How do I get over my fear of approaching women and false SA?

United-Implement-382 · 2026-04-24T02:46:14+00:00

Why do you guys do this to yourself? Most women aren’t just accusing men of SA in the masses. If you get rejected just keep it pushing. The only time that women accuse guys of being thirsty on Social Media is when the guys keep pursuing after they get rejected.

BreakTheWallsDown95 · 2026-04-24T02:58:32+00:00

Don’t overcomplicate it. The odds of you being accused of SA are slim to none.

Approach from the front or side with an observational comment, make your intent clear, and wait for a response.

If you don’t receive a receptive response, it’s going to be okay. Excuse yourself and walk away, don’t be a lemon.

ghrinz · 2026-04-24T01:28:57+00:00

Say it was a dream after the conversation.

thisishoustonover · 2026-04-24T07:31:00+00:00

Never once in my life conversing with a woman has the thought of being accused of SA crossed my mind.... if you behave like a normal person this will never ever be an issue

Trip_seize · 2026-04-24T10:00:45+00:00

There's a woman out there who wants to fuck you. Go find her. Now.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-04-24T05:45:44+00:00

It's extremely rare. If you can take social cues on when to fuck off then you'll be ok. Be a funny approachable, clean dressed guy and you'll be fine.

Matter_Still · 2026-04-24T07:52:46+00:00

There is an element of intrusive thinking in this which would suggest that the rumination about sexual abuse is a way to avoid dealing with the real underlying fear.

That’s what rumination is: a diversion. Find out what’s really frightening you and this obsessive thought will likely vanish.

A1Horizon · 2026-04-24T02:09:45+00:00

The same way you get over your fear of plane crashes, understand it’s a very real possibility, but that odds are low enough that you shouldn’t stop yourself from taking that action

thecomingomen · 2026-04-24T09:35:54+00:00

If your seduction tactics would make a woman accuse you of SA, then you need to work on your game big time

eablokker · 2026-04-24T17:19:44+00:00

My therapist taught me this technique years ago and it works amazingly well.

First get yourself into a relaxed state. Do some meditation or self hypnosis, listen to a relaxation tape, do breathing exercises, whatever you need to do.

While in the relaxed state, write down a list of all the worst case scenarios that can happen if you approach someone. You don't have to describe them, just list them briefly. For each one you write down, picture it happening in your mind. Picture the false SA.

Now after you've written down every bad thing you can think of, we're going to make a list of the best case scenarios. Write down all the best things that could happen if you approach someone. Make a list, and for each one picture it happening in your mind.

That's it! It helps if you start out with a small action. Like if approaching is far too much, then start with just making eye contact, and do your lists about best case/worst case of making eye contact. Or just smiling at someone, or just saying "hi" as you walk past. Start small and work your way up. Do the exercise again for each new tier of difficulty.

The interesting thing about it is that sometimes the worst case scenarios do actually happen, but I wasn't bothered by them because I had rehearsed it in my mind, and my brain decided it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I wasn't accused of SA, but sometimes people don't say "hi" back and it was ok.

IamaThrowAwway · 2026-04-25T16:45:40+00:00

I think you are living too much in a fantasy world and not interacting with the real one. Women aren't standing around plotting and scheming ways to a falsely accused men of SA. That's not reality. There may be one woman out of thousands who is like that but it certainly should not be a thing that you fear to the degree that you are. Consent is an easy thing to check for you simply ask before you do things. And if it feels off and if she seems hesitant then you don't do it. That's how you don't get accused of SA.

What you're reading is likely bullshit and the overwhelming majority of SA accusations are not false.

pondy12 · 2026-04-24T01:40:24+00:00

Unfortunately this is a huge problem in the US now. Thats why dating in America is dead until it changes. I moved to EU and the problem stopped. Women are normal there.

Jack26918 · 2026-04-24T07:30:19+00:00

Avoid women 24 and under.

Title	How do I get over my fear of approaching women and false SA?
Author	Donnie607
Upvotes	7
Comments	41
Date	April 24, 2026 1:25 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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