Is this rape?

Necrotic_Creep_ · 2026-03-23T18:05:31+00:00

Yes. If one person makes it very clear that they do not want to have sex, and the other person, knowing this, persists and does it anyway, it's rape. Regardless of the situation or either party's reasons.

russwriter67 · 2026-03-23T17:03:45+00:00

Yeah, I would say that was SA. He wasn’t really consenting to it in that location.

Hannibal-019 · 2026-03-23T18:41:35+00:00

I am a police officer. You need to check the laws in the country and jurisdiction which it occurred to see what is classified as rape or SA. The definition is NOT universal, the trick is in the details (If he tried to push her off, if he withdrew consent, if he was coerced without force, etc.). In a lot of countries/jurisdictions a female could be charged with raping/SA’ing a male. Force is often not the only qualifier.

shykaliguy · 2026-03-23T17:23:41+00:00

I am not a lawyer but I will tell you this...

Legally this is only sexual assault. Legally a woman cannot rape a man in most jurisdictions around the world. The legal definition of rape is forced penile to vaginal penetration. As a result of this it is legally impossible for a woman to rape a man in most jurisdictions.

Based on this, legally is it rape? No, it's only sexual assault in most places around the world.

OperatorDanger · 2026-03-23T19:08:12+00:00

Yes, gender irrelevant here.

PrettySatyric-al · 2026-03-24T04:48:05+00:00

If this was done to a woman, asking if it was wouldn't be necessary. It's sad that we have to ask "is this rape?" just because it happened to a guy.

rabel111 · 2026-03-24T20:42:10+00:00

No enthusiastic consent. That's rape.

Take those facts to the police, and no doubt the victim would be arrested and charged with something, while his abuser would be offered support and compensation.

Metraxis · 2026-03-23T19:14:13+00:00

There are two questions you ask.

Was it sex? Based on your description, yep.
Was there at least one non-consenting party? Again, based on your description, yep.

Conclusion: Rape. It doesn't matter if he got hard, just like it wouldn't matter if she got lubricated or even had an orgasm in the reverse situation. It also doesn't matter if she eventually badgered/coerced him into a yes when he started out with a no.

UnabsolvedGuilt · 2026-03-23T20:17:16+00:00

Maybe not legally, but colloquially that is def under the umbrella of what we call rape. If ever in that situation and it’s hard for a lot of men to use that word because they are not trying to imply or even accuse their girlfriends of being rapists bc that has the moral loading of violence and malice that may not be present in these coercive situations

It is rape but I wish we had more developed language for this type of rape because the word itself has so much moral loading. I don’t think most people who have been raped by their partners in this way would want them subjected to the same lawful punishments given to the general mental image of violent rape

Pretend-Storm4566 · 2026-03-24T01:57:35+00:00

Yes, that's rape.

Mother_Court4478 · 2026-03-24T17:22:46+00:00

Rape all day.

But of course we can bank on nothing will happen should he file a report.

Try_Again_2495 · 2026-03-24T15:18:24+00:00

Ethically I'd say it is simply because he never consented to sex.

But legally it depends on state jurisdiction, since some may not consider it as so when it's female-on-male, or they say that he would've needed to be penetrated or been made to penetrate.

It's never easy opening up to another person about such an experience, so I hope your friend is doing OK.

EnormousPurpleGarden · 2026-03-24T02:29:36+00:00

Yes. Whether it's legally called "rape," "sexual assault," or something else depends on where your friend lives, but in the common sense of the term, it is absolutely rape.

cheezeter · 2026-03-24T00:15:23+00:00

Women also need to know that no means no. Just because they masturbate us to get an erection doesn't mean that he's wanting it. I've known guys who were asleep. The female is riding him. Sometimes a guy wakes up in time, but sometimes he wakes up just as he ejaculates. Each time the woman says she did it to get pregnant even though he has told her that he didn't want kids at the time. He would be imprisoned if he raped her for a baby.

Time-Dot-6608 · 2026-03-24T10:34:15+00:00

Yes it is rape. In many countries the law reflects this. It would depend on the country and/or state for the individual jurisdiction as to whether or not it would apply. In circumstances like this- regardless of gender- it is difficult to prove , sadly.

However, it is important to be discussed as even on this post, there is a lot of division on what constitutes rape and/ or consent- and having these discussions helps to bring awareness.

United-Time-2653 · 2026-03-24T05:56:30+00:00

Flip the gender would the woman considerit rape?

Any-Basis-3725 · 2026-03-24T07:27:06+00:00

Logically? Yes. Legally? No. Thanks to good ol' feminism.

New-Distribution6033 · 2026-03-23T22:21:07+00:00

Yes.

Assuming that he is strong enough to fight her off, how would that go once the police are involved? He faced systemic violence for reporting being the victim of rape.

He said no.

He did not acquiesce, and say yes.

He said no.

He did not consent.

That is morally rape.

Legally, it depends on jurisdiction and country. Well, unless he was a she, then at least in the Anglosphere it would legally be rape.

(Edited for clarification)

sgt_oddball_17 · 2026-03-23T21:31:56+00:00

Reverse the genders and Feminists would call it rape, but legally and morally it is not, either way.

63daddy · 2026-03-24T03:27:55+00:00

You need to read the laws regarding what constitutes rape for the jurisdiction in question.

bigmothereffind · 2026-03-23T16:56:25+00:00

I guess by today’s standards it is and certainly would have people upset if the genders were reversed. But I’d say get over it. It’s not like it was a stranger forcing their way onto him. He was just uncomfortable about the parents.

dickiedoolie · 2026-03-24T03:36:06+00:00

What the hell is wrong with you people? Hes a man he could just say no and walk away. You dont accidentally get your penis hard and let someone hump it against your will. Good god we are doomed

Broad-Choice-5961 · 2026-03-24T04:10:28+00:00

Did he ejaculate?

S_Mposts · 2026-03-23T23:28:20+00:00

Couldn’t he just walk out the shower?

Title	Is this rape?
Author	chicken_sparse7301
Upvotes	209
Comments	78
Date	March 23, 2026 2:11 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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