalitarianism

eluusive · 2025-12-02T06:11:46+00:00

Thanks for "coming out." I'm sorry that this happened to you.

And yeah, men and women are made to support each other in complementary ways.

dale777 · 2025-12-02T15:51:39+00:00

As a men I buld all my friends circle around that idea too. Now I don't consider them as close friends anymore and I feel kinda lonely and lost very often .

Artistic_Alfalfa_860 · 2025-12-02T03:14:39+00:00

Go tell the women that.

Time-Dot-6608 · 2025-12-02T03:49:14+00:00

Interesting. 🤔. Can I ask your age”ish”?

Soulful_Sadist · 2025-12-02T05:31:01+00:00

Well done. Quite right.

It's always beautifully refreshing to see a woman who finally understands the truth behind the principles of genuine Patriarchy, and not the fetishized version or the false boogie-man narrative feminism dishes out. Every lie feminism tells the world, authentic Patriarchy proves it is the solution for and both is and has always been far more pro-woman than most give it credit for.

In a profoundly reciprocal fashion, it's Men taking care of women and women taking care of Men. That's not such an insane proposition when the lies of feminism get revealed for what they are.

Responsible-Plant573 · 2025-12-02T00:53:56+00:00

weekly femimon(feminist+pokemon) occurrence

IndependentDealer134 · 2025-12-02T21:06:38+00:00

The happiest women I have known are the ones who reject feminism and have taken up traditional roles. Women really got duped by feminism, it is so sad. Glad some are waking up.

Title	As a woman who used to subscribe to feminism, I'm here to say that feminism is an utter lie and it is ruining our generation.
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